Friend falls in unrequited love with you--so you break the friendship? - Page 4

Originally posted by: Shanaia

You all are saying Swara is "too good", "mahaan" etc etc.

Really, she is so "mahaan", then why didn't she pat Sanskaar on the shoulder and told him "she is disapponted but not angry?"

If she is so "mahaan", then why did she said that they would not be friends anymore?

Her mission to unite her parents has become her aim of life to a fault. And being this good, still loving her sister despite knowing her evil, still supporting her brother-in-law does not make her "MAHAAN"...

It describes her weakness...She loves her parents dearly...so she does not want anyone to distract her from her mission...not even Sanskaar.

And that her biggest flaw...she forgives too easily...she gives second chances without hesitance and accept the apology even if its fake.

Thats not being "mahhan" but being a "flawed " person.

Its her biggest weakness that she is so good and thats what makes her human.

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

I would have been more surprised if Swara had not reacted the way she did today. Intentionally or not, the creatives of this show have hit the right note with Swara's characterization today.

I understand how rude it sounds, hearing Swara telling Sanskar he betrayed her.. but it is perfectly understandable given her history on this subject and I do not mean what Sanskar did to separate her and Laksh.

Swara has come out of a bad relationship, a relationship that started out as friendship and was a one-sided love from Laksh that changed to her falling in love with him and we know how that ended. She sees Ragini and what she sees is a one sided affair that is destroying many lives including her mother's and hers.

She is in a marriage that she knows is false and now she has the added knowledge that Sanskar has fallen in love with her. She is burdened by this and she is lashing out.

To her, the fact that Sanskar could even think of their relationship in this way is currently too much to take. Swara is intelligent enough to understand that somewhere she is the reason for Sanskar falling in love with her and she does not want that now. She cannot love him back, not now. And she was in this same situation before.. With Lakshya... We know how that turned her world upside down..

Maybe she will develop some feeling for Sanskaar later on, but currently, she is not in that place where she can confidently look at a person who she considers a friend and tell him that she does not love him.. And she thought Sanskaar was so different from Lakshya.. So no wonder she was wary and angry.

I like Sanskar's answer though. He told her that he cannot change the way he feels about her and will not apologize for falling for her.

When Swara gets time to breath sometime in the future, she can probably think back to this and understand the difference between the way Laksh reacted when he was in a similar situation and the way Sanskaar is handling it now. She will then probably understand that she has no reason to freak out.

Originally posted by: bips

I would agree that this could be an excellent reason for her behaviour HAD they shown it.

As a viewer how can i figure out what the character is thinking unless you show it through actions or dialogues

Which dialogue conveyed that she is scared of history repeating itself ?

... And neither did her expressions.

She just looked royally pissed. I didn't see her look scared or confused ... she just looked inconvenienced - like dude we have a mission and dont waste my time with this nonsense

Originally posted by: cutyeeedoll

Another thing came to my mind.Swara should have understood sanky's love because once even she had been in love with her bestfrnd laksh! Sanky didnt cheat you ACTUALLY swara. He never said that he wants to get engaged with someone else n then came to you saying that actually he loves YOU. Falling in love with a besfrind is quite normal n situations are not handled this way. Instead that one sided love is given a support of friendship so that he can move on if you are unable to love him back. If you deny this way breaks all ties then that person might lose hope in love forever. You might have broken friemdship if he ever would have tried to touch you forcibly. I agree she s too afraid to fall in love all over again but swara sanky never asked to do that. You are living with him as fake wife. He could have forced himself upon you n you would not have been able to say anything as you are pretending to be his wife. He never asked you to get married to him. Even now he s kidnaping lux ji to save you n ur mission.
Actually many a times CVs give compltly wrong dialogues to their characters. That was not at all good today 😭
Hope no one is annoyed with my so big big posts

Originally posted by: jasmine_anih

I agree with your post Swaara was completely wrong in the way she handled Sanskar's reaction.

I feel like her friendship with Sanskar was so genuine that she never really thought about how she acted around him or what he thought about her actions. They understood each other. If he is in love with her, she has think about how she acts around him.

When a friend is in love with you and you don't feel the same, the friendship changes. You take steps and create some distance just so you can get perspective. The problem is Swaara needs her friend and they cannot separate because they are "married." She doesn't want to leave and she cannot stay.

I think she like him, when your in a relationship don't you blame your significant other for stupid things they have no control over and say it's your fault. She can push him away because he won't leave her.

Originally posted by: Shanaia

Swara has never expressed her emotions fully to anyone, accept dida n shomi,

And now she expresses some of them to Sanskaar.

But you know what, she never said "I love you " to Laksh, she never told him her feelings, she never expressed anything but that didn't mean that she did not love him.

Its a given that she hides her true emotions under layers of other matters.So now she is not gonna tell Sanskaar that she is scared or anything like that.

She has channeled all her feelings into one emotion that is anger and it may be a flawed means of venting her frustration but that makes her character much more understandable...well atleast for me.