Guide to Parenting by Shilpa Sharma MESSAGE pg37

First Previous

Page

Frequent Posters

Sabah

@a little faith

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#301

Originally posted by: ak12

Step 10

Sabah,

I really don't have many words to express the smile this step brought on my face'Its the gentle and subtle way with which Shilpa Aunty proves to be an ideal parent to Mayank. Mothers always amaze me.They have this annoying habit of doing little little things without the things being known to the world. yet, when the child grows up, he proves his parentage.We honour our parents in our actions, our words...We love our parents in our actions and our words...to combine both as Mayank does is perfection!
It amazes me sometimes, about Shilpa Aunty having so much faith in the young love. Cause we all know for a fact that young love doesn't last for long. I am talking in the most probable terms, but yeah as you said, probability doesn't exist. It's either a yes or a no.True, I see it more a case of sincere love...for truth Mayank is a man...but he is a sincere man!

Most parents don't approve of their child's relationship at this age here in our Indian culture and I can't deny that they aren't completely wrong. No parent is able to put that blind faith in their children, simply because they know it's a cruel and a harsh world. I am sorry for an extremist view, but here I do feel that Shilpa Aunty turns out to be a little fictitious character. Ah! I have heard this parental excuse...it is not you we don't trust but the world! However I have seen that with those parents who bring up their children giving due care and time...when life finally beckons their child they realiz the reins and let them go...nowadays less so, for the words doesn't allow parents to nurture their young, but this was certainly true for my grandparents time! Nevertheless, she is ideal. But I don't think idealism exists anywhere in the world. It's just the "human" that exists. I don't know if this view of mine is right or wrong. Because I lack the experience and I am immature. All views are valid, for none of us can hold all knowledge, thereby all of us a deficient, but then again all of us may hold the truth too...what is wrong is unbending, unyielding thought processes.Whatever I've said is on the basis of what I've witnessed between my friends and their parents. I still haven't had the tryst with my parents regarding this issue, simply cause I've never had myself in a situation like this. But, If I do find myself in such a situation, i expect my parents to be supportive, yet not blindly supportive.Exactly..we need to know when we er..for if we surround ourselves with 'yes' men, then when we fall they cannot tell us why...but only that we fell!

But I simply can't deny that Shilpa Aunty's grace can melt a stone-hearted person. And I love her for that.Her grace deserves a sonnet!

I am sorry if my view has been very unfathomable' But yeah, I can't help my immaturity if it is so..Akansha, please do not underestimate yourself...we are all growing, all learning but your base is quite wide and solid!👏⭐️

Love,

AkanshaLove sabah

Quote

Sabah

@a little faith

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#302

Originally posted by: ak12

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

Sabah

@a little faith

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#303

Originally posted by: ak12

I'd check the step 13 tomorrow.. runnin outta time.. sorry...
akansha

Quote

nandita singh

@nanditasingh

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 15 years ago

#304

finally 'back to home' in every sense...
here we go....its short and may be i dint have much to write too, as always you said it all...nay painted it all...😃

Step 9 – FUN!

I do not doubt that Mayank played at least 'a little' with some child hood friends, or maybe I do. However one truth remains as distinct as black and white, Shilpa Aunty has always been his best friend and his best play mate.
- again i wish we had some talk or may one glimpse or two of his childhood....it could be nice to see saas-bahu share tinny-winny details about the most important person in their life....Mayank.
Nupur eager to know if he was same 'akdu-sadu' in his childhood too .

Shilpa's Aunty uses all that surrounds Mayank to initiate play; the fluid oil, the solid paper and finally the airy, ethereal colour!
- amazingly in this youth based show... she is the most bubbly and energitic person next to Nupur...i love the way she uses everthing in hand to get Mayu's attention off his books

Her actions remind him that playing, having fun is an important way to express your rosy love to your loved ones.
- true, it need not be always words or gifts..... small gestures all add up in a big way to show you care, you love.

Step 10 - Expect the Impossible!

I love these scenes
- me too.....including 'i will go home with NUPUR ONLY'

Firstly, Mayank; Drunk!
- i don't take much fancy of cute-act shown in movies when characters are said to be drunk...
nut Mayu looked cuteeee.... wish this holi they had spared me of witnessing another drunk act...i dint like the second holi one...not even Arjun could make me like it to be honest

Here we are privileged to witness the graceful poetry of Vaishnavi's and Arjun's volley of visual verve.
- yeah.... their issharas before Mayank , aagyakare beta takes her permission to enter..'Maa kya main andar aa sakta hun?' and later on when he looks around to seek way to his room...everything was adorable

'sirf mein bacha hoon!'
- poor guy when he said that...i was waiting for her reaction...but Nupur surprised me and shocked him.

For me this is the moment, Shilpa Aunty's heart cemented Nupur as her daughter in law. We all fell for her charms, let alone Mayank, against all odds. How could anyone who saw her, not do so? As Shilpa Aunty says "Ab mere samaj mein aaya, kyu aaj kal Mayank tum se...."
- awesome scene it was, their sitting down next to his bed and their chat..it was totally 'by god!'......

"Nothing is real until it is observed!"
- true...infact until we experience certain emotions ...we do not tend to give them their due value/credit/respect

Step Eleven – Merry-go-rounds!

No parent's inner child can resist a spin upon a merry-go-round.
-tell me that....

Most parents would have taken this opportunity to quite righteously lay down laws, belittle egos and burst their child's bubbles. However Shilpa Aunty shows us why she is such a wonderful mother and why Mayank is the exceptional man that he has become as an adult. She overlooks his mistake, for she knows 'who' her son is, she trusts her upbringing and him.
- thats what is wonderful about her, she talks-discusses-hears-understands then helps him do the same with others as well as himself..

Arjun's and Vaishnavi's impeccably timing and execution of this intricate script is exemplary! The words on paper are quite nominal but they give them winding weighty worth!
- they are exceptional actors no doubt to that......a character but is figment of ones imagination..its the actor in terms of act and readers imagination and involvement in terms of books who give them face,life and blood.

Then slowly, slowly Shilpa Aunty begins to spin faster and faster, until Mayank is back where he left off…turning in a twitter!
- lolzz poor guy he has two 'toofan express' to match up with....

Step Twelve - Reciprocation.

I love the manner in which despite her long day, feeling very much under the weather, she sincerely smiles upon greeting Mayank at the door. No chastisement over the ration bill, no using her ill health as an excuse to wear a permanent frown. She bears in mind the reason she bears with life's trials; her son's happiness.
- its amazing how parents manage to do this always..... as myself shared with you once how Dad even though he is 'drop-dead' tired he gives up resting and gets to tutor us for our year ahead or for exams.

On a personal note, I have always loved it when a person takes another's bag and belongings; to me it signifies a physical manifestation of their tacit intent, to bear the burdens of their beloved.
- something which Mayank has so well inherited from her....

Mayank essays the role of 'parent' once again but is unable to maintain this position for long before being returned to the place that not only suits him best, but that place his heart craves to rest; little Mayu to his mom! That oh! so cute, child-like and sullen face!
- Arjun truly was cute-adorable beyond words in these scenes

That irrepressible smile creeping over 'focused' Mayank's face, mind and heart signifying a deep truth; although for most men the way to their heart is through their stomachs, for Mayank is not! Surprisingly it is neither through his mind. For Mayank, the way to this heart is through this heart.
- BIG BEAR HUG for this.....this is exactly how Mayank is..straight,simple.....and unique..so I guess the age old formula does not apply to him

For when he warns Nupur not to come crying to him when things fail upon her, it is his who returns to her; when destiny interrupts his sincere and goodly life's goals with a road block, he routes out a new scenic journey; when Bauji thrusts upon him the 'burden' of love, he adjusts the scales and finds therein balance.
- another BIG..nay POLAR BEAR HUG for this..polar bear coz...hmmm..i like them..heeeheeehe
its truly hard to see one who does not just carry on the responsibilities put on him by birth/life/destiny but lives them with love and faith......i love his being such a responsible man...never-ever running away from them.....he can shy away from his own feelings but never from his responsiblities..
remember the first time they meet Mayank's 'main maidan chodkar janai walo sai nahi hun' and this he has sticked true to it till date.
be it in their first meet scene..or when during the talent parade even though hell angry with her he still performs or trip when he comes after her and saves her or when he goes to Moreana or when he comes to meet Bui after the latter comes to know of the truth or his deceision to marry her even though unprepared for it or the way he double-shifts alongside his studies to make the ends meet or even though he is big time unprepared to welcome Nupur's pregnancy yet he is ready to do that for their sake etc etc etc etc......list is long.....he is responsible to the core

This is how Shilpa Aunty's radiance lights up Mayank's soul. This is the truth of goodness, love and light; it overflows through our sinews, veins and blood, overwhelming our souls and cores looking for new avenues to freely flow upon; so that when it is our turn to reciprocate it is never proportional but exponential.
- wonderful..

Step thirteen - 'Live' Pause.

In the scenes previous to this, we witness Mayank fast forward the conclusion of his discussion with CJ; mute Nupur and rewind their relationship back to a point where they were mere acquaintances. Naivety indeed, for as Shilpa Aunty understands, no matter how many times you may rewind life eventually you have to either play forward or eject!
- he so badly wanted to believe all is same as it was before Nupur entered with a big bang in his life,in his heart.

I applaud MJHT for their well rounded characterization of Shilpa Aunty; a parent but also a woman who intertwines classic wisdom with modern charm. When life impinges upon her leisure time, she 'live' pauses the intrusion and saturates her conversation with Nupur in filmy fun! This 'live' pausing can only be accomplished by the joyful at heart; those souls whom beauty itself seeks out for respite!
- truly she a classic example of perfect characterization....and the convo to Mayank's err was great fun to us...and adorable

Much to Mayank's chagrin she talks to her ally openly in the face of his hostility; unable to unpause this 'live' pause he leaves, understanding that in this scene he is a mere man between two women's friendship.
-yet again i want to say poor Mayu....no way he can beat these two ladies....in the end its he who is lose to their charms.

done.....me finally got to answer your post..i was feeling so awful missing being here...as Jess said its great pleasure reading your thoughts and more pleasurable is your presentation of it....many do have much to say but they lack either the grace or the command over their thoughts , but you are exceptional....its always getting a new vision into things from your point of view...its a learning experience and learning is what i cherish the most
love you a lot Big Sis🤗

Quote

2kul4u

@2kul4u

Explorer

Posted: 15 years ago

#305

Originally posted by: a little faith

I beseech God for his bounty.

Step 7 - Anger Management.

Fight fire with water or fight fire with fire. Fire-fighters and mothers alike instinctively know when to use which dampening method. However amateurs should call the 'hotline', for 'back-fires' have an unpredictable tendency that can result in despoliation.

{Lesson 7 By Mayank. Golden Life Rule:- Never raise your voice at your mom. As for the rest, a roaring lion has acres of personal space.}

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWUsurfHDAM[/YOUTUBE]

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xp8_kVQGsPA[/YOUTUBE]

Shilpa Aunty's parenting skills should be applauded. Many parents get into a rut with their children. The same tactics garnering the same responses over and over again until as they say "the moment you realise your parents were correct, your children begin telling you that you are wrong."

In the first instance she uses water and instinctively changes tactics in the second incident and uses fire. She knows that in the first the raging fire burning was devastating Mayank whereas in the second, it was fiercely fuelling a life of passion. I added scenes of CJ too because like the star she is, she too instinctively uses water in the first instance and fire in the second instance to manage the inferno that is Mayank.

Fighting fire with water.

She enters the room to find Mayank as 'depressed' as his cushion. As you would puff up that poor pillow, she tries to tease some life back into Mayank by asking about the adoration of his fans, unaware of the store of static produced by unseen 'friction' and receives an electric shock!

That apparent hurt upon hurt upon Mayank's face. The disappointment of Nupur's actions over which his own disappointment of his actions in front of his mother.

She pats away those remnants of rage with the glistening moisture upon her palms.

Then my favourite line, not for its eloquence but for its historical depth. Truthfully, it caught me off guard as when Mayank moved those tea things between him and his mother and said those sweet tones of love, back in step one. Maybe it was because unlike the majority of epiphanies about others it preceded by a lull before the lightening lights up your enlightened mind.

"Saal mein aata hai, lekin narq pe"

KYA? Saal Mein? Is it just a turn of phrase? Sarcasm? For me it denotes the blissful harmony of Shilpa Aunty's melody which Mayu hums along to without EVER needing to change the tune.

Fighting fire with fire.

Then number two in my top two favourite Shilpa Aunty moments (number one in Step 8, please inform me of yours too). Vaishnavi's endearing facial expressions combined with that famous sass, or 'Smart Alec Sharma Sarcasms' are impeccably timed to perfection. The fact Arjun managed to stay in character is a testament to his acting ability. Shilpa Aunty's insincere innocent expressions and mannerisms pull the strings of my heart like under the command of a master puppeteer.

Maa, aap geeta mere liye parli ho, ya apne aap ke liye?

Beta, mein itne zor se parai hi ho, toh obviously tumarai liye parai hi ho!

Thanks but mein already parla ha ho.

Jo tum roz karte ho...lekin mujhe geeta zada interesting lagi, is liye maine socha ke mein tume bhi suna thi ho.

Waise, ab tak jo maine parra tune suna ke nahin?

Jab aap kuch bolti ho, nahin suney ka option hai?

That's great! - can't resist that nose nudge!

Ab mein shlok ka mathlab samjati ho. {My hindi & Sanskrit understanding is shamefully terrible, so my attempted translation of the next part will be appalling if not unintentionally offensive. IF someone could help me then I can edit (with credit)}EDIT (Credit to my translator, the very talented and ever so helpful 'JESS'!

Jab kissi Manushka dhyyan kissi vastu ke tara jaata hai...

When a unique, strong, independent person goes intently towards some object

toh uska mann use ke liye akarshit;

Jess "when you notice a beautiful unique object, your mind gets attracted towards that object... out of curiosity, out of mere attraction."

Aur us aakarshan se paida hoti hai Ichha aur Ichha se Krodh, Eersha.

Jess "Attraction fuels strongs desires... and strong desires can lead to anger, grudge, jealousy..."

(The kindling of Mayank's fervent indignation exquisitely animated by Arjun!)

kya samje?

aap ko kya lagta hai? nupur se mein krodhit ho? mujhe vo acchi lagti hai, aur muhje uski taraf KYA mehsuus hota hai? aakarsha?

Jess "She was trying to tell him indirectly that he is attracted to her... but he is miunderstanding that attraction and instead leading to anger, hatred and jeallousy against Nupur..."

Are bhai, isme Nupur kahan se aagaye? mein toh geeta ke baat karaye thi!

KYA?!

Shilpa Aunty uses the 'bazooka' in the parent's arsenal. No child can argue with the words of God! She has chosen the best verse to channel the fire towards a positive end.

Fighting fires on two fronts with one water 'sprinkler' system.

As subtle as a changes in summer's breezes, for you don't notice the varying directions it comes from, only that it comes; she uses water to abate the inflamed vim of both Mayank and Nupur; she understands the fruitlessness of wicks that burn through before all the aromatic wax has had time to fragrantly melt.

i am posting here after ages, i am feeling so nostalgic, *smells the air around* i am writing something after very long time sabah. i am pretty sure it will not make any sense, even less than usual. i promise it will be better next time.

the scene where mayank talks to his mom about nupur is one of my most favorite mayank-mom scenes, it brought a whole new dimension to his personality, the sensitive mayank. i am struggling with my post as it is & the black vest is distracting me *stops rewinding the scene again & again*

the talent parade was classic in true sense, both were right in their places & i loved it. but mayank was so rude to nupur, i wanted to spank him. we all think nupur is nautanki but even mayank is no less 'he says to his mom, usne apko bhi dhoka diya' LMAO drama queen kahika.

both of them have that extreme over-reaction streak in them. just when i thought he is an iron man with stone heart, he does something so endearing & unexpected, i go back to being a fan girl.

look at his small sad smile, it melted my stone heart. when he sits on the bed with disappointment on his face saying, 'mujhe laga mera bhi koi dost hain' my mouth fell open & i went all awwwww, and when he smiles that soft sad smile with hurt, i hugged my tv set yelling 'mayank, i will be your friend' of course my family thought i lost it, hmpf that is because they do not watch the show.

they show a guy with arrogant streak, who cares/needs no one, marches to his own rhythm & insufferably rigid. not exactly the dream guy, then he shows his vunerable side, makes a puppy dog face & says he had a friend for the first time & it felt nice,it tugs at my heart strings everytime.

*looks at the pic* if a guy that cute smiles like that, i will forgive him without an apology. mayank is such a paradox. i loved figuring him out.

he is generally helpful towards his peers yet always keeps them at bay by passing sarcastic remarks on them.

he taunts nupur & practically insults her yet always feels protective of her & 'saves' her whenever needed.

a hero who ignored & tried to run a mile away from the heroine because he loved her 😍

whats not to love? well yeah, i realised i love guys who mess with head😆. i loved his complexity & many layers. the scene where shilpa aunty starts reciting the geeta slokas🤣 she was fabulous no doubt, but i enjoyed arjun's expressions, from that sarcastic,fake grin on his face which turns to shock/surprise & finall anger and jumps from bed. mayank is someone who has a certain image of himself in his mind, he has a set of priciples, a certain do's & dont's, which definitely do not include love. his image is so important & so firm in his mind that even if he feels something he dismisses it or denies it because it is not in the rule book. who knows it better than shilpa aunty😉 hence she always tries to make him step out & almost tells him he has feelings for nupur. but mayank being mayank denies it.

the second video is seriously rofl worthy. i was angry with mayank for insulting nupur, but the line 'jab koi pet pakad ke hasega to kaise bolega' LMAO more than the dialogue the glee with which mayank says it is hilarious. i loved their boxing match with shilpa aunty as referee.

geez, i am supposed to be writing about shilpa aunty-mayank, but i wrote only about mayank i guess. the mayank fan girl in me is coming out phut phut ke today, because spain won YAY! the twisted logic of mine but i am really happy today. i love spain & dislike portugal & spain won hands down in the match. ronaldo the portugal star, started crying LMFAO football matches give tv shows a run for their money. i swear i will write like a sane person next time. loved your analysis. you post speaks my mind & there is nothing left to write. brilliant post.

love you loads

teju

Quote

1 ... 27 28 29 30 31

Guide to Parenting by Shilpa Sharma MESSAGE pg37 - Page 31

Related Topics

Explore Topics