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First and foremost, I would like it respected that several threads have been created by forum members promoting this redemption track. I feel that since my post is not in support, that it has as much right to be here as that of any other post on this forum. It is important for people who are fans of the show, KSG, Asya, that this post is designed to highlight some very serious concerns and horrifically poor treatment of what is really meant by redemption particularly in situations that we witnessed this week.
Monday's episode for me was like a punch in the stomach (no pun intended). If Zoya had been slapped, the PH and the CV slapped me in the face with this incident. Shaken, I had to compose myself and wonder, how can I even continue to watch this show knowing what I see is so very wrong.
Everyone is entitled to redemption, so what can be done at this point for the writers to salvage this story that could make this scene palatable for us. Although it will no longer hold the magic...can we even bring ourselves to stomach this romance again?
In the redemption scene I wrote (see below)
there were key elements...Asad would acknowledge what he was wrong not by learning the truth but by the sheer acts alone...that did not happen. Instead, his mother told him what happened and pangs of guilt swept over this face...evidently he had to change his clothes before he went to see Zoya (perhaps he needed to take a cold shower to cleanse himself of the sweat of guilt...who knows).
Entering into the room, the most redeeming scene was witnessing Zoya stand her ground with her words of "you've insulted me enough me enough" But to make it worse, what he heck was the Mitwaa background music playing in the background? There is nothing romantic here...it is sad and tragic situation where a young girl has been demeaned to the lowest level possible.
Then to make matters worse, instead of the flowers (not that is the answer but what is typically given after an episode of this nature), Asad brings her some bitter coffee in a mug - Some people are oohing and ahhing that it was his mug, but seriously people they have many mugs in black in the house...we have the same mugs..I assure, you cannot tell which one is yours unless you put a mark on the bottom - they are made by Correlle!
The whole apology scene is so reminiscent of the honeymoon period of the cycle of abuse where we see the loving contrition where the man is remorseful, apologetic...and he goes out of his way to be kind, tranquil and loving..and all of sudden every naive young viewer will think - o, it is all right now.
And Zoya, like a typical victim now thinks she is sole source of the abuser's emotional support when she says "I understand you" and takes ownership of the whole situation with "I'm sorry." (What was that for?) What the writers gave was one of the most psychological victimizing moments perpetuating an illusion of interdependence - he depends on her forgiveness, she depends on the "real" man coming back. (And that annoying Mitwa track keeps playing in the background!)
Granted Asad said "I'm sorry" but it was so matter-of-fact without any heartfelt thought...no, I should never have hit you, it was wrong"...just a bit of mumbling under his breath...and then in response to those cruel worlds..."I didn't mean it." (But at the time Asad, you did).
It was heartbreaking to watch her joke around and make light of the episode of her mistreatment ..just heart wrenching to see how they (the writers) have made light of such a serious issue...it could have been handled with so much depth but simply doled out to us as a matter-of-fact apology in a bitter cup of coffee.
Writers, you have sorely disappointed me. You have killed the magic of what could have been a wonderful jodi. I realize this is a show, but we cannot suspend our principals aside and accept that all is well between two characters. For to accept a story with warmth and enjoyment, we have to take it for what it is worth and no tragicially relationship can be built on this type of treatment.
Redemption on my end. Qubool Nahain Hain. I challenge you to do better.
Ganesh Kartikeya
Shiv Shakti
Mannat Har Khushi Paane Ki
Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi 2
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