Ahem's venting and Gopi's yogyata...

- in the party.. she was standing in a corner , ..with a worry on her face for her Maaji...and pestering him to go back home..

- Now my question? Is koki that critical.. was Koki a baby... that she needs gopi's attention...

- Gopi ? does she not trust Hetal and Rashi to take care of Koki?- Gopi what is the use of staying in joint family when you can't trust Hetal to take care of Koki?

- she is worried for her Maaji's cough .. Anita's headache... but she can't see her husband's reason for being so angry and frustrated...

- Ahem whatever he said today.. is triggered by gopi's actions..he who was happy while going to the party came back in such a frustrated and worked up mood because of his wife's care for the rest of the family...he very well said that she better stay with Anitaben and rest of the family...

- there are some things which he expects and she fails to understand.. for gopi to understand his expectations she needs to spend time with him.. when she got the opportunity she did not use it...and he says that she did not want to come with him in the first place...

- Ahem's comparison of Anita, was just to hurt gopi..since she hurt him by talking about Maaji...he hurt her taking Anita's name...

- all the while, when he was talking he looked at her face directly... but when talking about Anita he turned his back to her... why ?? because he knew it would hurt her to the core and he did not want to take Anita's name and compare her ...but he wanted gopi to know the pain, he is going through when she keeps worried for others being with him...

- but i don't see Ahem's fault in it...and it is definitely not amounting to crime as per some posts...if Ahem's little venting, today, is labelled as crime.. then... i guess .. almost all husbands in the world fall in this category

-Just because Gopi is a lead and she is a heroine,,,does not mean she is not at fault.. today she is at fault...all these days .. i thought gopi needed the confidence and assertiveness...but i don't think that will be enough... she needs to learn something else as well...

Yogya Patni:

- as, Tina says.. no one is perfect..Gopi is not perfect either... because there is nothing called as being perfect..unless it is scientific ..life is a process of learning..as long as we are alive we need to keep learning

- so gopi's being assertive and being confident will not make her the yogya patni..

- i think she also needs to see the difference between her relation with her husband and the rest of the family...
she needs to prioritize her relations ,,..and act according to the situation...

- doing all chores.. taking out clothes and bring tea and file does not make her understand his expectations .. for that .. as baa said, she needs to spend time with him.. which he also expects her to do..

p.s: I am sorry...if I have offended anyone and if i am strong in my statements...but i needed to let it out

That is true, reading your post makes me think a little more. Ahem was not at fault at all. Anyone would get upset when you are longing to spend time with that person and the person just keeps nagging you want to go home you want to go home, Anyone would get frustrated.

As i was watching the episode, when Ahem walked in Koki's room, it was clear he was angry. He looked at Gopi and when she went upstairs and they had their little argument till then it was fine. What pissed me off was that he mentioned Anita. Why did he do that? Instead of just giving Gopi is small amount of realisation, the unexpected occur. In fact I was happy Gopi walked out.

But then after reading your analysis, I never thought that he turned and moved away because he didn't want to hurt Gopi. When she walked out it frustrated him even more. After rethinking from your he didnt want to hurt her. He was just trying to spend time with her. But Gopi is a case alone...and Turkey neck also

Ahem behaved like a husband today trying to put some sense in his dear wife's head...today was the start of him telling her how feels...

Her behaviour today was not something unexpected as she was hesitating to go to the party but at the end she decided to go to put that woman in her place...👍🏼

Her hesitation ended making her fearful and she should have confided in Ahem about it...after all they are best friends too in this marriage are they not...

Will give her credit for going back and trying to justify her behaviour to Ahem...but unfortunately, that was not permitted to happen as Anita had stumped Ahem and created a wall leaving a husband and wife in two different places...

As a person loves the other person he expects the same from the his or her partner...Gopi expects the same from her Ahemji & today expected the same from his Gopi...all he wanted for her undivided love & care for him...is it wrong to expect it from your loved one especially your wife...well no...because if you do not expect it then you have never loved the person !!!

As much as it is easier to say Ahem should have realised why she was hesitant, we should also know he is also learning about her as their life is progressing...so unless she opens up & shares her feelings correct or wrong, he will not be able to always guage it !!! And the person who you love the most, you hurt them the most when you say things which you know will actually hit the right spot of pain...you want them to go thru that pain as well ...

they were a typical couple today who deliberately say hurtful things to each other at times which does not mean they dont love each other...all this while we have seen Gopi being afraid and insecure..but today Ahem's insecurity came to the fore...he is almost jealous of the love Gopi has for his mother!😆..and i really laughed when he told her to go to Anita...it was almost like saying "here i want to be with you and you are blabbering about Anita's headache! Anita can go to hell for all i care!"