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Ok, I am making this post with quite a bit of trepidation coz I'm pretty scared people might think I am trying to bash Swara or whatever. But seriously, genuinely, that is furthest from the truth. I deeply admire the character's spunk and determination. Apart from the fact that I have no clue why she wants Shomi to rejoin with that invertebrate Shekhar, Swara has nearly always made admirable choices and decisions throughout.
All the same, I finished watching today's episode with extremely ambivalent feelings. Many of us would have gone through a situation where one's friend (maybe even best friend) falls in unrequited love with you. Or maybe its the reverse, we might have fallen in unrequited love with our close friend.
In the vast majority of the cases, if you value the friendship, you work your way around it. Sometimes, the one sided confession is a trigger for realization that the feeling is in fact, mutual. But more often, even if the feeling is not reciprocated, the friends sit together and manage the salvage the friendship--if they actually value it so much in the first place.
I just found today's Swara--Sanskaar interaction...I don't know how to put it...disappointing despite being tantalizing. Its a conundrum, I know, but as I said, I just felt so...ambivalent about it.
Here is the guy who you feel has become such a close friend of yours. He helped to ensure your mom was not sent to jail. He helped in your plan to foil the divorce papers being sent by your misguided Dad to your Mom. Sure, this friend of yours committed a big sin against you in the past, but he is literally bending over backwards to be a total bedrock of support to you since then.
You have kept on and on saying that you have forgiven him completely, and you believe in him completely now. Suddenly, in a moment of drunken weakness, he confesses that he is in love with you. Maybe you feel its just an infatuation, born of his feeling of guilt.
My question is very simple: Why not just freaking tell him:
A) I don't think you actually love me, its just your guilt talking
B) I need you as a friend, but that's all we'll ever be. Don't expect me to fall in love with you.
C) I have lost all faith in this emotion called love. I am just focused on my parent's relationship.
Any and all of the above reasons fit the Swara--Sanskaar situation, but No, Swara has to tell him that the friendship also means zilch now. Aaj se, only mission, no friendship, nothing. Tum apne raste mein jao, main apne raste. I just feel its so harsh, and more importantly, its a rotten way to manage a friendship, a close friendship at that.
Not bashing Swara at all here, just wondering why the writers put such words into the mouth of a character, who is otherwise shown to be so aware of the importance of relationships.
All the same, I finished watching today's episode with extremely ambivalent feelings. Many of us would have gone through a situation where one's friend (maybe even best friend) falls in unrequited love with you. Or maybe its the reverse, we might have fallen in unrequited love with our close friend.
In the vast majority of the cases, if you value the friendship, you work your way around it. Sometimes, the one sided confession is a trigger for realization that the feeling is in fact, mutual. But more often, even if the feeling is not reciprocated, the friends sit together and manage the salvage the friendship--if they actually value it so much in the first place.
I just found today's Swara--Sanskaar interaction...I don't know how to put it...disappointing despite being tantalizing. Its a conundrum, I know, but as I said, I just felt so...ambivalent about it.
Here is the guy who you feel has become such a close friend of yours. He helped to ensure your mom was not sent to jail. He helped in your plan to foil the divorce papers being sent by your misguided Dad to your Mom. Sure, this friend of yours committed a big sin against you in the past, but he is literally bending over backwards to be a total bedrock of support to you since then.
You have kept on and on saying that you have forgiven him completely, and you believe in him completely now. Suddenly, in a moment of drunken weakness, he confesses that he is in love with you. Maybe you feel its just an infatuation, born of his feeling of guilt.
My question is very simple: Why not just freaking tell him:
A) I don't think you actually love me, its just your guilt talking
B) I need you as a friend, but that's all we'll ever be. Don't expect me to fall in love with you.
C) I have lost all faith in this emotion called love. I am just focused on my parent's relationship.
Any and all of the above reasons fit the Swara--Sanskaar situation, but No, Swara has to tell him that the friendship also means zilch now. Aaj se, only mission, no friendship, nothing. Tum apne raste mein jao, main apne raste. I just feel its so harsh, and more importantly, its a rotten way to manage a friendship, a close friendship at that.
Not bashing Swara at all here, just wondering why the writers put such words into the mouth of a character, who is otherwise shown to be so aware of the importance of relationships.
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