Guide to Parenting by Shilpa Sharma MESSAGE pg37

I seek God's bounty and help.

Guide to Parenting ' Shilpa Aunty Style!

Imitation is the best form of flattery. Credit for this inspiration cum flattery goes to the love I found on Mou.'s thread found here:-

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/28442563

and admiration and joyfully blissful commentary found in Mimi's thread here:-

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/28935637

I doubt I will be able to capture the depth of emotion of Mou.'s post nor the zany and beautiful insights of Mimi's, therefore I would advise you to spend time vacationing there rather than here. Further for a truly worthy tribute to Shilpa Aunty read Rinky's post found here:-

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/28321830

Please hit the 'like' so that I may ascertain if I am only amusing myself.

I intend to 'be very Mayank' and go chronologically, from beginning to end, cherishing each and every scene of Shilpa's Aunty, however please be as Nupurish as you wish in your comments. Please feel free to add VM's and also ff which bright idea was inspired by Mimi's post, whereby I noted and she replied in bold,

"When Mayank says "Mujhe iss aag pe garv hai" that mischievous monkey look, I could picture him as a child in his little school uniform, with one pocket containing a shiny red apple for the teacher and in the other a slingshot and matches..."

"HAHAHA that is so Mayank! I could totally see him. *sighs* I wish there was an episode dedicated to their childhood flashbacks. I'd love to see goody-two-shoes Mayank getting in trouble, and Morena Express bullying others."

I am unable to dream up wondrous scenes like those who write ff, but came up with the following scene (truly no false modesty, I know my limits!)

Can you imagine Mayank 'King of the playground' vs. Little Miss Drama cum Filmy Queen. Their arguments, their tantrums!

Little Mayank "When I grow up, I am going to become a lawyer and sue you for plagarism of Madhubala"
Little Nupur "er, plague-ur-rhythm! Mathlab? dil ke bimari aur dance! Hai! Agar mein ek pal ke liye Madhubala ban gaye, mein toh tum aur tumarey faizool baatein ko chhodker, apna Raj Kumar ko dhoondthi!"
Little Mayank "!?!!??!" Just that horrified, dumbfounded, 'is this 'little' girl for real, expression!

A light bulb, despite its cheap, flickering and unreliable quality, lit up in my head'Can you imagine' The adventures of little Mayu and Shilpa Aunty'? Those moments that were pivotal in the making of Mayank. I implore you talented writers, if you feel inspired to do so, please share such scenes here with us!

Love, pura DIL SE LOVE.......DUNIYA KE JITNA LOVE SAB LOVE

Your friend,

Sabah

INDEX

1. Intro and first glimpse of Shilpa Aunty Page 1 ' post 2

2. That girl! Page 6

3. Date? Page 9

4. Ghar pe... Page 13

5. bughatna page 18

6. Love page 19

7. Narq pe page 22

8. Baal ke khal page 24

9 and 10. Holi hai page 26

11. Promise page 31

12. Delete page 33

13. Tata sky plus page 35

Miscellounous items INDEX ' POSTS OF INTEREST

1. Little Mayank ' Shilpa Aunty FF Coming soon

2. Prelude to Step Four Page 13

Mayank, I am sure that caught your attention!

That soul that captured the strong hearts of others; glittering moons and bright planets seemingly pulled by his gravitational force into orbit; his character's beauty an incomparable delight and his smile...

...they were all a reflection of the light of the soul of the character brought to life by the excellent and exquisite portrayal by Vaishnavi. McDonald, SHILPA AUNTY. Who made being known something of a 'mummy's boy' a compliment, a badge to wear with gratitude!

STEP ONE. Build a loving trusting bond.

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrdSKqKH-vA[/YOUTUBE]

I named this step one rather than lesson one, to highlight Aunty Shilpa's more easygoing manner as opposed to Mayank's regimental attitude. (I wonder if that is from his father or if there is another underlying cause.)

Up until the introduction of Shilpa Aunty, the adults depicted in MJHT were caricatures with the exceptions of Bauji and Deodhar Sir (Mayank's future incarnation, until Nupur saved him) We had to wait eleven episodes before this wonderful character was introduced, by then MJHT had found a special place in our hearts but the beauty of her character imbued our souls!

Up until this moment we had only seen the dashing hero cum sadu/sarcastic side to Mayank.

Then entered this vivacious, breathtakingly beautiful lady. (I have imagined scenes where men become enchanted by her... ...to the 'disturbance' of Mayank.) In real life I have noticed, that people cannot hide nor fail to exhibit that which resides in their hearts. Actors being people, this rule naturally applies to them too.

{Lesson One By Mayank. In the Arabic language there is a term called khileqa, the closest I have come across in the English Language is micro-expressions or body language, but it is something more. If Khalq is your outer body, Khuluq your character, then Khileqa is an outward, subtle or extravagant, expression of your character into your body and manner. Does anyone know of another term for this, in any other language or culture?}

Her Khileqa or her inner and outer beauty combination is resplendent! I cannot believe that anyone could see her and not fall in love with her.

Then their conversation. On paper the dialogues could lean towards syrupy or mellifluous however the exceptional acting talents of both raises the scene to a level which is both heart-warmingly endearing and full of charm. In less than a minute, the briefest of glimpses, the script writers, actors and directors show as a stable, loving mother-son relationship built upon trust and love whereby they point out each other foibles, gently guide towards betterment and provide for each other companionship. It seems extraordinary that Shilpa Aunty could have a son like Mayank, that is until see witness 'Mayu'.

I loved the way the creators depicted this simple premise; that the best things in life are free. That which is truly worth obtaining is to be found within the hearts of people and not in material things. The moderate living accommodations of Mayu and his mum overflowing with their love as opposed to Samrat's large mansion which even though it is filled to the brim with all modern day amenities remains strangely empty.

Further credit to Vaishnavi and Arjun whose ease of delivery and chemistry made us forget that they are not actually mother and son. Their opening banter about the coffee; the gracefulness of their exchange of words and actions echoing the harmonious melody playing in synchrony within both their hearts.

Then the lightning strike...

Mayank mentions some 'pagal ladki'. Shilpa Aunty doesn't bat an eyelid, nor raise an eyebrow or tease him about 'a girl'. Why? At this point she knows the only 'girl' in Mayu's life is her. Impossible to make fun of the impossibly improbable.

Back to the lightning strike...

Mayank moves the items between them and moves closer, we all imagine to deliver some sarcastic retort to Aunty's sly comment upon his idiosyncratic behaviour, and says'.

"Toh tum abhi tak kyu jaagre ho?"

"Tujhe nahin pata?"

"Pata hai, per baar baar suney main accha lagta hai' 'tum jaagre ho isliye"

I think every Mayank fan did a double take! What did he just say?!!? I did not know Mayank came in a sweet version! Does not every girl yearn for this? That their love have a special side, part and even smile that they keep apart only for them, that no one else can invade upon or ever know except his cherished ones; that keeps a special place in his heart which is only reserved for them? Like Darcy his sister and Elizabeth and maybe Bingly; Captain Wentworth his sister and Anne. For Mayank, his mum and then eventually Nupur. Have I revealed too much?

Then as sudden as a leaf falling off a branch, disciplinarian Mayank returns to remind his mum about the importance of punctuality. Aunty Shilpa responds with jovial flair; as one who is accustomed to such speeches as well as abrupt temperaments changes; she doesn't even blink or hint.

Then again we witness the gracefulness of Vaishnavi and Arjun as Mayank shoos her out of his room, followed by the Piece de rsistance "Maa balon ko mat chuo please!" Which Shilpa Aunty lovingly mimics...

Hey Sabah,

Sabah one more thing, i totally concur with your analysis or indeed drawing of analogy betweeen the characters of Mayank and Darcy, the most unique and the best part i found about Mayank was that he was never open to the world, always minding his own business but did open up only to his closed ones which were his mum and later Nupur.

Hey Butterfly,

I said no loyalty only honesty but from you I knew it would only ever be kindness.

I wholeheartedly agree. People search, scour the earth for precious gems when the beauty of the soul can surpass even the most vibrant of stones, or even rainbows for that matter.

People spend hundreds of pounds on miracles creams when inner beauty can give depth to the deepest of wrinkles.

I sincerely pray to God that I get even a little finger's worth of your inner beauty, Senny, then I would surely be blessed.😳

Shilpa Aunty and Mayu will always remain upon the legendary couples of fiction, no matter what, I cannot deny the creatives this feat!

Sabah

EDIT: My mother blames my singledom upon Darcy! Thanks for agreeing, sometimes I think I only see what I wish to see.

Be as melancholy as you wish. There is beauty in sadness too, it signifies a pure heart, and can give us momentum to bring change for betterment.

Aww Sabah I am deeply humbled, don't make me feel so high and grand because I am not na, you only see the good and the best in people thats because you are so nice yourself.

OMG...
Very nice post...
Like it...
And tumne too yaadein tazaa kardi...
By the video.... 👍🏼

Hey Sabah, wonderful thread.... the title itself says it all.... I wish Bauji would have read this parenting guide.... then we would have witnessed a wonderful GuNur and Bauji bond in the show as welll.... but alas.... some parents fail to understand their children....

@ Butterfly,

Who wants to return to the insanity of youth?

As for your comments on the creatives choosing to ignore the development of Mayu and Shilpa Aunty, I urge you to create ff, for their past, little Mayu moments as well as for their future. I love IMAGINATION!

I have always believed and held to be true that the basis of any parental guidance must be a strong loving relationship. Your child should trust you. We will see in future posts the consequence of this trust and how Shilpa Aunty uses it to help Mayank grow, and whereby she can feel that she did her best! So many parents take credit for 'good' children based upon minimum input.

@SaJan_Sana4ever

Sincere Thanks!

Originally posted by: a little faith

@ Butterfly,

Who wants to return to the insanity of youth?

As for your comments on the creatives choosing to ignore the development of Mayu and Shilpa Aunty, I urge you to create ff, for their past, little Mayu moments as well as for their future. I love IMAGINATION!

I have always believed and held to be true that the basis of any parental guidance must be a strong loving relationship. Your child should trust you. We will see in future posts the consequence of this trust and how Shilpa Aunty uses it to help Mayank grow, and whereby she can feel that she did her best! So many parents take credit for 'good' children based upon minimum input.

@SaJan_Sana4ever

Sincere Thanks!