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Daayan Bai

@KunwaariDaayan

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Posted: 12 years ago

#71

Originally posted by adeeti10

Just watched the episode Laila.

I'm not surprised... This is going exactly how Ms. Khan's other show went.

My thoughts

Asad: abuser?

He probably doesn't even know it... But he's exhibiting the signs. Only having lived in Indis, no one told him it was unacceptable.

Red flags:

1. Bad temper

2. Tendency to break objects in frustration (phone incident)

3. Pushing and shoving. For example, an abuser may hold a victim against the wall and say, "You're going to listen to me."

4. Self centredness: An expectation of being the centre of attention, having his needs anticipated. May not support or listen to others.

5. Externalises responsibility for actions: blames it on other factors like stress, frustration, etc.

6. Tendency to say hurtful things with no regard for other's feelings

7. The need to control, be in charge

Zoya: low self esteem?

Not really. She doesn't exhibit the signs.

Behaviours of someone with low self esteem - found online...

1 ' Nasty sarcasm

2 ' Bullying

3 ' Not being direct in conversation, and at the same time having no tack

4 ' Indecisiveness

5 ' Thinking you know everything

6 ' Being a perfectionist

7 ' None or not much eye contact when talking to others

8 ' Being too loud and over talkative (jabbering on)

9 ' Sniping about other people all the time, behind their backs

10 ' Lack of inner-stability and calmness

11 ' Making weak-minded excuses

12 ' Getting a job for the sake of it- where power over others is needed

13 ' Self-medicating with spending (a sign of low self-worth)

14 ' Being generally jealous of others all the time.

15 ' Constant feeling of insecurity.

16 ' Feeling like being judged all the time and unable to cope with small problems.

17 ' Nit picking at others / destructive criticism towards other

18 ' Having an inferiority complex / always feeling small

20 ' Lack of self-liking / love

21 - Passive aggression

22 - sloughed "poor me" posture with forward head

Seems like Asad has some of these traits! Poor Asad... He's flawed.

But Zoya isn't. She's just a nice, optimistic positive girl who doesn't realise he's being emotionally and physically abusive towards her.

Awsoem Adeeti!👏...if only we did have you on the creative team...then we wouldn't be seeing this mass destruction today!

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

Rocker

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Posted: 12 years ago

#72

Originally posted by: nikolai_gogol
Okay as I have forgotten the slap I really hope they don't refer to it, show it in flashback and i dont come across any vm which has that scene. Honestly i did see a vm with that scene and a terrible bg music to go with it and I'm angry again and i hope i can forget it by tomorrow afternoon in time to watch the epi. I really want to enjoy asad- zoya scenes

🤣 Poor you. Denial at its best. 😉

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#73

Serious, if just one of us was on the CV team today we would have had a better outcome...heck if they had even googled like Adeeti, we would probably have said...well, not brilliant but it was OK...acceptable or something close...not heaving our guts out in disappointment or banging our heads in frustration.

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

Rocker

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Posted: 12 years ago

#74

Check out this VM and the background song 😲 (Got to the 50 second mark)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UttUPupMQ6Y

What is wrong with some people!

Edited by Laila2009 - 12 years ago

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RadheKrish1

@RadheKrish1

Voyager

Posted: 12 years ago

#75

I tried watching today's show bc I heard Asad was going to apologize so wanted to see how it goes, but its not the same for me-not surprised. Their mitwa moments, the connection between them, their nok-jhok does not work for me anymore. Asad scares me as in, before when he got mad at Zoya it was whatever-he's an ass and hopefully they will show him change and be worthy of Zoya as shown in Darcy's character, but he is a man who crumbles under pressure which is still ok but he becomes a beast and I see him as such now!

I like their acting, I think the story has good potential with the doll factory suspense, Zoya's father's mystery, Rashid and Dilshad's history, Ayaan and Humaira storyline, but Asad and Zoya ruined it for me. I might read the updates or watch for the other mentioned stories within QH but Zoya Asad qubool nahin hai for me. Now when he gets upset with her I want to smack him. The magic is lost!

I will still be around reading positive and meaningful posts and responding to them but frankly speaking there's quite a few negative and stupid posts which disgust me...

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Daayan Bai

@KunwaariDaayan

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 12 years ago

#76

I guess that is it for the so called redemption track and back to the normalcy of ASya land as if nothing ever happened!

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whatthewhat

@whatthewhat

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#77

Originally posted by: Rockerchic
But since you've already made me come out of my non-thinking zone.

Asad was sorry because he hit her without a reason. Not because hitting someone is wrong.

Can it really get more pathetic than that?

That's a sure sign of physical abuse tendency.

How absolutely pathetic!

Next time Asad'll make sure to have a reason before hitting her...

Charming!

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whatthewhat

@whatthewhat

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#78

Originally posted by: Laila2009
Check out this VM and the background song 😲 (Got to the 50 second mark)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UttUPupMQ6Y

What is wrong with some people!

OH. MY. GOD!!!!!

Seriously?????!!!!!!!!!!!!

And people are still wondering why we think this is dangerous?!

btw...LOVED the "haq hai bas mera" bg music...(i'm being sarcastic of course). It illustrates exactly what we've been saying is so obscene about this show ...

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#79

Originally posted by: narangi314

OH. MY. GOD!!!!!

Seriously?????!!!!!!!!!!!!

And people are still wondering why we think this is dangerous?!

btw...LOVED the "haq hai bas mera" bg music...(i'm being sarcastic of course). It illustrates exactly what we've been saying is so obscene about this show ...

🤣

Seriously, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry when I saw it...I was like what is wrong with some people!

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Rupunzale

@Rupunzale

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#80

Originally posted by: shaz2009
I guess that is it for the so called redemption track and back to the normalcy of ASya land as if nothing ever happened!

shazie...I cannot stand the sight of Asad anymore...let alone digest a forced romance. No way I am accepting their romance. I am in and out of the thread...so will catch you later.

Edited by Rupunzale - 12 years ago