Pati Patni ke rishtey ki gullakh - Page 5

Originally posted by: Romance_addict

In his jealousy he got so lost that he did not even pick on what all Sai is going through.She shared so many important topics with him today.That along with her studies she is also balancing ghar ka kaam.While doing so she is also gettimg taunted and made fun of at college. She told she is no longer who she used to be and after this marriage she has changed. There were so many things where Virat could have assured her or discussed with her.But no, he was simply stuck in his toxic masculinity and couldnt see anything beyond Aniket.He sidelining Sai's happiness just to feed his ego was a telling.And what is this ranting always 'meri baat nahi manogi". Common man she doesn't has to abide by whatever stupidity you spit on her. No one wants a dictator in their life.

The character sketch which they are giving to Virat is not something I feel connects with what we thought it will be.

Yes he totally let the sharing she was doing, slip. He heard but ignored. More than understanding what she was trying to say, he ended up looking hurt all the more on his ego that people were taunting her for the marriage 😳

I guess we haven't seen layers of Virat's character yet. His actual flaws are being shown now -- how he can do anything for anyone else but in the process when he is actually feeling the emotions himself and has an expectation from the wife he is not able to communicate. AT the end, it should have growth.

Originally posted by: anjali0111

Today virat was that typical male chauvinist dominating husband😆 and what surprised me was that I totally loved him🤣

That haq jatana, patni ki responsibilities yaad dilana, patni ko kisi kaam ki permission dena/ na dena...all this ...I know in long run establish him as a product of toxic masculinity but for today I just loved him...he was so in husband mode🤣

You did? 😆I liked the portrayal and even his reason but I felt sorry for him. Can't say 'liked' but I felt empathy for both of them

On the serious note I wonder whether patriarchy runs so deep in our life that all these things (husband a haq jatana, to hold that authoritative position in wife's life, to grant permissions, to be extra alert about other males in her life, to expect that she will do his biddings) which should actually bother a woman, is liked and even seeked by women.

These questions are so interesting! Of course, we are a patriarchal society and women are the ones who enforce patriarchy more than men. Unfortunately, most women have been conditioned to believe that they have to "submit" to their husbands. Most of the religious texts also say that calling it the word from God. So, women don't see a problem with it because a man is seen as the provider -- of shelter, protection and needs. It automatically becomes a woman's responsibility to serve and obey. But it can be healthy or unhealthy depending on the value system on which the boundaries are based. It should ideally apply to both but in many cases applies only to the woman.

Men will say that they care for their women and hence behave like this. The protectiveness and responsibility comes natural to them but this is the thing...patriarchy over the generations of existence have assigned men and women certain roles and the society expects them to follow that without questioning.

I am okay with the fact that his jealousy comes from his confusion but I wish he deals with it better rather than converting it into a toxic do's and don't list for the deal-wali wife.

Anyways scrap the patriarchy debate....I loved this jealous pati virat🤣🤣

Originally posted by: preethik

Lovely analysis Janki.

I was disappointed with today’s episode. Hoping for a light romantic episode. My mistake.

Sai was so excited. After months of taunts somebody is actually appreciating her for her talents. She has been harassed so much that she doesn’t even consider his room as hers. No wonder she gave him a half hearted invite for her dance apprehensive that he might reject it. He got so offended! Things just went downhill & the worst thing he could, in my opinion, to both ladies was to call out for Pakhi. How humiliating it is for Sai. I am also of the firm belief that no 3rd person should interfere when couple are fighting. Wasn’t this what he wanted when he was arguing with Sai & he asked bua to butt out!

Now Pakhi will feel important & Sai will sink into her self defense mode even more.

I understood some of his jealousy in Amays case as she was flirting with him. Here she even confirmed she didn’t know how he looked but just danced. What was there to get so jealous of? He’s supposed to be a mature adult. Next will he suspect her of having an affair with the prof? Absolutely unhealthy.

With the horror of a precap I really am not looking forward to Monday!

That's what we have to see now.. is it toxic or not. But the chance of it becoming toxic is high if not addressed in time.

Nice analysis. I loved today's episode and I don't remember when was the last time we got the entire episode dedicated to Sairat. I have no complaints against Sai or Virat, both are behaving This way because of one common reason..insecurity.

We have a new jalebi maker in town.. Sai Joshi. Here are few Jalebis prepared by her today.

This room doesn't belong to me.

I have right over your things and I won't stop using your slippers.

You are free to flirt with any girl you like

You applied ice to your bade Bhai ki biwi immediately whereas for me you took extra x mins to find an ice pack

Ours is a deal marriage

I have every right to take care of your needs.

Can you come to the fresher's party to watch my performance

I Dont think you will have time and you may not be interested in my dance. .

I have a question no offense meant. Are we took quick to judge a man and blame it on the patriarchal mindset.

1.He asked about slippers because he couldn't find them. Was he trying to prove a point .No, it's common practice to ask people if we cannot find what we are looking for.

2.Stopping her from participating in the dance competition - Did he stop her as her husband or was he voicing out his option because of his insecurity . If he wanted to stop her he would not have accepted her decisions so easily. If he wanted to control her he would have restricted her moments in the beginning. Isn't he the one who fought against his family's old traditions to let her study? Did he not realize the college is co-ed when he enrolled her.

Let's say there was a role reversal would we judge the women the same way. Is he trying to control her because he is her husband and believes women should toe the line or are these actions of an insecure man who is unsure of his feelings and his position in his wife's life.

Originally posted by: ALUJNA21

Janki you write and analyse so well with your POV always better than anyone .👏🥳

The part i like and was funny

The problem is that Virat wants Sai to verbalise first -- in words or in her actions as a 'wife'. "Tum kapde theek se nahi rakh sakti" (btw😐 why should she do it) and she had to walk up to the cupboard while he stood there watching the clothes lie on the floor, followed by "meri chappal Kahan hai?" (We've a bagful for you here, Chavan Saheb 🤣)🤣🤣🤣🤣

His suddenly changed attitude and started screaming like an insane person, the unexpected, change look on Sai's face as she never saw him like that before the poor girl was shocked.

Pakhi must be thinking Virat is calling for her but no he's calling for the waitress of the house as she's the one to serve tea and food to everyone.

Bus Pakhi apne waitress hone ki dehleez paar na kare fingers crossed

Originally posted by: yyyy

Nice analysis. I loved today's episode and I don't remember when was the last time we got the entire episode dedicated to Sairat. I have no complaints against Sai or Virat, both are behaving This way because of one common reason..insecurity.

We have a new jalebi maker in town.. Sai Joshi. Here are few Jalebis prepared by her today.

This room doesn't belong to me.

I have right over your things and I won't stop using your slippers.

You are free to flirt with any girl you like

You applied ice to your bade Bhai ki biwi immediately whereas for me you took extra x mins to find an ice pack

Ours is a deal marriage

I have every right to take care of your needs.

Can you come to the fresher's party to watch my performance

I Dont think you will have time and you may not be interested in my dance. .

Sangat Ka asar. Confusion is contagious as is the want for validation 😆

I have a question no offense meant. Are we took quick to judge a man and blame it on the patriarchal mindset.

1.He asked about slippers because he couldn't find them. Was he trying to prove a point .No, it's common practice to ask people if we cannot find what we are looking for.

That wasn't patriarchal. It was sweet and in husband wife moment.

2.Stopping her from participating in the dance competition - Did he stop her as her husband or was he voicing out his option because of his insecurity . If he wanted to stop her he would not have accepted her decisions so easily. If he wanted to control her he would have restricted her moments in the beginning. Isn't he the one who fought against his family's old traditions to let her study? Did he not realize the college is co-ed when he enrolled her.

I don't think he even knows he's being patriarchal and I said in some replies above that he's not doing it by design. But his instant reaction to something when he cannot figure or confront his own fear is to throw it back at her as a challenge or diktat. He's not doing it because he is patriarchal but there is no denying that his dislike for some things come from what he's been taught to believe.

@bold: exactly. His insecurity is due to his emotion for Sai and not patriarchy but his reaction comes from the way he has been conditioned. Unfortunately he's dealing with this emotion for the first time and he needs to get a better hang of it.

I agree with you but I think he was an unsecure husband stopping her. He wouldn't be insecure for the reasons he was trying to find out about Aniket if he wasn't her husband.

Let's say there was a role reversal would we judge the women the same way. Is he trying to control her because he is her husband and believes women should toe the line or are these actions of an insecure man who is unsure of his feelings and his position in his wife's life.

But isn't he in this position of insecurity because he is a husband with confused feelings only beginning to realise that he is the husband? He's not trying to enforce his husband right as a man with any malice or superiority complex -- but he is doing and feeling so because he is the husband who doesn't want his wife's attention to deviate from him even a bit... New found feelings... the result, however, is that he can only think of stopping her from doing something that is bothering him because he cannot find his grip.

And I find, somewhere, it is based in the mindset of male dominance. The sheer fact that she should be okay with his pyaar- dosti but he can go bonkers over her acquaintance-batchmate.

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

I don't find his jealousy or his lack of control over his emotions to be off-putting. They are a natural progression of his overgrown sense of responsibility, decorum and guilt.

Yes, he's shown little germs of male-centrism before which were residual part of his upbringing. It was his withdrawal of validation that pissed me off because it was cruel. He might have ways to process his emotions but 'Virat' does not need to be cruel either.

It was a serious breach of code to call for Pakhi, but it was also very funny? I think Sai registered it as a tantrum and got down to business asap.

Awesome post by you, Janki! 🤗❤️

Originally posted by: jane_austen

You never disappoint👏🏾! If you did not give your daily analysis, I am sure I would have jumped into the tv screen and killed Virat😅. While it is fascinating to decipher such complex characters, most girls will run 180 degrees away from such a confused man. Which makes me wonder ...... Why does a confident, assertive , free-spirited girl like Sai find him so irresistible??🤔

Borrowing Chavan Saheb's dialogue: main chane ke jhaad par chadh gayi hoon 😆

@bold: you'll be surprised to know many independent, confident, assertive and free spirited women like men with flaws and grey shades. Don't want to generalise but it is a fact. Because men like him come across as the 'alpha'. Women find it very attractive. Not all of them are toxic but some are.

I would like to believe Virat won't be shown as one either. He's just confused. He will get to the right place in her heart soon 💖