Okay, so you guys know that I am totally against violence unless it's self-defense, right? I'm just re-iterating that before I go on to say something that might come as a surprise.
So I stopped watching the show after the episode in which Asad threatened Zoya...
But today I finally actually watched the next episode in which Asad apologizes. And I was surprised to find myself accepting it's sincerity!!!! Believe me, I was like, are you kidding me Mira?! 😕😆 But, somehow, given the characters, the apology rang true to me.
Look, I never wanted a protracted and groveling apology (I know some find that romantic. I don't. End of.). All I wanted was a sincere apology that acknowledged that there was no excuse for violence.
Am I being naive in thinking that Asad might have been sincere? Granted that his regret came AFTER ammi told him that it was she who had brought Mariam back into the house and perhaps that undercuts the basis for the apology. But he did try to say "mujhe aap par hath nahin..."
Yes he could have and should have said a LOT more, but he's just not that kind of guy. And to me it seemed like Zoya understood what he wanted to say and didn't need him to actually say ALL the words...does that make any sense? These things do depend on the dynamic between two people, don't they? Now I am tremendously vocal (surprise! 😆) and perhaps end up saying a lot more than is absolutely necessary, but not everyone is like that. That much I accept.
And Zoya might just have been able to "get" what he wanted to say without him having to say it. That sort of rings true to me with these characters...And what I found really fascinating about her response was her calling him on the ammi insult. THAT was the "real" blow to Zoya, and not the slap and she didn't let him off easily on that one did she? And his silence I think did mean that he was "hearing" her...at least I hope so...I know I know, he tried to make excuses ... he said he was scared...but he did acknowledge that he should have never have said those things to her...
Anyway, am I being NUTS here? Feel free to say so friends! I think the realization that he had been blaming Zoya unfairly might have made him realize that he should have NEVER under any circumstances raised his hand, NEVER have threatened her like that, no matter how scared/angry he was. That there were no excuses for his behavior.
Am I reading too much into his barely there apology?!!!!
I feel that I might be able to give Asad one more chance after all. But just ONE more. If he raises his hand to her again, I mean, that will the end. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. That goes for me AND Zoya!
So have I had too much wine with dinner?! 😆 or am I making sense?
I know I needn't say this again, but I will for those with any doubts - I do NOT think the slap was justified on ANY grounds...
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I will say that the spitting out the coffee comedy first struck me as totally tasteless. Then it occurred to me that it was totally Zoya. It made sense to me that she would try and make a joke at a totally inappropriate moment. Here's Asad being all serious and Zoya has moved on. Apology made. Apology accepted. time to lighten the mood with a joke. that's how her thought process works. And then when she tries to reach out to him...WHAM! back to square one.
And by the way, I don;t think Zoya apologized to Asad. Her saying sorry was more like a "I'm sorry this happened to Ammi".. It's an american thing...it;s not an apology sorry it's a sympathy sorry...
Again I could be giving them too much benefit here... 😆
Waiting to hear your views friends!
Edited by narangi314 - 12 years ago
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