Who was the more toxic partner/lover? - Page 5

Originally posted by: Harley_Quinn

Kabir didn't slap Preeti because he was angry on her father. He slapped her because he was angry on her only.

Preeti was being spineless in front of her family by not standing up for her love. She was standing as a mute spectator when her family was insulting Kabir. She wanted Kabir to do all the work in fighting for their love.

She wanted to be a damsel-in-distress and expected Kabir to save her. But Kabir was a feminist hero who slapped her to give her a wake-up call to make her stand up for her love.

Women in real world had a problem with this scene because they are not feminists. They don't want equality. They want special treatment so that they can act like princesses who need saving from their prince.

You're right, he was humiliated in front of everyone and she watched it all helplessly. I agree that is a disgrace to the idea of feminism but then, so is the entire movie. Why did he expect her to suddenly develop a voice of her own in that particular situation? Isn't that how their story started and progressed up to that point? He was doing all the work and she was just following along. When did she ever stand up even for herself that he suddenly expected her to awaken her non-existent feminist side for him? She was a side-kick in his life... his complicit "romantic interest" while he was calling dibs and bullying everyone left and right to be with her. The movie is shown from his perspective and we're not even aware of her side of the story cuz it didn't "matter." She was never a feminist. A feminist and someone who can stand up for herself or others would never be with a Kabir Singh.

I've noticed that men love to sound evolved and claim to adore "strong" women but start resenting it when they have to deal with it themselves ... and when they go for someone like Preeti in the movie, they expect her to turn into a feminist when it serves them.😆 Grass is always greener on the other side for some of them.

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

Both were asswipes in their own right. However, Kabir Singh in real life would be a fcuking nightmare to deal with. The most Devdas could do is poetry-me-to-death with his lyrical dialogues. He’ll huff and puff when his ego is hurt but then will run away to lick his wounds in a brothel. Okay that sounds pretty fcuked up 🤣.

BUT that still sounds more tolerable than having a Kabir Singh just barge into your classroom, grabbing your hand and roaring ‘GIRL MINE’ while he gorilla thumps his chest. At least with Devdas, I got to know him for like 10 years before we took the next extreme step (lighting the diya for a decade and linking it to his lifeline). Meanwhile, Kabir laid a claim after seeing me for like 10 seconds. Too fast buddy. 🙂

Yes, both characters were emotionally and physically abusive, however Kabir came across way more aggressive and violent. I mean for heaven sake, he chased after the housemaid because she broke a glass (something my mother would do to me with a slipper in her hand 🥴). Kabir also slapped Preeti because he was angry at her father. So what’s next? He plannin on hitting her when the postman pisses him off the next day? Imagine living with a person who has poor impulse control and serious anger management issues. 😳

Devdas ruined his and Paro’s life with his self destructive behaviour. Meanwhile, Kabir is not only set on risking his own life, but also shamelessly jeopardises his patients lives by operating on them while he is intoxicated. I’m sorry but nah. You wanna drink yourself to death? Be my guest, but don’t mess with innocent lives who put their trust and faith in you to help them live longer. 🙃

Dead. 🤣

I'm starting to feel like the entire topic was a trick question to get an insight into the kind of men we like. So, I'm gonna stop embarrassing myself any further than I already have by sticking up for Kabir Singh. 🤣

Originally posted by: SmittenKitten

You're right, he was humiliated in front of everyone and she watched it all helplessly. I agree that is a disgrace to the idea of feminism but then, so is the entire movie. Why did he expect her to suddenly develop a voice of her own in that particular situation? Isn't that how their story started and progressed up to that point? He was doing all the work and she was just following along. When did she ever stand up even for herself that he suddenly expected her to awaken her non-existent feminist side for him? She was a side-kick in his life... his complicit "romantic interest" while he was calling dibs and bullying everyone left and right to be with her. The movie is shown from his perspective and we're not even aware of her side of the story cuz it didn't "matter." She was never a feminist. A feminist and someone who can stand up for herself or others would never be with a Kabir Singh.

I've noticed that men love to sound evolved and claim to adore "strong" women but start resenting it when they have to deal with it themselves ... and when they go for someone like Preeti in the movie, they expect her to turn into a feminist when it serves them.😆 Grass is always greener on the other side for some of them.

If you noticed in the movie, Preeti is a meek innocent girl in front of everyone except Kabir.

It was Kabir who made her a bit bold once he started dating her. He brought out a character within her. He empowered her in a way.

There was a scene before this when Preeti slapped him for snapping at her because he felt irritated. She didn't take Kabir's bullshit all the time if she wasn't okay with it.

She might not be a feminist, still she had a voice. But that voice was only raised in front of her boyfriend, not her father or other family members. That's what pissed off Kabir.

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Salman in Tere Naam also 😆

Salman in Real Life also.

Never watched Kabir Singh. Devdas was pretty toxic. Didn't have the balls to stand up to his parents. When the spurned gf marries an old man to save face he taunts her. Thinks he owned her anyway. Very passive aggressive and manipulative Plays mind games with Chandramukhi,leading her on but only using her as a distraction. Then drank himself to death as if HE was the victim. Or the only victim. Paro was better off thankuraining it in her loveless marriage with the old guy.