Redemption - Qubool Nahain Hai - Page 7

Originally posted by: nikolai_gogol

I'm impressed. How long did it take you to search. 5 min? ,10 min? couldn't the makers do that atleast? unless they are trying to show Asad as an abusive personality, then they r doing a fab job.

Originally posted by: Laila2009

That is my point...it is tragically what I see all too often..."I know better." I have friends who when they write spend one year doing research, they travel, they simply have notes only on research...for the shortest of story...

Originally posted by: nikolai_gogol

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<div>I'm impressed. How long did it take you to search. 5 min? ,10 min? couldn't the makers do that atleast? unless they are trying to show Asad as an abusive personality, then they r doing a fab job.

Originally posted by: adeeti10

All of 5, google rocks! 😉

The creatives don't use their brains! I don't know what they're trying to show anymore! Honestly now I watch it more to see what Razia is hiding from the rest... Not for AsYa.

Originally posted by: mad-eye

just realised by mistake I made 2 posts..
Sorry

Edited by mad-eye - 12 years ago

Don't you guys get tired writing such long posts.

Originally posted by: adeeti10

Just watched the episode Laila.

I'm not surprised... This is going exactly how Ms. Khan's other show went.

My thoughts

Asad: abuser?

He probably doesn't even know it... But he's exhibiting the signs. Only having lived in Indis, no one told him it was unacceptable.

Red flags:

1. Bad temper

2. Tendency to break objects in frustration (phone incident)

3. Pushing and shoving. For example, an abuser may hold a victim against the wall and say, "You're going to listen to me."

4. Self centredness: An expectation of being the centre of attention, having his needs anticipated. May not support or listen to others.

5. Externalises responsibility for actions: blames it on other factors like stress, frustration, etc.

6. Tendency to say hurtful things with no regard for other's feelings

7. The need to control, be in charge

Zoya: low self esteem?

Not really. She doesn't exhibit the signs.

Behaviours of someone with low self esteem - found online...

1 ' Nasty sarcasm

2 ' Bullying

3 ' Not being direct in conversation, and at the same time having no tack

4 ' Indecisiveness

5 ' Thinking you know everything

6 ' Being a perfectionist

7 ' None or not much eye contact when talking to others

8 ' Being too loud and over talkative (jabbering on)

9 ' Sniping about other people all the time, behind their backs

10 ' Lack of inner-stability and calmness

11 ' Making weak-minded excuses

12 ' Getting a job for the sake of it- where power over others is needed

13 ' Self-medicating with spending (a sign of low self-worth)

14 ' Being generally jealous of others all the time.

15 ' Constant feeling of insecurity.

16 ' Feeling like being judged all the time and unable to cope with small problems.

17 ' Nit picking at others / destructive criticism towards other

18 ' Having an inferiority complex / always feeling small

20 ' Lack of self-liking / love

21 - Passive aggression

22 - sloughed "poor me" posture with forward head

Seems like Asad has some of these traits! Poor Asad... He's flawed.

But Zoya isn't. She's just a nice, optimistic positive girl who doesn't realise he's being emotionally and physically abusive towards her.

Originally posted by: Rupunzale

good one Dee...gosh...I don't even know where to start...ok...if the creatives took a little more time in doing some research we wouldn't be banging our heads today. Also just carefully look at Zoya's facial expressions and body language...she is totally going through PTSD.