Originally posted by: Thug-Leader
if being woke means being an absolute idiot who cannot understand the difference between movie and real life, than I am glad people aren't woke.
I like some people make it like the part where Kabir slapped Preeti was pictured as some macho or massy scene, which made it look cool. When fact is, that scene was shot as a intense and immature outburst. Aab do teen madarxhods were allegedly(yes allegedly) clapping, matlab sab ke sab log MCP, women hater blah blah blah ban gaye. Kabir was a jerk to men too, but being jerk to men is okay it seems.
To me, the movie isn't problematic solely because of the Kabir-Preeti relationship. The movie is problematic because of Kabir Singh - the character as a whole.
He is an angry egotistic alpha male. He bullies people into submission. He is indeed a jerk to men, and it is not OK. It sends a dangerous message to young men that toxic masculinity is cool. That the best way to be a heroic man is to be an alpha male.
There is definitely a difference between a movie and reality. Movies must be taken at face value and not for realism. That being said movies don't exist in a vacuum. As part of society, filmmakers do have some social responsibilities. Media is rightly criticized all over the world for lack of diversity, gratuitous violence, homophobia, xenophobia, etc. The critique of Kabir Khan on account of its toxic masculinity and misogyny is valid.
There are grey/amoral/immoral people in the world. It is completely legitimate to make movies on such characters. There are several movies with anti-heroes as the main character/protagonist. By all means, make a movie on Kabir Singh. But make Kabir Singh end up in prison, in rehab, or even dying - not a romantic hero who gets the girl.
That being said not everyone who enjoys Kabir Singh is is unwoke or misogynistic. Some people are just Shahid Kapoor fans - and he has given the performance of a lifetime. Many are privileged enough to be able to take a movie at face value without considering the societal repercussions of the problematic protagonist.
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