Pati Patni ke rishtey ki gullakh - Page 4

Originally posted by: raji02

Was eagerly waiting for your post janki. how sad it is for virat who is already crossing the boundaries set by himself in this deal wali shaadi that your wife doesn’t consider your room as hers let alone your home. What have you actually done to reassure her of her place in your life or room that she feels like a third person in her own relationship.

When she uttered that line, I felt a pang. She has never said it before but today she did because he has made it seem like that with his silence when the serpent slid in the other day. It is still her room but once he is there, it is his and he can decide who should stay and who shouldn't. Of course, it hurt her to see that 'Bade bhai ki wife' was still in the room with him and trying to feed him instead of him having asked her to leave the moment Sai left, if not before that. But the problem is the words sting him but he does nothing about changing the feeling she is communicating.

What started as a cute jealousy on behalf of both has crossed all heights with virat’s insecurity. virat are you really so mean that you cannot see beyond your own insecurities to see what the young girl/woman in front of you is going through? her talks about how she has changed after coming to your house and not feeling like participating in the competition , or her being ridiculed in college for being married at such a young age clearly reflects the impact the toxic environment is having on her young soul. instead of reassuring her you are so absorbed in your own feelings.

i actually have a different take on sai bringing up pakhi during dinner. i don’t think she meant it as a taunt. she genuinely feels she doesn’t have any right to care about virat. i felt like she was genuinely asking if she should bring him dinner or his best friend will as usual. but our chavaan saab as usual have to act so maturely that he is inviting the third person between them.

I agree with you about the fact that she feels PP Didi has more right in that matter-- she genuinely feels that way and she actually doesn't want to come in the way because he has not made it clear. And any small indication of things immediately gets reversed for Sai with one more action/silence when it comes to PP Didi. But I still feel it was a taunt. She added, "If i don't care about your dinner, who else will? Didi?" But she knew the answer and she could have avoided it. She could have simply said, "I am getting your dinner". So, that part, I don't want to give her a benefit of doubt. She did it deliberately and she did not expect he would do what he did. He's really going crazy with these emotions.

i feel both of them are in different planes of their relationship. virat has started getting attracted to her whereas she is still in the stage of attachment. she feels bad that he gives more importance to pakhi than her but not in a romantic sense is what i felt.

Yes that is right. The first time she gave him those silent "my husband" looks was when he was applying ice to PP Didi. She wasn't even feeling that jealous when she saw PP holding out the morsel to Virat. That was hurt. But Virat is attracted and almost on the threshold of 'desire'. Sai is a bit lagging because she is the one who remembers the "vaadas". Our man has already eaten the vaadas and digested them too. He's on to the sweet dish

i wish our chavaan saab -what with already been in love once understands his feelings and reassure sai of her place in his life or our dew drop will finish her education and find the much deserved love elsewhere and leave you to your vahini .

You really think he's been in love? I don't think he has been in love. That is why he cannot make any sense of what he is feeling. He's scattered. so far, he has only been "attracted/infatuated" and thought it was 'love' because that is what people generally think love is. But it is a process and a painful one too. So, he's not able to make out what he is feeling and why. He is only acting out of his sense of entitlement over the 'wife'

Originally posted by: ALUJNA21

Janki you write and analyse so well with your POV always better than anyone .👏🥳

The part i like and was funny

The problem is that Virat wants Sai to verbalise first -- in words or in her actions as a 'wife'. "Tum kapde theek se nahi rakh sakti" (btw😐 why should she do it) and she had to walk up to the cupboard while he stood there watching the clothes lie on the floor, followed by "meri chappal Kahan hai?" (We've a bagful for you here, Chavan Saheb 🤣)🤣🤣🤣🤣

His suddenly changed attitude and started screaming like an insane person, the unexpected, change look on Sai's face as she never saw him like that before the poor girl was shocked.

Poor girl. She did not expect he would do this to her sharing joy with him! That's exactly how he behaved the day she was excited about the results. I don't know how will he make up for this.

Pakhi must be thinking Virat is calling for her but no he's calling for the waitress of the house as she's the one to serve tea and food to everyone.

Room service on call 🤣

Thank you dear Anju 🤗❤️ And, I just love the perspectives we share. What a vast dissection of these emotions we make here 😆 It's so much fun and so much laughter!!

Chappals - Oh we do have a bagful here. There is no doubt na 🤣🤣 Chappals with heels. We are giving him so much time to mend his act. The day the mahila morcha loses it, he will get chappals to last him his whole life 🤣

Originally posted by: XxSicMNDVSxX

I am kinda annoyed with Virat

Sai and him need to have a heart to heart!

But before that Virat should himself sit and THINK , contemplate and take a stance.
Kitna confused hai ye
I just said that too. He needs to talk to himself. Even if it doesn't bring him out of the maze he has created, it will at least allow him to do some kind of damage control to his own mind and stop inflicting that pain on that dewdrop with his extreme reactions to petty things.

Originally posted by: prs_725

Can I be negative for a second and vent here?

Arrey toh aur kis liye hai ye discussion? 😆 Please do.

The man who regards his brothers wife as his brothers wife ..Why call on her to give you food?? Despite knowing the equation the three share? Is he that blind to not see that Pakhi the name, the mere existence of her has an impact on Sai and his relationship w her?

But he does behave like he's blind. I have no problem with his inability to deal with his emotion despite claiming to be "machoor" but what I want to see is that he should at least think from the point of view of justice. Sai can't have any man in her periphery? Not even in a joke? And he is a man who has pledged his heart to a 1.47hour wali love story (background sound: been bajane wali naagin, naagin, naagin 😆)

Jiska dar tha wohi hua .. his jealousy of Aniket will drive him to do and say non sensical things and cling to Pakhi just to get Sai riled up or himself calm in the process distancing each other even more and causing more MUs. This isn’t the Virat that was promised to us in the beginning of Ghum.
sorry rant over ..

Bas itna hi? 😆

should I watch this weeks episodes? 😆

Of course do.

If we were to summarize any relationship progress this week, what would we say?

Asman se tapke, Khajoor pe atke ...thoda sa gire but phir bhi atke (from Sai's pov; Virat ka toh pata nahi kaunsa nasha karte hain🤣 )

amazing analysis as always Janki ❤️ much much love and God Bless!

God's blessings back to you ❤️

Even I was surprised at his "dance mein participate karne ki koi zarurat nahi hai" statement but I think it was just him acting out of his character bcoz of jealousy just like "tum badtameez ho" wala statement... jealousy always gets better of him obviously bcoz of their "unsure" relationship of hubby-wifey(specially from his side😕) The difference here is that the Amay wala jealousy was way too serious even if it was a fake one bcoz he actually saw her talking to him and here it is toh reality....don't know how he is gonna control himself further

Overall a cutesy episode😳with "jealousy" being the highlight..and no need to say about your post...its an awesome one just like usual👏

Originally posted by: Bluegrass

Hi! Hope you're well.

I was more than annoyed with the episode. It was an objectively good episode, surely. Brought out all the emotions to the front. But, copy-pasting Ronno's lines lead to caustic character breaks in Virat.

Yes, it was objectively a good episode. I have stopped thinking about the other two versions since they inserted those deliberate scenes to show his loyalty to his marriage while still being confused. I am now only viewing this show, so I would say that this is the peeling of layers of Virat - his flaws. He is not immune to them. He might be a soft-hearted person but he is like many other men, who feel ownership over the woman they marry/fend for. So, I wouldn't mind it if it would eventually lead to growth. Every human being transgresses. We got a golden side of him so far and we liked it. Now, we are seeing another side of him -- it's left to be seen whether it can be likeable but I believe that since his inherent value system is very upright, he will redeem himself eventually.

I didn't mind his jealousy till he asked Sai to stop dancing. (I think the lack of reassurance was undercut by the utter domesticity of the slippers scene but then he'd had to ask her to stop dancing 😡.)

Yes, I saw a chauvinist in that scene. He was being one, knowingly. He didn't say it in a joke. He was actually serious. I am sure he will regret it when he cools down because he has been shown as a dancer and fun loving person himself and he does care about Sai's happiness. He needs to get a grip on his mind.

I think the trigger wasn't "Aniket" as much as the fact that he could make Sai lose her inhibitions much like the bonfire which triggered Pakhi Didi's true love.

Oh I like how you put that one. True, i think the "mantramugdh" word was too much to handle. His "Wah, aisa bhi kya gaaya ki tumhari na ko haan mein badal diya?" was coming from such a deep seated insecurity and male complex. The dialogues were spot on for a change. He has experienced this mantramugdh dancing on his djembe (no matter how funny it was) and for him to accept that another man got his 'wife' to do it BEFORE he could even find out that she could dance, let alone getting a chance to do it to her? 🤔

But, the fact that he couldn't prioritize her happiness over his petulant jealousy is so beyond me. More so when he knew that Sai was unfettered in her happiness for the first time in months. That he did not refocus on the way Sai was bullied is also a jarring break. It was almost as if he could rescind his validation whenever he felt threatened. What a toxic way to deal with their insecurities!

Yes, I could see he was being a product of Chavan niwas. It is not possible that he has not imbibed any bit of it. Thoda sa toh asar hota hai and in some previous dialogues, he has given a tiny glimpse of his thoughts but we haven't blown it up because the larger fight was about his "Strong stand". Like "acchi bahu", "Sasuraal ladki ka asli ghar", "ghar ka kaam karna zimmedari" pravachans. That is general. Obviously, as they come closer, there will be some "expectations" from Sai as a 'wife' and it is interesting to see the greys.

I do not even want to talk about the shouting because I have nothing to add. I am furious because no matter how well Neil acted in the scene— despite all the empathy he garnered in that— I just felt like throwing the maturity lecture back at him. What toxic patriarchy.

Virat has to be the one moulding this relationship with love and patience since he has the most number of expectations and baggage.

I agree. But I like how they are actually showing is flaws. Now only if it leads to something worth this endurance to watch through

All the chappals to Virat and the CVs.

Originally posted by: jankiraghav

Thank you dear Anju 🤗❤️ And, I just love the perspectives we share. What a vast dissection of these emotions we make here 😆 It's so much fun and so much laughter!!

Chappals - Oh we do have a bagful here. There is no doubt na 🤣🤣 Chappals with heels. We are giving him so much time to mend his act. The day the mahila morcha loses it, he will get chappals to last him his whole life 🤣

After watching the last part several times i understood he wanted to make Sai understand that she needs to bring food for him and not Pakhi.

I'm right...We can't judge only his words but Virat actions while he was talking about Khet also is very much counted.

The creaky voice....when he was calling Pakhi...Pakhi you don't have the right to sleep you are 24/7 on call...as the kitchen is also open.😆

Love your posts Janaki...especially the dedication and energy that you ooze through them... have not been a regular visitor on IF but am enjoying being ghum in this forum 😂

TBH, I feel CVs are butchering Virat's character to give some space to Pakhi's. Virat at GC came across as a really matured person with thanda dimag. there Sai was immature and badtameez in many ways and Virat showed his maturity. He had all the rights to be rude to her when she was poking her nose in official matters and was being rude to him, also interfering in his personal space by asking about Pakhi...

But coming to Nagpur, there is complete role reversals. Virat's maturity has vanished. Is it the effect of his proximity with pakhi didi 😂 😂

I still hold grudges for his behaviour towards his mom and also for keeping mum on Pakhi's obnoxious questions on his marriage especially when Sai was present....

But today I think more damage is done...Sai telling him in spasht shabd that she does not even consider the room as her own...how much unwelcomed she must be feeling...Virat had to address that issue. It was REQUIRED...us waqt tak to jealousy ka angle bhi nahi aaya tha...she had told earlier too..ki ghar mein use koi pasand nahi hai and na hi koi apna hai...Even as a friend/mentor he had to give that assurance to her today when she had brought up that topic..She is so lonely in this big bad world!!!

also, Virat came as a MCP today when he told her not to dance, called her to pick up clothes when he was there....and especially the calling Pakhi...This action was totally uncalled for..he is humiliating Sai..he has already done a lot of damage and is adding onto it...

I feel CVs have messed up the beautiful character of Virat....

Loved the episode as much as analysis. ❤️These navra baiko 🤗🤣(are 🧡)

Originally posted by: sukri

Amazing analysis as always Janki Your profile for both Virat and Sai is on point.

🤗❤️ and i am now waiting to read yours below.

I don't know if we should classify what they had today as nok-jok between husband wife or not.

However I think, just like all their previous fights and outbursts, this will also be swept under the rug without proper closure or growth.

It was a nok-jhonk that turned into an ego clash and a bruised male ego retaliating. I wish it isn't swept under the rug. But I feel there will be a few more such conversations gone wrong and then there will be something major which will help them "scream" at one another once and for all to bring closure and move ahead... or it could also be Sai's silence that will make him speak. At this point, I have erased memories of the story i saw in the other two versions because I want to enjoy this one so I am just speaking from the unpredictability of what creativity will be shown. But I am allowing it to unfold.

I was hoping for a comical episode today, but it just went downhill very fast even if it had few cute moments in between. At the end of the episode, I was very sad for Sai because he knowingly called out to Pakhi thereby humiliating Sai again.

It actually happens in fights between spouses. You begin a conversation that would seem like it's heading for intimate ballroom dance and the next you know is that you are in an akhada! 😵 And when you cool down you can't figure out what was the trigger word and how did it end up in a pile of dust! And yes, that last call out to PP Didi was so nasty. I am sure he's going to regret it within minutes (I really hope so) because he didn't mean it that way but the damage is already done. I think this is why we have that dreaded visit to the nagin cave coming up (Chappals are stocked)

It has already happened few times this week, where she has seen her bring food and for all that she knows Pakhi even fed him with her own hands. I don't see the last bits of Sai asking Virat as a taunt, but as an actual to the face question. Should she get the food or if Pakhi will get food for him as usual.

To me it sounded like a taunt -- not to provoke him or anything but just to pull his leg may be... of course, she knows he wasn't waiting for PP. but she had already figured out he was jealous and she reminded him of PP purposely. She even said, "Main nahi karungi toh kaun karega?" She did not expect him to go mad.

Virat by shouting not only humiliated Sai, but indirectly Pakhi too. He better apologize to Pakhi before she gets any more ideas about barging into the room again.

Yes, i agree. And he's forever ready to apologise to Didi anyway so your wish will come true, and it also explains why Ashwini will be there 😆

Sai opened up a lot today about being teased in college for being married, not able to pursue her hobbies likes dancing and listening to songs or even not having confidence to participate in dance competition which she has been doing since years.. Did he listen and process any of it? It did look like he was angry when he heard of her being teased for being married, but the green monster didnt let him think from her point of view at all.

He did hear but he wasn't picking up those points for discussion because he couldn't get over the fact that someone else did a FIRST jaadu on Sai, before he could. Hear his dialogues before he went crazy and after he heard "mantramugdh" 🤣

She gives him hints again and again about how she doesn't feel its her room or even home, but by claiming his items as hers, she also hints whats she wants, but this idiot doesn't understand anything.

The room part she said only today... and it was very deep. It was the hurt from the night when she had to leave the room because he was silent after the serpent came in... Like she told PP, "Aapke shabdon ki jalan abhi tak hai". Why do they say we must choose words and silences very carefully? Because they are not just remembered but re-lived by the receiver.

Imagine fighting his family during day and him at night. This is the reason why I want her to go to hostel on her own with self respect intact instead of being thrown out by Chavans and Virat at the end of Devi track, but I know I will be up for disappointment

They need a time off from each other. I don't know how they are planning to show that separation but I think they would want to preserve him from being portrayed as a man who threw out his wife. I do think so...

Their every conversation ends in a fight. Virat who has patience while dealing with others always seems to lose it when it comes to Sai. He wants her to understand everything without him having to spell it out.

Every husband expects that from the wife. And the most favourite sentence is, "You won't understand". Tell me if i am wrong 🤣 But anyway, in this case, the man has not yet told her that he is also expecting wife-like understanding from her. Do they even remember they called themselves each other's Pati Patni the other day?😆

Looks like Sai eventually figured out the reason by end of the episode and asked him the right question. Will he answer is honestly or will he blast her and run to Pakhi didi.

She already asked na and he started screaming for PP didi and may even run out of the room and find the maroon nighty mannequin outside the room 😆

Though I see Sai-Virat conversation continue on Monday, I am dreading Pakhi-Virat scene.

For our sake, I hope its just an insta pic and nothing to do with an actual scene.

The scene might well be there... Let's wait for it to play out. Chappals hain na apne paas, bas!

By the way did I miss the round up dialogue to see Aniket kya cheez hain or is it still to air?

It din't air. May be he will say that when he comes back to his senses and says sorry. Will he? Now a days he doesn't say sorry to her unless it's on behalf of his chakram family