Guide to Parenting by Shilpa Sharma MESSAGE pg37 - Page 15

Originally posted by: a little faith

Originally posted by: ak12

Hello Sabah..
This time, i don't have any other point worth mentioning..
Cause, such simple and endearing is the role of the mother. Shilpa Aunty does her work so efficiently that she leaves behind nothing to talk about except the result of her work...
Have a nice day...
Akansha

I seek God's help.

Step 6 ' Expect the Unexpected!

As a mother you must always be prepared to mask your shock at the absurd and incredulous discoveries your child's adventure will thrust upon the both of you. You will learn to hide those horror stricken facial expressions as your child surprises widen in scope and depth. The shock will still take years off you but you will begin to hide it better.

However one thing should never surprise you; the love your child returns to you.

{Lesson 6 By Mayank. Most people have heard of IQ however without EQ you will never reach perfection. IQ is you ability to learn and understand new situations; EQ is your ability to manage and cope well with new situations. Your IQ is given to you from nature and helped along through books. Your EQ is the nurturing within you and learnt from your mother. One is a means to hoards of money the other engenders love.}

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There was a time when MJHT used to surprise me; even amongst their loop-de-loops. I love the fact that they use a place of beautification to create a scene of ugliness.

Shilpa Aunty must have breezed into the salon with an expectation of relaxation only to be confronted with a parent's biggest shock; that their child has strayed onto a very wrong path. Despite her apparent discomposure, she expresses concern with composed words; referring to Mayank as Mayu, that subtle significance signaling love.

As her 'Mayu' begins to her abate her fears, his brain sparks and flames a fire. The 'twist' watches as the twister gets twisted.

She laughs at the 'entertainment' knowing that if life spins you off the ground, turn it into a cartwheel and enjoy the ride.

Mayu finds 'his' side laughing and understands that she is not a referee but the nurse to be called in the aftermath.

I love the why Vaishnavi shows how Shilpa Aunty's heart pinches, as Nupur's sharp words thunder over Mayank's blasts.

The nurturing mother she heals Nupur's wounds too, so that both opponents may live to fight another day.

I included the following three scenes to showcase how Mayank expresses his love for Shilpa Aunty. Feel free to disagree with the first two, for you will be unable to do so with the last.

Mayank hides to perfection, from the master detective of emotions, his severing of ties with Nupur. One theory is that out of his love of his mother, he does not wish to unburden grief upon her. Another reason could be that he is a gentleman and therefore does not want to taint his mother's opinion of Nupur. He hides Nupur's crime from Deodhar Sir too, when exposing her could free him of her burden. However I give all credit for 'one of the last true gentlemen' to the lady who raised him.

Again I was deeply touched, far into those recesses within my heart under lock and key, by the manner in which MJHT creators showed that if love isn't dependent upon money then neither is its expression. The irreplaceable moment Mayank gifts to his loving mother is worth the world and everything in it.

"Mein liya hoon, lots of love for the best mom in the world!"

Originally posted by: Senny

Replied in bold, Butterfly, Aww Sabah, when I read the title for step six, I couldn't help but smile as yesterday only I was thinking, how life can be so unexpected and at times the kind of ride, you don't want to ride but just sit peacefully especially under a tree with the warm sun and cool breeze and eh a beautiful romantic novel serving as one of the best companions.That sounds beautiful. I can never read outside, I always get distracted by passing clouds, bees, breeze, letting myself drift away...I feel like a visiting Bedouin on vacation in the busyness of the city...Until someone screams my name thrusting me back into reality! 😆

Step six took me to a time in the show where I was not too intrigued by the fight and the constant hate which was shown by the characters, not that it was unreal but hate is something which takes no one anywhere. I personally hate to hate, when they did, deep down they might not have but apparently they appeared to do so and it always left me with a bitter taste and a memory I didn't want to cherish but forget about.I loved how we all see things so differently. I cringed all the way through this scene. In fact I had to force myself to watch it to write this step. However seeing through Shilpa Aunty's eyes brought a new perspective. For me it isn't hate, it is irritation, disappointment. However whatever we label it, as you said it is ugliness.

I seriously need to stop rambling Sabah. I will quote you here as I couldn't say it better than you at all:"As a mother you must always be prepared to mask your shock at the absurd and incredulous discoveries your child's adventure will thrust upon the both of you. You will learn to hide those horror stricken facial expressions as your child surprises widen in scope and depth. The shock will still take years off you but you will begin to hide it better."

Hehe M not only surprised her but me as well, but what was beautiful was the way Shilpa aunty reacted to the situation. She was very much well composed, only surprised at what was happening with his son and new trials he had to face hehe.I loved how she consoled Nupur too. Most mothers would be cursing and throwing chapels...Shilpa Aunty's word about not interfering in 'bacche's conversation' 😆😆😆

I agree the love a child has for his or her mother, is bever a surprise but the expression of it just reaffirms it and touches a mother so much, I love M for the love and respect for his mother, his love you, was indeed one of the sweetestttttttttt gestures and makes me so proud of M and the mother who raised him up!I love this moment too. I defy people to find fault. That he came home early was no surprise, that he came home early to surprise his mom, still quite expected BUT his manner of playfulness was an unexpected surprise! (can you have expected surprises?😆) We see this Mayu in Nupur's husband.

IQ and EQ, i have never heard of the latter before Sabah, Wow that is something new for me and I agree the wisdom and the ability to deal with new situations comes with time and there can be no better teacher for learning about EQ than a mother's nurturing.Most people have not heard of EQ. However most people, like yourself must have sensed it intuitively. Some call it street smarts, common sense etc. It is about handling your emotions so that they do not make a fool of you.

"She laughs at the 'entertainment' knowing that if life spins you off the ground, turn it into a cartwheel and enjoy the ride. " WOW sabah this is soooooooooo well said, at times we don't want to sit on this ride but having no choice and if we have to sit, so we better sit tight and enjoy it rather than feeling all gloomy and helpless.People are always trying to force me onto roller coaster rides etc, when we have natural rides that do the same. Personally when I want that 'buzz' I spin around in circles, like most kids do and then try to find north! 😆 Oh, I can never resist office chairs either...maybe that is why my friends don't let me call in at their work😳

Indeed all credit for M being such a gentle man goes to his mum.True! Boys who are brought up around women, who respect and love them, go on to treat all women the same. Mayank has never belittled women. No wonder they all nurtured him. We find it easy to impart to springs than walls.

God blessss you always and always. I will say the same, but I see He has already blessed you with the sweetest heart.
Sabah