So b4 I begin to pen down my thots….I know that today's epi was not something many had been expecting or wanting…infact it has rather shaken grounds of many I know….and I suppose I can see why. But all I hope is that after reading wat I have got to say, I may be able to bring about that slight shift in thinking on ur part n view the epi from a diff POV. I understand each one have their own views n I shall respect that n by no means I am here to offend or differ ur trails of thots/views.
B4 we all even began watching Navya, we all may have learnt in school this 1 universal theory and most of us agree to it as well:
"Change is the only constant factor of all"
By this I mean, as we today see Navya slowly make her transition into becoming a wife….a daughter-in-law from being just a daughter….a girlfriend…and a friend…..we see the many changes that are slowly making way into her life and how she is trying her level best to comprehend and rationalize with them. Note am not saying that she is accepting and adjusting with them. There is a difference.
The current track, as we addains fondly call it "Woh 7 Din" track, has been brought in for many reasons.
1. It marks the Nayi Soch of how a girl who is about to get married into this family, get a jist of what her life will be like after marriage.
2. To give viewers an insight of a girl who is born n raised in a completely different household n the various emotions and sentiments that go thru her as she makes this huge decision of her life n embarks on a journey with nothing but hope n blessings from her loved ones.
3. To also vision out to viewers the behavior pattern and the experience that the guy has as he welcomes this new individual into his life n now his house whom till now he have just met outside of her comfort zone.
4. To make aware to the viewers that marriage, which unfortunately has become a mere joke or remains just in the words today…..which very sadly is losing the sanctity of it in today's world in the name of "modernity"……is actually a very divine n holy bond that entails not just those 7 rounds n hoopla of ceremonies…..but indeed is a bond of sheer commitment from deep down within of the 2 individuals who are to tie into this matrimonial bond engulfing with them their extended relations. And this commitment entails with it…..loads n loads of constant work…..adjustments…understandings n to some extent compromises from both the ends.
5. To show a true picture of how….when n where things can go wrong in a marriage that can bring it to an unwanted end….something that possibly cud have been avoided.
Having stated the above….I wud like to disbelief that such track is given so families coming forth can idolize this method in deciding the future of their daughter…..meaning doing this trial by error method. I'd rather like to believe that its brought in to allow families to give that platform to their kids so that they can experience the life after marriage first hand and work on things that need to be worked upon and derive a common pattern of thots/behavior which will allow them to arrive at civilized solutions for any problems they face now n in future…..coz lets face it…..no 1 family will be alike…..each n every family lives/behaves in a different manner and therefore I don't think its sane to say…."A fell in love with B….so lets have them try out living together…..if it doesn't work…..lets quit n have A look for a C n the process continues". This very sadly has become the universal fashion statement around the globe now a days. I guess this way…..A will never find her matching life partner since every relation will have problems but its how u work at it….how u solve it!!
Now coming to the epi…..Lots of us may say….Navya needs to just say goodbye to Anant…..or quit this alliance with him coz his family is way too old fashioned n have zero understanding limits…..Anant himself is not behaving the appropriate way….or trying to understand Navya….or other else. But lets take a look at why n how Navya behaved in a certain fashion n whether its really legit for her to take this decision….
Navya-Sughandha Scene:
Here we see how Anant's mom is asking Navya to say NO herself to Anant for going out n we see navya getting shocked….depressed but giving in to her plight. Was anant's mom right?? Maybe….maybe not….but If u look closely at her words….she says to navya that after wat happened in the mall…..she is left worried (pareshaan) coz she knows that the family they belong to ….do not promote such activities n being the responsible elder in Navya's parents absence….she does not want to take any chances...neither does she want to let such things slide if Navya is to live in the same family in future.Here Anant's mom is thinking along the lines of boundaries that can be easily crossed by AnYa being the young blood they are….Note her trail of thots comes from the hug she witnessed least knowing or even understanding much about the type of relationship n maturity AnYa have in their relationship. I say…very natural for her to think that. However….she knows her son….n she knows….there is no point in explaining to her son such matters n having known n witnessing navya b4….she is rather putting her faith n trust in her that she will be able to maneuver Anant easily. Sughandha is not being mean….she is simply trying to avoid any more clashes in the house that she fears/knows can happen.
Anant-Navya Scene:
Navya lies to Anant n tells him she is not feeling well n suggest they go some other day to meet their friends….Here lots of u may ask….why cudnt navya speak the truth to Anant. How come Anant didn't realize Navya was lying?? Well its not that Anant didn't realize….he did….but wat to do if Navya chooses to lie on n smilingly assure Anant all is well??? Now is navya right in wat she did??? I for 1 do think so….U see its a catch 22 situation…coz if she speaks the truth….it may put her relations with anant n his mom into jeopardy but if she doesn't….then she is being dishonest to herself n to anant……now lets take a deeper look…...how is she supposed to tell Anant….oh "ur mom" told me to cancel this outing….how well does she know the bonding between anant n his mom??? She has just begun to live with them n see their bonding more closely. Wudnt it put her relation with Anant in jeopardy??? Guys have a tendency to not be able to hear anything against their moms. Wudnt her foundations with her mom-in-law have a rough base which cud have been avoided??? Afterall….its quite a known fact….that if girls are daddy's princess….that a boy is the apple of his mom's eyes. So speaking the truth to Anant may or may not go down well with Anant n his mom…Afterall….sughandha's intentions were not bad. So I say….wat Navya did….was not a bad thing at all…infact she seal stamped her to be mother-in-law's trust in her n she will only gain more love n respect from Anant if n when he founds out the truth. Thus this catch 22 situation in the long run becomes a win-win situation since a strong foundation of trust in laid in Anant n his mom and this is the trust that becomes helpful in future as they both will know that Navya will never do anything that will be harm anyone!!
The Friend Trio scene:
RRA are upset….distressed seeing n acknowledging the growing distances between them n AnYa….and its hurting them…While we see Navya equally sad n acknowledging the lack of companionship from her part that she so unintentionally is propelling within them….but that trust….that foundation has already been built in her relations with RA and thus she is able to outweigh her priorities over her friendship coz she she knows that they will understand her plight….that at the end of the day….she will always remain their friend….A change is circumstances….but the affections remains the same!!!...Here I wud like to say….that RRA shud rather be providing that extra morale support already knowing Anant's family BG instead of wining……Coz that's wat true friendship calls for…..to be there for each other more than ever during tough n testing times of friends…Hope RRA comes to realize this sooner!!!
The Dinner Table Scene n AnYa phone scene:
Navya here innocently suggests everyone eat together….least knowing that things run differently in Anant's house…….n when Anant warns her to remain quite….she realizes that things are not really how she percepted it to be…..So now upon knowing from anant about gender difference behavior and many more huge difference she will be experiencing in this house ….does it call for her to call it quits only coz she does not wanna to "change" from how she has lived all her life??? Agreed….both the gal n the boy needs to make adjustments after marriage…..but 1 thing we all tend to forget is that in our society….the girl goes to the guys's house…..not the vice versa…..and thus…..the gals end up making a wee bit of extra compromise than the guy in an Indian marriage……coz lets face it….u cant change a lifestyle of a particular family to suit ur needs overnight….it takes time….Am not saying that the gal shud change/adjust/compromise entirely to her in-laws way of life….NOPE!!...M just saying….that yes….the change for the guy's side is also occurring…..and how can the gal make this transition/change a smoother process??? It's a simple method….but take lots of patience n perseverance on the gal's ……and that is to "Change the way of approach to change the new family so the gal cud be accommodated as well"…..and this can only be done by building that trust factor in the relations on every member in the household. Trying to understand how each member of the household functions n den dealing with them accordingly can make things a lot easier n will not call for early call off of marriages that happen now a days .
In AnYa's case….I don't see a need of calling quits for Navya….coz yes….there are massive differences…..but the one thing that remains constant is AnYa's true love for each other n their trust in each other…and now that Navya is having her first hand experience at living with her future family….we are yet to see whether navya really does call it quits with Anant despite his true love for her or takes upon the challenge to marry Anant n bring about the positive changes required in Anant's family.
So I leave with this on a note of quotation:
"Every path has its huddle……how you walk the path depends on whether or not you want to reach the desired destination."😳😳😳
Rab Raakha,
Shilpa.🤗
PS. Ur views are most welcome and I strongly advocate healthy discussion.
Anant's 1st Diary Entry
AnYa Hum Tum Diary Entries
Navya's Diary Entry 2
Anant: Kaisi Majbooriyan
Navya's Entry: Emotional Zoo
AnYa Hum Tum Diaries: Kehdo Tum Ho Meri
Diary Entries: Navya, Meeta and Anant
Diary Entries: Ya Rabba
Navya Diary Entries: Tera Chehra
Anant Diary Entry: The Cruelity of Time
Other Non Diary Navya Posts
Nayi Soch...Nayi Dhadkan
Fears of Emotions
Letters Of Maple Leaves
Woh Hamesha Meri Zimedaari Rahegi
The Difference Between Reality n TV
Hum Kadam Tere Sang
Anant to Navya: I Breathe In You
The Quiet Calms Before The Next Storms
Letters of Liquid Pearls
A Smile In Distress
And The Truth Endures Yet Again
Come Let's Build Bridges
A Weapon Called Motherhood
Renu's Letter: Ameen
AnYa: "Ek Nayi Duniya Basaye"
ATTN CVs: AnYA are a COUPLE
Arjun
Cricket
Indian Mythology
