Originally posted by: bashingHater
Lakshmi
Thank you for the appreciation. I just try to relate the concepts I've studied in subjects like psychology and organizational behavior which deal with human emotions and psyche with the situations portrayed in the show.
One confession, I was one of the people who was angry at Dev's actions after the first break up but after studying these subjects, I viewed his actions differently.
Moving on to the analysis part.
I was MIA yesterday as I was waiting for the realization part to play a little longer. Hence, I waited for today's episode to put across my thoughts. I wanted to see both of them telling about their struggle in these years without each other's support and how difficult it was for them to survive in these dire conditions. Also, I wanted them to convey their complaints in a humane, comprehensible way to each other so that they are able to learn about each other's expectations. But never mind, I am contented with what I saw and so I start my gibberish.
Parallels:
1. Dev blaming Sonakshi for helping his enemy Khatri was reminiscent to the time when Bijoy blamed Ishwari and the gang for Elena's going AWOL. In both the scenes, the observant jumped to conclusions due to their impulsive nature and misconstrued other person's actions.
2. Dev and Sonakshi's showdown was similar to their showdown in Dev's office where she found him in inebriated state. In the office scene, Sonakshi found him in a miserable state and tried to make him understand the situation. Dev understood his shortcomings and exclaimed to Sonakshi "Do my actions hurt you this much."
Similarly, she also found Dev in a miserable state at the farmhouse and wanted to make him understand the situation. He discerned his shortcomings but this time he openly expressed them to her. Not only this, in this situation, Sonakshi also accepted her shortcomings and expressed after realizing the effect of her actions on him.
3. I felt that Dev not opening up to Sonakshi in the car at first and then crying in front of Ishwari's picture and blaming himself is replaying of the scene where Dev is crying after Neha's wedding. After Neha departs, he shuts himself from the outer world and walks restlessly, letting his guilt eat him up. It is when Sonakshi consoles him and lends a crying shoulder, he cries profusely and explains her how guilty he is for not spending time with Neha. She calms him down and tells him how he was not at fault and how was he a great brother.
Similarly, Dev accepts his guilt regarding Suhana after Sonakshi's consolation in the car scene. Whereas in picture crying scene, he openly blames himself for the circumstances and not able to spend time with Ishwari and giving her the space to open up about her problems. Sonakshi calms him down and tells him how is he a good son and a good father and was not at fault in all this.
Deductions:
- Like I mentioned in my previous post, Dev believes in prevention of repercussions and is ready to take the blame. This trait of his came in front of us when he is shown to take the blame on himself for his mother's theft. He does not want to face the after effects of this secret's revelation i.e; He can not and does not want to (not allowed to) think that his mother can commit robbery which is why he is blaming his actions which forced her to commit the crime (trait of an emotionally abused child).
- Sonakshi always understood the importance of trust and camaraderie in a relationship which is evident by her talks with Dev after their fight on the issue regarding buying Ranveer a flat. But did not trust him with issues involving Ishwari. She knew that Dev would not support her in front of his mom but could not comprehend the reason for his support against the wrong thing (Neha's divorce, Sonakshi's infertility revelation, Sauruv's loan, Aunty calling incident and Vicky's job fiasco) as she was unaware of the hypnosis effect. Sonakshi could compromise her respect and her rights to some extend but she could not compromise on her morals which is why she could not fathom Dev behaving so irrationally and supporting something which was evidently wrong in front of his mother and acting differently when he was alone. Hence, she believes Dev did not take stand for her even when he knew she was right. So what I was trying to say was that she has now realized that she let her trust get affected by the situations faced in Ishwari Niwas and was unable to understand the guilt he had to face.
- Dev opens his heart only in front of Sonakshi , Golu (not completely) and Suhana. He did not give this power to anyone else. Hence, he puts his heart on his sleeve only in front of these people. One more thing, why do you think Dev always asked Sonakshi to understand the reasons for his actions. In his subconscious, he is somehow aware of the emotional abuse and the hypnosis effect. Therefore, he wanted Sonakshi to understand the guilt he has to face due to Ishwari's extreme behavior and help him to empower himself and get rid of this guilt. He always considered Sonakshi to be his soul healer and wanted her to provide him the emotional support Ishwari was unable to give, which is why it may seem he was more inclined to Sonakshi as compared to her.
- I still believe there is more to Ishwari's truth. I wrote this in someone's post: With the way the story is moving forward, the redemption and rule of justice will take place at the end of the series. However, Ishwari's theft is not justified and can not be justified. Although, it validates Karl Marx's theory about social discrimination, it is against the morals of Ishwari which was shown before Sonakshi's entry in Dev's life.
I still believe there is more to Ishwari's secret since putting Dev in an expensive school means she wanted Dev to get better education so she could quickly enshroud herself from the society and opted to steal. But why did she feel the need to save herself from the society is something I am not able to fathom and does need more revelation. Also, Ishwari's redemption requires the extirpation or reduction of her narcissism which is why she needs a person who understands people and knows human psyche which can very well be played by Sonakshi as she has INTP personality with perceiving quotient above 70 percent (her traits show that).
- Sonakshi now considers Dev as her friend and is providing him the support a friend gives in hard times. Uptill now, she did not consider Dev as anybody in his life, just a father to her daughter, but after Ishwari's truth, she wants to help him empower him as a friend. Dev also wants her to help him empower himself. Dev always considered her his wife even when she was away which is why he wanted to show his hurt through his hurtful acts. But after Sonakshi's emotional breakdown, he thinks that Sonakshi also considers him as her husband which made her confide in him regarding her mistakes. He believes that Sonakshi is trusting him as a partner but she is only trusting him as a friend.
- Both Dev and Sonakshi wanted their respective partners to be different from their respective parents. Dev wanted Sonakshi to emotionally support him and become his confidant unlike Ishwari whereas Sonakshi expected unpredictability and excitement/thrill from Dev which Bijoy was unable to give her meaning that she led a boring life with a fixed routine. But fate made them separate from each other when they ended up being what their partner did not want them to become i.e; Sonakshi became Ishwari when she did not support him and give him emotional stability whereas Dev became Bijoy and could not provide her the fairy tale romance and burdened her with expectations repeatedly.
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