Originally posted by: nethraa_99
Pakhi is too delusional to be relatable. But as a fictional character, she can be analysed.
At the start of the show, Pakhi is shown to be a care-free girl, travelling and enjoying her life. She is quite polite. The first important information that we gather about her is her unmarried status (at 26 years) - and the reason is she is waiting for destiny to show her THE ONE - who by her definition is someone who will look into her eyes and be lost. I don't know of I'm right, but to me that sounds too much like a fairytale view of love.
She meets Virat and feels an instant connection and she decides that destiny has finally found her the one. Fate separates them even before they can confess their feelings. This brings another important aspect of Pakhi's personality. When Virat fails to recognize her voice, she feels rejected - because according to her if Virat truly loved her, he would know her voice! This assumption is very juvenile and she reacts to this childish belief by switching off her phone. And henceforth, she never even tries to take things into her own hands, to fight for her love. Which makes one wonder about Pakhi's upbringing - has she never faced any disappointment (even small ones) in her life? Perhaps, she was her father's princess - had everything served on a platter; never had to struggle for anything? Had a cocooned life which never gave her a taste of real life? Just as a difficult childhood can blight an individual's life even after they grow up, an upbringing that is too sheltered and never prepares you to face the realities of life is highly dysfunctional one as well.
After the failed phone call, Pakhi has already given up on her love. Dejected and heartbroken, she agrees to an arranged marriage for the sake of her parents. As misfortune would have it, on the day of her wedding, she meets Virat and also learns that he was blameless in their 'relationship'. I don't believe she was planning on an EMA with Virat, I don't think she even knew what she was doing - she was overwhelmed with emotion and her only instinct was to not let go of Virat. This decision was the biggest mistake of her life. When we end our relationship with someone, we move as far away from that person as possible and try to rebuild our life. But Pakhi's situation became exactly opposite to what would have helped her move on - seeing her Ex everyday and that too with a young wife he was quickly getting attached to - she got sucked in a whirlpool.
I don't think she was a manipulative person before, but in her desperation to prevent Virat from slipping away from her life, she developed a lot of negative skills almost instinctively. The more Virat leaned towards Sai, the greater was her desperation. Like Asmi said, hatred for Sai would have been an understandable emotion but alas she went too far in her actions.
I agree with Anamika - I also found Virat - Pakhi's dialogues on 'himmat' powerful. Pakhi who was thus far, always focused on retaining Virat's favour by acting demure (at the cost of her self-respect) but cloaked under the guise of maturity, Samrat, family - finally let her real feelings show. She resents Virat for not standing up for their love - and that anger, she projects on Sai. It is ironic because she herself never found the courage to either fight for her love or to own up to her mistake in the failed 'romance' or hell, even to confront Virat. I liked @cheekukabeej's take on this - she doesn't take responsibilty because she hasn't even realized it - and realization is always the first step towards taking responsibility.
It might seem Virat lacked himmat when he refused to marry Samrat - to me he lacked motivation. For all his 'dard and 'zindagi ujad jaana' feelings - somwhere his heart did not really value that 'love' (unlike Pakhi, he has seen the real world after all). His overwhelming emotions and resulting ridiculous vaada came from a confusion over the idea of love. It is interesting what he tells Pakhi during Samrat's wedding - "Main Samrat ke liye apni jaan dene ko taiyaar hoon, pyaar to choti si cheez hai" 😆. Will he ever say that his love for Sai is "choti si cheez"? Or give up Sai just as easily as he sacrificed Pakhi?
Next point - we keep discussing about Virat and Pakhi's proximity in the scenes. What if they are actually deliberate? Are the writers trying a bad attempt at imagery and symbolism - that Virat and Pakhi are mirror images of each other? Both highly emotional, extreme in their love and crossing boundaries when their love is under question? Difference is that Virat got the love of his life and Pakhi didn't? (I hope that I'm mistaken 😆).
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