Originally posted by: athai
I think Kabeer was always meant to make an attempt to clip Zaara's wings. He is conservative, is very concerned about how people perceive him and his family, is a very obedient son and tries fo be a reaponsible person. His wife could be Zaara, Rukhsar or anyone else and he would have behaved in exactly the same way. It is not about love or even about relationship, it is about his focus. Marriage is just another thing he agreed to and got into because his father wanted it. From the very beginning we have noticed him crave for his father's approval and although he doesn't agree to all his father's action, he plays along with all showing his submissiveness towards his father as well as easy going nature. That easy going nature can be seen when he lets Zaara shower him with love: he just lets her have her way. But only as long as he doesn't feel his values threatened by her. He has been very particular about burkha from the very first episode and continues being so but he did not once ask Zaara to change her attire after marriage. Zaara did what she did for him because she chose to do it. But when he will be judged by others of his fraternity for the clothes of his wife which he also believes deep down that she should adhere to, that is when he reacts. He may want Zaara to stay at home because that is what he believes from the values instilled in him but I think he would have accomodated here as well if he didn't feel threatened. He feels her presence validates Rukhsar's statement. People may say that he should realize that it is true and he got his position because of Zaara but he kept on telling his father that he will become Qazi and fulfill his wish whether he got married to Zaara or not which shows that he wanted to earn that position. It is like the Mehr amount, something that is in his conscious and Zaara will unknowingly be the one to suffer because of this until and unless Kabeer realizes his mistake or feels confident that he has earned the position he achieved.
For me, Kabeer is a complex character because he is very reserved but he is a very human character because the issues he has are very prevalent in our society. How Zaara handles it and how he learns to bring changes within his belief system is what the story is about. He will hurt Zaara because unless he does so, the story or their characters will not move forward. Meanwhile it is important for us to understand is that he doesn't realize he is clipping Zaara's wings: he doesn't understand that her wishes, her dreams, her aspirations are not meant to be what the typical patriarchal society imposes on women. We will hate him for what he does to Zaara, the journey has only just started but during the lowest of the low, we should try and remember that while he and Zaara are having conflict, even he is not at peace and he will also feel suffocated in this marriage at some point. It's just our personalities and perspectives and if he was to be the best husband in the world, this story would not be necessary. Also, he was free from his father's expectation, his own expectations and dreams when he was in Kashmir. He wanted to enjoy and he let Zaara enjoy as well. There his sole responsibility was Zaara and we saw how he was when he could not find her, that is who he is and how much responsible he feels for things. If you notice, when he is home, he converses to her, is polite with her both of which he was in Kashmir. If you really notice, he wasn't forward in showing affection or paying any special attention to her in Kashmir either, it was just the situation and environment that made everything look heightened.
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