should married men be allowed to marry again ??

What's wrong with marrying more than one wife? I despise polygamy when a man marries more than one woman without the consent of his previous wife; but as long as the wives are consenting with it, the man is being able to treat all the wives fairly and equally, and none are being abused and harmed in the marriage, I see nothing wrong with it.

Similarly, I support Polyamory (the practice of a single woman marrying several husbands), just as I support Polyandry (group marriage) and gay marriage (same sex union) as long as it includes consenting adults.

We should never try to judge other people's way of living with our own standard, as long as it isn't causing anyone any harm.

But do you think that the guy or girl can treat everyone fairly - the world right now is a place where a regular joint family is not able to live together.

strongly 😡 against marrying more than once man or women at a time. (well it is men only. have not seen women marrying in normal world, in tribal areas and all could be). no matter what the circumstances. in india we do have hindu marriage act applicable.

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Originally posted by: OM_Peace

But do you think that the guy or girl can treat everyone fairly

Difficult, but not impossible. To the ordinary human beings like us it would be difficult indeed, but if someone has the capability of maintaining a family on that way, without making any of his/her spouses being harmed or mistreated in any way, I will not stop him either.

- the world right now is a place where a regular joint family is not able to live together.

You are right, but - as I stated in my OP - if a person is incapable of treating all his/her spouses equally and fairly, he/she shouldn't bother to enter into a relationship as such.

For the guy or girl to be able to do that there would have to kind of a dictatorship where one person's sayings are always taken as if that definitely needs to be done

Well, that is followed in ordinary marriage/relationship (one man, one woman), too. One has to be the dictator and one has to be the one making the compromises.

And one more important point - what about the kids - don't you think the kids wpould be hurt in this kind of relationship.

Personally I think it is more important and beneficial to the kids that their family members love/respect each other than it is for them to be consisting of the opposite genders, and that too of one man and one woman. If a husband and a wife do not love each other, then they have no rights staying together, since that is going to cause more problem to the kids. Now a days, a lot of kids are being raised up by single mother(s)/father(s), brother(s)/sister(s), uncle(s)/aunt(s), grandmother(s)/father(s) - and guess what, despite of being born into such families, and growing up without a mother and father, these children grow up to be pretty much healthy, and normal human beings. One doesn't necessarily need the traditional sort of family to have a positive upbringing.

The main principals are ok with it, but what about the people yet to come in how would they be able to handle this?

If the children are grown up like that from the moment of their birth, I don't think it would be a problem. I wouldn't like to drift the focus of this topic into a personal discussion, but since we are talking about this, I would like to mention that I know of one such family, who have now four healthy children, and the children had accepted their parents/guardians wholeheartedly, mostly because they had seen their family like that from the very beginning.

Invariably there would be someone who thinks that everyone is not being treated fairly and you will have a big Mahabharat at home..

...and like I stated before, if someone feels that he/she wouldn't be able to deal with their respective spouses, and others, they shouldn't enter into such a relationship on the first place to begin with. Let's say a man had married a woman, and they are living happily, but one day the man asks his wife for the permission of marrying another woman. Now, if his wife feels she wouldn't be able to tolerate her husband on another woman's arm, then she should be straight about this from the beginning - she is the man's wife, and as long as the wife isn't giving her consent, the man should not be given the authority to marry another wife, no matter what - his wife's priority would come first. Similarly, the man should think it through a hundreds of thousands of times that would he have the capability of treating two wives together with the same respect. If he can't - he shouldn't be going into that direction on the first place. Both the party's consent is needed, and both needs to think it logically from top to bottom before coming into any conclusion.

Same for polyamory.

I agree that whats it to us - let them do whatever because they are not really hurting us.. but i think it would be hard on everyone involved to do something of this kind

what say?

Extremely difficult, and very few - maybe one in a million, or even less - would have the capability of maintaining such a family - heck, maintaining one spouse is a killing job for most of us. But if someone have that capability, I would never stop him/her. And I am sure people who would take such a bold step (unless it is being done just to show off your power amongst/to your spouse[s], or as a dominance play - something I am vehemently against) must have a strong valid reason to do so. There are already a lot of women more in this world compared to men, so if any man wants to (and have the ability) to marry such a woman who is being unable to get married, then that would benefit both the woman, and also the society. Similarly, if a woman can help two men, and the men are being helped by marrying a woman, then that too would benefit them.

Just an FYI: I too am not quite keen on the thought of such relationship, mostly because I feel it will be excruciatingly difficult for any ordinary human being to satisfy more than a single spouse, but if someone has the capability to do that, without harming or causing any problem to the individuals or the society, then I wouldn't mind it. I may not like it - but I will have no authority to judge someone else's way of living based on my own standard.

P.S. This is just my own thought[s] on the matter; not meant to hurt/offend anyone's sentiment here.

@ POH- theres one major problem. How does one ascertain that consent hasnt been obtained under duress?

Originally posted by: angie.4u

@ POH- theres one major problem. How does one ascertain that consent hasnt been obtained under duress?

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Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

Similarly, I support Polyamory (the practice of a single woman marrying several husbands), just as I support Polyandry (group marriage) and gay marriage (same sex union) as long as it includes consenting adults.

I think you've got your terms messed up. Polyandry is a type of polygamy where one woman has multiple husbands. Polygyny is another type of polygamy where one man has multiple wives (this is the more common variety).

Polyamory is the situation of having multiple simultaneous romantic/sexual relationships with everyone involved giving full consent. The key differences between this and polygamy is: #1 that the latter involves multiple simultanous marriages while the former is simply about relationships (with or without marriages) and #2 polygamy does not necessarily involve consent from all spouses (i.e. consent of present spouses when taking on new ones). Consequently, polyamory can take on more complex variations than polygamy.