Marriages

I have read lots of Posts here about how Pooja felt neglected in the marriage. We are yet to see Yash pov. Reading all these made me wonder how many people in this forum are married. Because unless you are married it's difficult to actually understand the issues being shown by the cvs. Women are emotional and romantic while men are practical and unemotional. For example during my periods I suffer severe cramps. My husband will be like what's the big deal. Immediately I start crying remembering my parents. Even then rather than feeling guilty he will be like come on act mature. Just take a pain killer and try to sleep. Rather than the pain I cry because I feel lonely, neglected and unloved. Once I just exploded and since then he doesn't say anything insensitive. He understands that I am in pain and hence irrational. Men are that way. So people saying that adi dint even listen and was busy playing games must be mostly unmarried. Men need to be literally clobbered on the head to get our message. Subtlity doesn't work with men. Here i feel Pooja was being subtle. She should have been direct. Even then I feel it's too silly to walk out of a marriage due to varied interests. They could have spoken and tried to find a middle ground. Also passion always reduces over time. Even if she had married yash she would have faced the same issue after a few years. Did she really try to add passion instead of blaming Adi. It takes 2 hands to clap

I am like single forever but I can confirm that subtlety doesn't work with many of the XY humans.

That's a very generic view. I have met a lot of emotionally charged men. I am a mix of emotional but extemely practical person. To the extent that some who don't me well have often complained how I say all the things as a matter of fact devoid of any feeling but those close to me know that I enjoy heart to hearts and love the deeper connection over everything.
Married or Not Married is also not a condition that is required to give an opinion. Having a man in your life is enough imo, in any form.
Aditya seems to be a man run by emotions. He is not practical at all. He is impulsive and lacks logic so the point gets invalidated for Aditya especially.

Also, About the period thing- I've always been very vocal about my menstrual history. Like I said I say most things as a matter of fact. I remember I had to go an amusement park and two of my male friends called a few days before booking the tickets to make sure that is not the date I'm on period since that can get uncomfortable. Not all men my friend.

i totally agree with u .

I think Pooja expected a perfect life which is so beautiful like one of her favorite poem or a painting. She expected her best friend to change like a husband and who can love her in the way she wanted and him to understand her feelings which are only shared with a diary but not with him. Here I agree she herself understood what Adi needs and she compromised for few things for him and expected same thing in return from hum. But all people can't be same. Adi at that stage of his life was not as matured as Pooja and he was needed to be told in amore direct way than Pooja's subtle communication.. Adi was not perfect he was a bit insensitive for small things but he could have definitely put efforts in their relationship if Pooja directly told that she is suffering in their relationship and feeling taken for granted or else she needs a passionate life.. Adi is not a perfect person but he is not bad either. I think same goes with Yash.. he was hiding so may things so that he can keep Zoya happy because he thinks Zoya can't handle but come on he was married to her ... Zoya has every right to share every emotion in his life ... Happy or sad.. and yeah may be Yash was also expecting Zoya will herself understand that he is actually in trouble times of his life and business only acting before her as everything is fine and at that time he met Pooja who can understand him before telling and can be with him in his tough times... Problem with Yash or Pooja is that they were pretending with their partners a happy life when they are really not happy and expecting them to understand and when they don't understand that they feel for each other that they are of same kind of people. I honestly feel that Zoya and Adi were so much better in their relationship when they felt something missing from their partners they are demanding them-Zoya demanding Yash to call every night when he is in office and Adi went to Pooja and sleeping in her lap when she herself is enjoying moon light outside which he doesn't like... May be Adi and Zo were a bit immature and selfish but that's how relationships work.. if you get angry for certain situation fight with your partner as much as you want put your side before him/her and sort it out if not getting sorted out fight until you find peace.. 😆 but bottling up your emotions and hiding your troubles and all doesn't really work.. these so called mature behaviour will only increase the gap...

Originally posted by: -BebaakBegum-

That's a very generic view. I have met a lot of emotionally charged men. I am a mix of emotional but extemely practical person. To the extent that some who don't me well have often complained how I say all the things as a matter of fact devoid of any feeling but those close to me know that I enjoy heart to hearts and love the deeper connection over everything.
Married or Not Married is also not a condition that is required to give an opinion. Having a man in your life is enough imo, in any form.
Aditya seems to be a man run by emotions. He is not practical at all. He is impulsive and lacks logic so the point gets invalidated for Aditya especially.

Also, About the period thing- I've always been very vocal about my menstrual history. Like I said I say most things as a matter of fact. I remember I had to go an amusement park and two of my male friends called a few days before booking the tickets to make sure that is not the date I'm on period since that can get uncomfortable. Not all men my friend.

To all those saying that I am generalizing. Guys it's proven fact that men are different from women in many ways. Their emotional quotient, their way of handling problems, social interactions, every damn thing. There are lots of books and studies about this. Most of the people who are commenting are again unmarried. I repeat being in a steady relationship is not the same as marriage. I am not being condescending here. But you really need to be married to understand the difference. Men don't show their true emotions or feelings to the outside world. Some times even their moms wouldn't know. It's the wife who knows their vulnerabilities

Men as husbands/live-in partner is not my point. I am not talking about the said issues. I do not categorise people on the basis of Men or women. I categorise them on the basis of how they behave. Not to forget one indeed lives with brothers and fathers. I personally feel living with anyone can make you see a different side of theirs but that doesn't mean they change their corr totally, it's like calling men nothing but a specie of pretentious beings. Those who care, they care for real. Not denying that sometimes people who you live with do end up taking you for granted but like I said, a person does not simply become another person altogether.

I am married...i really can understand...my husband n me are totally different from each other...we share same characteristics but when it comes to pov...we don't really agree on each other opinion n it becomes a arguement n quarrel...he is non-believer of god n i am believer...he bleeds my ears with his nonsense n i get very angry n it leads to arguement...after that i don't talk to him for days...sometimes he is insensitive too...he doesn't help me household chores or even if i am sick he doesn't know till said...i was pissed off with him than he claims that i don't understand him and i don't love him n i claim that he doesn't understand me n love me...the marriage is a bloody big mistake n ask him to get out from my life...i want a divorce...furthermore i am just married for 4 mnths..in a newly married life...i am going through this issue that my elders had to step in and advise us that marriage is not a game...mine is a arrange marriage...till i realise that my hubby doesn't know what is love...married life...how to approach a girl...he has been always surrounded by guys n outgoing types totally different than me...he is sensitive too and he got to know that i don't know what is love...how to approach life though i do know abt married life...mom told us to give n take...adjustments...do things together...share feelings together...thats when love will born in the hearts...mom ask me to approach first to him...teach him love...teach him abt married life...if u stay silent...he stay silent...if u argue...he does the same...both of u have the same ego n not giving up...not talking to each other...how will marriage work...

Originally posted by: Angels11

To all those saying that I am generalizing. Guys it's proven fact that men are different from women in many ways. Their emotional quotient, their way of handling problems, social interactions, every damn thing. There are lots of books and studies about this. Most of the people who are commenting are again unmarried. I repeat being in a steady relationship is not the same as marriage. I am not being condescending here. But you really need to be married to understand the difference. Men don't show their true emotions or feelings to the outside world. Some times even their moms wouldn't know. It's the wife who knows their vulnerabilities

I agree with you. I also believes wives are the only ones who can tell how the husband is as a human being as they get to see men perform in all other roles. Even a mother doesn't know how her son is as a husband but wife knows how he is as a son.