Friend falls in unrequited love with you--so you break the friendship? - Page 6

Originally posted by: kaku17

Brilliant post Cogito. 👏 yesterday I was thoroughly disappointed. Oh yes I could understand Swara's anger, frustration with Sanskaar but "betrayal" ? It was a little too OTT for me and then in a huff she decides that there's no more friendship between them, yet she expects sanskaar to work with her in fulfilling their mission and after that " tum apne raaste, main apne raaste". Their mission, like seriously girl. swara being a practical and analytical girl could have resolved the issue in a mature manner but no she ended up reprimanding him for betraying his trust. Man that's insane. Where does betrayel come in to the picture? Swara to me came across as a very rude and selfish person yesterday and that's very unlike her. it left a pretty bad taste in my mouth.

Swara infact at times to me comes across as a confused person. She has different set of rules for everyone. For her she keeps harping upon trust, but fails to see the same trust lacking in her parents relation and she is pretty ok about that. Shekhar, that moronic piece of s*** has abused the word trust so many times, yet she wants her wonderful mother to be with him. why I wonder? may be she can play family family then.

as far as people saying that for her history is repeating itself and therefore she is getting scared. I doubt that. Lux was her best friend, but she was made to fall for him. Somewhere I still feel she never loved him. He was way down the pecking order in her life. For her it was always her parents, ragz, dida, dadi and then it was lakshya. And then one says that she loved him. She never bothered to convey her feelings to him, as if lux is a clairvoyant and would understand her without saying anything. * rolls eyes in bewilderment*. It was always lux who did the running. And as far as her grieving is concerned for her lost love, I must say cvs really botched that as it never came across. Not once did she have any fb of her time with lakshya. I can't believe I am talking for lux. Somebody kill me plz. 🤢.

I agree that sans confession has compounded her problems and has shaken her quiet refuge, but girl a bit of maturity and manners always helps. Somewhere I also feel that by saving sanskaar, she was saving ragini from further degrade, as if left to sans, he would have got her shredded to pieces in the court. So here also her main motive was again her dear sister. see now I have started becoming unreasonable, all thanks to her one word "betrayel". 😡

I am hoping that from now on sans will not spout his "love" for her, but support her. obviously the wedding will happen and after her mission gets complete, sans gives her divorce stating her own condition " after mission tum apne raaste main apne raaste" and then I want to see swara moving heaven and earth to save her relation. As I have had enough of men running after her. now its about time she does the running. period.

Rant over 😆

Originally posted by: CogitoErgoSum

😊 Oh I agree she is under stress. Nor am I saying that she should not have confronted him/ been frustrated with him. But I think her saying, aaj se friendship khatam, is not a very sensible way of handling it. It sticks in the craw, because Swara is always shown as being this thought driven, cerebral person, not given to very rash decisions.

She doesn't want to accept his love, fine. He never forced her. But to say he betrayed her, seems kinda childish.

I have no doubt that some friendships cannot survive the strain of one person feeling this unrequited love. But all the same, if the friendship is close enough, normally the people in question do try to salvage it, not try to shut the window from the get go.

Originally posted by: Rachel006

swara always does the same when laksh confessed his luv to her she did the same n told he was her best friend bt nw he betrayed her sister and nw when sanskar confessed his luv she is telling he was my best friend but nw he betrayed me

Originally posted by: JazzyM

Me too.. For sure both Sanksaar and Swara have been under lots of stress the whole night...in the case of Swara, the sindoor on her maang filled by Sanskaar and her mother's impending arrest must have been killers. To impound it, in drunken state (this is Sanskaar trying to reduce his stress level), blurts out the truths, admits his mistakes and then takes the whopper by saying he loves her...

I don't think, anyone in Swara's position would have been able to understand the situation. Then, comes the stupid allegation of rape. Here she is, still floundering with Sanskaar's revelation, now, she needs to think clearly to clear Sankaar's name without jeopardizing Ragini...what a mess.

So, stress in full throttle.

I would have snapped at Sanskaar too, even with him puppy eyes... but then, telling him, friendship is kaatam, only mission...???? why should he support her in her mission if friendship itself is no longer there...this truly shows how stressful Swara is...

Originally posted by: CogitoErgoSum

Yes, but you see, Lakshya was, in a sense, betraying Ragini, wasn't he? He got engaged to her, broke up, in between confessed to Swara when she suspected that Ragini still had residual feelings for him. And then kept badgering and pursuing Swara to persuade her about his love.

And then, in an impulsive decision, decides to get engaged to Ragini again! (Of course, this time it was supposedly for Sanskaar...but still...). One ca understand, why Swara would feel irritated at Lakshya's constant flip flop.

But how, exactly, has Sanskaar "betrayed" her? She feels irritated at the changes this would make in their friendship, fine. If that was the worry, she can bring subtle distance in their friendship-- not letting him hold her shoulder to comfort her, for example. Not turning to his warm embrace when she is feeling low, for example. Basically, retain him as a friend, but maintaining a conscious distance so that he knows he cannot expect more.

Isn't that how people normally react to a situation like this?

Originally posted by: CogitoErgoSum

<font face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size="2">Hey Preet. Thanks for commenting yaar. 😊

I just wanted to say: I fully expected Swara to be angry, disappointed, frustrated, all of that. But there were literally half a dozen other things she could have said, to show her anger, Of course, she is not in a frame of mind to consider Sanskaar's love right now. But saying "ab se dosti no more" 😊 was too OTT. It doesn't suit Swara, is all. </font><font face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size="2">At least, IMO. </font>😉