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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: ritzbitz786


If they show her marrying Ishaan, it will be because she loves him. Writers are hinting it, the only thing left is Mauli confessing it and hearing it from the horses mouth.


i have a confession to make...i am two months behind... 😆😆 so whatever my opinion is right now is based on what ive seen thus far!
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: FruitToasty


Progressive and regressive are cool words, but generally not used correctly.. It is a subjective matter, every relationship is different...

Nandini forgiving Rajdeep for rape and domestic violence = Regressive

Because forgiving a rapist or a murderer is not an option, it's not even upto her, there's no option of a rapist changing because he has already committed a crime, he should be punished for a crime ..


Cheating is not a crime, Kunal is not a habitual cheater, forgiving Kunal or not is upto Mauli...

Mauli can forgive Kunal and marry Ishaan because she loves him, Mauli can forgive Kunal and be with him because she loves him... There's nothing progressive or regressive here, it's upto Mauli, it's her choice to make...

If she marries Ishaan it will be because she loves him, she was marrying him for Mishti but in the end I think that will change ..

If Mauli marries Kunal, she won't accept a cheater, she is not accepting his cheating, she will accept a man who regrets leaving her and she believes has changed ..

So in Maunal endgame...Kunal will apologize and repent

In MauHaan endgame Mauli will confess her love..

There's nothing progressive or regressive in both relationships


okay maybe forwards / backwards would be better words to use in this situation (?) from what ive seen so far (im two months behind) although ishaan is the pragmatic choice because of a whole slew of things, he would be a step backwards for her. if she had gotten over kunal 6/7 years ago the way she should of at the time, with some counselling or with someone helping her through her ptsd, than when a guy like ishaan or anyone else worthwhile came along she wouldnt be stuck between a rock and hard place trying to keep that relationship within certain parameters because kunal still occupied her heart.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: jhalak7


You are not understanding the situation properly.
1)Mauli loves Ishan. So that shadi will not be loveless.
2)On the other hand she hates Kunal now. She mentioned Ishan that kunal makes her feel uncomfortable.
3( She was angry at Mishti, Pari and Ishan because they took Kunal to his house. Reason she thought this will delay his memory come back. She wants his memory back as soon as possible.
4) If she loved Kunal she would let it happen in the hotel. Did she?
5) More than anything Kunal doesn't love Mauli.
6) Kunal saw a dream of Nandu even in memory loss. He brought exact saree for Mauli, thinking it was Mauli. He was forcing Mauli to wear that saree. If Mauli was a |witch" who wants to get Kunal by hook and crool or a despo or a doormat to take anything Kunal gives...she would accept that offer. But what did she say"Are you sure ...it was me?" Did you see her expression?...It was lil bit of hate and taunting.
7) When Kunal went to his house he saw all the memories of Nandini. Nandini is in his mind and heart...he loves her only.


When Kunal doesn't love Mauli and Mauli doesn't love Kunal...why will they marry each other? Woh bhi when Kunal is suffering from memoryu loss. He will hate Mauli if she marry him now. And why will a self suffivient woman like Mauli will be a shoe dust to a guy who doesn't love her anymore?
Mia Biwi koi bhi raazi nehi...toh kaun sa payar or kaun sa shadi???


okay i have to admit i havent seen the show up-to-date so i guess a lot has happened since they were at the gujarati relief camp. i will say though, that "self-sufficient" does not necessarily translate to you having a handle on everything in your life. you can be the MOST independant, "dont-need-no-man", career oriented etc woman but how you handle yourself in those situations will not necessarily reflect you having the capacity to see when something is right/wrong for your emotional and mental health.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Sabhayata

Why should society tell her what to do 😆 ? If Mauli goes back to Kunal it's regressive because she is choosing to live with a cheater husband who humiliated her and she is choosing to live her life as a second choice , as a consulation prize. Same way if she chooses to marry Ishaan so that Mishti can have a father then it's regressive as well. If she doesnt love Ishaan then being alone would be the progressive option.


i agree with you completely, at this point neither one seem like a good choice for HER. but let's call a spade a spade here. desi culture / society does dictate everything you do.
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Originally posted by: poiu123

How do you know Mauli does not love Ishaan? If the writers show a MauHaan ending they will show her love confession to Ishaan also .


im two months behind (im on the episode where they come back from the relief camp in gujarat) and she doesnt appear to love him...or maybe she does but she isnt at love with him at this point...
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: poiu123


If Kunal regrets leaving Mauli it means he was not invested in his relationship with Nandini as well. So that means 2 marriages with 2 different women, yet he could not justify being a good husband to either. If in spite of this Mauli wants to give another chance to Kunal then she is not the Mauli she was portrayed to be in this show. She should not have such a low sense of self worth.


the heart wants what the heart wants though. im not justifying mauli-kunal reuniting but i understand where she is coming from because ive been though something similar where the person treated me like crap and because i was so "in love" with them i couldnt find my way out. i had to see beneath the "love" and realize that i was actually scared of losing my routine with that person, being lonely, thinking i was never going to meet any ever again etc. if she goes back to kunal than i would not be suprised. she never got the help she shouldve gotten to work through the trauma of him leaving her for nandini. i can only imagine how it would feel to think you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone only to be completely blindsided and have that person suddenly want out. it is as shocking as someone close to you suddenly dying. maybe mauli needed grief counselling. i dunno.
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Originally posted by: Sabhayata

everything in the world is subjective even cheating is subjective. But we still call Kunal a cheater selfish jerk right . Because that is how he comes across in the serial. I don't know iwhy you always relegate what Kunal did only to cheating . I will again say he did much more than cheating . He humiliated and was inhuman to Mauli . Let me repeat again he humiliated and was inhuman to Mauli. Let me again repeat humiliation and inhumanity was also there along with cheating. And that to a person with home you have lived under one roof for 7 years. I don't understand what repentance here means? Just apologising . Can Kunal repent for the fact that he insulted Mauli in front on Nandini and threw Mauli out of the house and danced with Nandini while Mauli was walking on the road with all hopes lost? Can Kunal repent for that fact that despite everything Mauli forgave him , kept a fast for him but Kunal like a jerk threw divorce papers in her face? Can Kunal repent the fact that he was marrying Nandini and making love to her while Mauli was sitting broken in their room? Can Kunal repent the fact that Mauli went through entire pregnancy alone when Kunal was busy building his new life with his new wife in US? Can all these be repented with a mere apology ? Nopes no way in the world. To show Kunal actually repenting above and redeeming himself for the above we need good writers with good writing with a lot of time . 😆 . In atleat 5-6 episodes he can't redeem himself. The only scenario I can think of is if writers take a complete U turn and Kunal says he never loved Nandini and it was always Mauli and he was only with Nandini due to Pari. Because other than that it would be mean that Mauli will always be the second choice , the consolidation prize. Which yes is regressive in every sense. That is not to say Mauli and Ishaan is the only progressive option. If Mauli doesn't love Ishaan she can be alone . Ishaan also deserves to be the first choice and not a consolation prize.If any one compromises their self respect for a relation ship then yes it is regressive . Mauli shouldn't compromise her self respect to be with Kunal and Ishaan shouldn't compromise his self respect to be with Mauli.


ultimately its up to her though. should she forgive him ? probably not. will she ? depends on how strong she is and whether she is in a good / bad place and also how vulnerable she is at the time. if she were my friend or sister i would pound it into her head everytime i saw her how kunal did the most to destroy her. but until you are mauli or have been in a situation like mauli's you wont understand how easy it is to go back to that person. him leaving her disrupted her ENTIRE life. even when he went back thinking she was pregnant she had a moment there where she just wanted things to go back to normal so badly that she was willing to give him a second chance..luckily she wasnt completely delusional and had a moment of common sense when she realized that he wasnt there b/c he wanted to give them a 2nd chance but because it was the "right" thing to do. also what about those people who believe in "for better or for worse", maybe mauli is one of those people and in her head this is kunal at his worst. 😆
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: FruitToasty


Relationships are difficult...

The post isn't about Kunal's failed marriage life, it was about "Progressive and Regressive"
I just stated that Mauli's relationship with Ishaan or Kunal is not regressive, she gets to select the one she loves, I don't think loving Kunal is regressive...

For MauHaan to happen your expectations are KuNan as true love and mine are Maunal as true love...
I will never see EMA as true love because I have been against this EMA since beginning


interesting for sure...do you think if she does chose kunal in the end that they have a fair chance at making it long term ? cuz i feel like it would take time and a lot of adjustments. and i dont think they they would ever be able to capitalize on what they had the first time around. i want to see mauli happy - okay maybe happy is a strong word, but i want to see her at restart her life from ground zero LIVING IN HER OWN APARTMENT and content with her prospects for the future. that is how i would like to see the show end.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Sabhayata

Amirthaa if you feel Kunal and Nandini were not true love then why don't you point out facts from the show that indicate the same. Not assumptions but facts, things shown and things said. What is Pari if Kunan was not true love? Is she adopted ? Why did Kunal leave his wife if 7 years and his mother and grandmother for a woman he did not truly love? Is he an idiot? Kunal has from his own mouth said several times that he truly loves Nandini. Even post leap they have shown him talking to her photo and during memory loss track he still remembered the moment he fell in love with her. These are facts . We aren't making it up.


...okay so does that mean he never loved mauli...cuz i feel like with that logic if he had left nandini in a similar manner it wouldve been " well, i guess he never loved nandini"...maybe he loved both mauli and nandini but in separate ways ? anyways im coming onto this forum late and im sure you guys have always waged 10,000 wars on this topic. 😆

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