Come Let's Build Bridges!!!

Meeta's Inner Self Talk: (Views of the parent generation)

What's wrong with today's generation??? They feel ashamed of themselves being on their own n not having a boyfriend??? Appy said she is called a loser at college just coz she doesn't have a guy walking beside her while she walks the corridors of the college….she told me that her colleagues think she is not cool??? I mean what is this being cool??? What is it that measure the cool and uncool of these kids??? What is the requirement to be in the cool category??? To have a boyfriend??? Is being cool or not cool is what this generation use as meter guide to judge the character of the person….to determine whether he or she is worthy to be ur friend…..to hang out with…to communicate with……or better still just to simply determine the nature of this person???

I cant believe this?? Studies…..personal values….aspirations…..do these things not hold any value in today's world?? If someone does not have time for relationships just because he or she believes in spending that time towards his or her studies or career….will that be considered uncool??? If someone does not want to indulge in such affairs because he or she comes from a conservative family and believes in those values instilled by their parents…..will that make him or her uncool???

Since when did going college meant that along with being a diligent student ……it is a requirement that u involve urself in an affair???

Its giving me chills down my spine to think of what the future generation will be like when the generation today are going to think as such…..I fear the future of my kids from now itself coz the definition of being young and new is changing at rocket speed and I don't even know where they are headed and if wherever it is….is that the right place for them???

This is scary…..very scary!!!

Appy's Inner Self Talk: (Views of the Child Generation)

Wow…..Auntyji freaked out on the word go the moment I mentioned I don't have anyone …any guy in my life…..Danggg….She was making a huge deal out of the word "boyfriend" as if its not some word but a curse on mankind…She was fierce at me when I mentioned that I am called a loser at college and that its considered "uncool" to not have a boyfriend…but how can I explain to her that its truly so hard to be in college when u have peers that treat u an alien if u don't indulge in common affairs done by all….that the treatment u get at college is so demotivating when u cannot match up to everyone's par of ability….that when u see ur friends having someone who is showering love n care on them…..u get the goose bumps as well and aspire to have someone such in ur life as well…..

Why cant this parent generation understand that having a boyfriend is not bad afterall…..choosing ur own life partner is within our right of being an individual human being…..and simply that times have changed and ppl need to change their way of thinking with time??

Why do they treat us as if we are still pre school kids and that we don't know our boundaries within the relationship??? Why don't they for a change just have trust in the values they have instilled in us….in their efforts to give us such high standards of education?? Why cant they simply have faith in their kids that they will not do anything that jeopardizes their upbringing ??

I really don't know how to make them understand that without going thru such experiences in life….we wont know life n its beauties thoroughly….that ifa relationship does turn out to be a blunder….then let us make that blunder….how else will we learn n grow….

Its tough…and wat makes it even more tough is their strict n stubborn attitude to listen to what the new generation have to tell them!!!!!!

An Observer's View:

Both the parent n the child are right at their places….they ways of thinking is not wrong…..If parents are skeptical…..is it because they fear the future of their kids…if there is resilience towards change….then its because its natural human trait …..there is nothing wrong in it…

If the child wants to explore n learn life in their own way…….then its because they want to stay with time….and practice the theory they learnt in school of learning as u make mistakes…..If the child is urging for their parents to have faith n trust in them…..its because they have faith in their own self n the love n values instilled in them by their parents….If the child is requiring more understanding from the parents….its becoz…..the peer pressure ….the outer world influences becomes so heavy that sometimes it just get suffocating and the need to freely do things n communicate becomes an urgent need…..

Again….there is nothing wrong in these thots…..

The thots at their places are not wrong…..wat is the wrong the vacumm of communication….Its the gap between the parent and the child called the "Generation Gap" where the parent is at point A and child at Point B…..what is wrong is that there is no common ground where they can relate to each other…What is wrong is the ignorance by both of the major trump card that rules us all….called "destiny"

We all tend to forget that whatever is bound to happen will happen……but in the fear of tomorrow we cannot let go of our today…coz today is the only thing we have in our hands……

Genaration Gap needs to be eliminated from the dictionary and instead what is needed is to build bridges….so point A n point B can walk towards each other!!! 😳😳

Rab Raakha..

Shilpa🤗

Originally posted by: spdp

'..wat is the wrong the vacumm of communication'. -Word - Shilpa! Nicely written! Another thing that they pointed out today very subtly was -Appy telling Meeta, that aap hume kehte ho don't lie, but you just lied in front of Dadi! SO true- at that moment, Meeta/parent should take a breath & look back at their own attitude! that will give them answer to their own question - Truth is necessary & it prevails but it should be brought forward only at appropriate time!

Sometimes you just go around the thing to avoid making matters worse! Sometimes time is not right for truth to become public, it can suffocate blossom or create unnecessary chaos!

And more than anything communication is must - between all gnerations! Kids have to feel confident enough to be able to communicate with parents! (may be thats why appy, ritz were acting so off for going with NAvya - they were afraid of the strictness - and that's what happend - just one sided- predetermined approach- not good!)

Really hoping she'll listen to Navya! And not push her away by being stagnantly strict!

Originally posted by: spdp

'..wat is the wrong the vacumm of communication'. -Word - Shilpa! Nicely written! Another thing that they pointed out today very subtly was -Appy telling Meeta, that aap hume kehte ho don't lie, but you just lied in front of Dadi! SO true- at that moment, Meeta/parent should take a breath & look back at their own attitude! that will give them answer to their own question - Truth is necessary & it prevails but it should be brought forward only at appropriate time!

Sometimes you just go around the thing to avoid making matters worse! Sometimes time is not right for truth to become public, it can suffocate blossom or create unnecessary chaos!

And more than anything communication is must - between all gnerations! Kids have to feel confident enough to be able to communicate with parents! (may be thats why appy, ritz were acting so off for going with NAvya - they were afraid of the strictness - and that's what happend - just one sided- predetermined approach- not good!)

Really hoping she'll listen to Navya! And not push her away by being stagnantly strict!

Originally posted by: barbie2011

Very nicely written😊..you have beautiffuly expressed...that nobody is wrong depending upon where they stand..it is the communication gap, the generation gap that creates all the problem.

I hope we as kids and also as parents or future parents can remeber this and take active efforts to lessen the gap.

i'l just say this..

lets sit together for a while and have a open talk,without any fear, inhibitons or presumptions...just plain, true talk...lets just put our thoughts and feelings across...there is nothing that cant be understood, if explained properly..

loved you post dear👏..you have great ability to feel the pain and look at the perspective of different people with different angles..

keep writing..

Originally posted by: Newly_Born

I Agree...

Originally posted by: Aanchal15

You have reconnoitred the thoughts,brillantly, Shilpa...👏👏..

Mita's compunction, her perspectives,are acceptable to a certain extent.However, she need not be, too austere,instead, try to comprehend the reasonings, of the younger generation... Appy's perspective is valid too, coz she is in that phase , where you do want to explore and assimilate...

Agree, there is a giant aperture, between their introspections, and each individual will have to endeavour to lessen it, by crossing the straddle...and that is,attainable only by indulging in open confabulations... ...