Varsha's Adoption - Page 2

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Good post. I agree on all counts..For me personally I have no problems with adoption as long as there is 200% commitment.

Agree with you.. Serious Commitment has to be there from the complete family before going for Adoption.

In fact I feel that is no less than having your own child - giving a good life to a needy child, there can be no act more commendable than that.

How true and yes again agree with you here.. In case of adoption you might need more attention as the environment from where the kid has come might be different and it takes time for that kid to get adjusted and also to accept..

I have a biological child of my own but would love to adopt a second though there are challenges in this. I also know of people who COULD have biological children but have chosen adoption!

Wow such a great thought.. 👍🏼 🤗 Even I have a friend who wanted to adopt without getting married..

Of course as you said we have to see if Varsha has the same level of commitment. I think she genuinely wants to adopt, but let's see how she can carry the responsibility through.

Yes even I feel Varsha genuinely wants to adopt a child this time. Esp the scene yesterday with that kid was very cute.. Even I just hope she is more responsible this time.. And also I now feel that she knows her mistake and seriously repenting.. We also need to give her a chance..

Also, I don't want to over analyze charcters - these fictitious charatcers and their future acts can never be analyzed, they are not real people, just mostly unrealistic characters put together by CVs.

So I don't want to get all worked up on that count.

Agree

No you are not doing it, this is just a general statement, don't misunderstand me:-)

Chill dont worry I am not taking this in a wrong way 😎.. PR has become part of my life now 😳

I actually LOVED your post.

😳

Originally posted by: xyzzee

I agree with you on that she should try for fertility options but I also feel very strongly about the Grandson thing. I agree with your analaysis for the most part .

But I personally believe that having a child by any means (Biological or Adopted) is strictly a couple's decision. Even in Indian families these days, parents respect that. If my MIL insisted on a second child just because I have a daughter and she wants a Grandson, I will not comply. I know I sound mean but if I am really not for a second child for ANY reason, I expect in-laws and parents to respect that. Don't get me wrong, I am traditional but I don't want to give in to things (in such MAJOR ways) by doing something I don't believe in, i.e. having a son as being be all and end all. And if I have a second daughter then what? Go in for a third???? Fortunately my MIL was never that way. I think we as a generation should be bringing about change - and like any other culture we have good and bad. This wanting a son for a Waaris gets on my nerves and I have strong views on that and I will never ever comply with that or promote that thought. That's against my principles. Don't get me wrong, I would love a son as much as I love my daughter BUT I AM NOT GOING TO HAVE A CHILD for the sake of having a SON. I think I would not do that even for my hubby. 😆 Of course he won't ask for that else if I had figured he was that kind I would never have married him. 😆I know I sound cruel but really I think our generation should try and make a difference and not follow the blind blindly and promote such old fashioned irrelevant stuff. I know I am digressing but this whole talk of having Grandsons by Bhavna got me going.

That being said I totally believe that Varsha should try and convince her MIL first just so the atomosphere is healthy and of course try out fertility options. Ultimately if she can't conceive and wants to badly adopt AND her MIL just stays adamant and won't budge go for it by all means! At least she would have the satisfaction of having tried her best to convince her MIL.

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

Adoption is good, but I personally feel it can never replace own flesh and blood in hands😊.

It is simply a very noble thing, but you need to be noble aswell to do it. So first question which need to be answered is: "Are you noble enough to carry out this great responsibility in future, under any circumstance?".

Adopted child might never really feel like own child... sometimes they will search for their own parent. It is not right to think only from the adopter's perspective, but also for the perspective of the adopted child.

There are many things which can occur 😊 ... noble deeds don't come so easy.

I personally think that it should be a step taken with great caution and self assessment. How much attached you can be is not the issue - but how much responsible but at the same time "how much detached" you can be?😊

Own child equation and adopted child cannot be the same. Simply, in my view 😆😃😊.

I believe in charity and giving service. I had worked as a Catholic girl's group member in my teen years in Poland ... was trained with elderly and orphans ... but was chosen to nurse elderly as it is more tricky and needs patience. But orphans have a whole set of different variables.

Many things to talk about. But in no way it is wrong ... it is just "very big" ... far bigger than mere desires and thoughts 😊.

Originally posted by: shootingstar27

I agree with you especially on the bold parts.You don't sound cruel at all to me 😛

This is an Indian serial, so MIL will have a very big say on waaris that is why I don't think adoption is suited for Varsha and Satish. And I'm not fully convinced Varsha is ready to be a mother, if adoption is another whim of hers,it will emotionally scar a child for life. As it is the children in PR are neglected most of the time, I don't want to see another one joining the bandwagon.

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

@xyzeee: 😊 do you know that the world is not really over populated everywhere? Maybe (ofcourse 😆) in India or China, but in places like Poland and Russia or Ukraine, the population is infact in negative rate, and government is giving incentives to people so that they can have children of their own.

So yes, it is all relative.

I know of people who take children for adoption, but I know this from Church's perspective, not as individual perspective of families as you saw 😊. Churches always face many issues in such scenario ... and there are always many variables.

I am happy you only had the good experiences, or maybe not experience but good stories to share 😊

i think varsha relized her mistake and she is ready for adoption and to take care of the baby but we all have up and down in our life and so will she but i dont think ones she adopts she will go back to work.

Originally posted by: tasha80

i think varsha relized her mistake and she is ready for adoption and to take care of the baby but we all have up and down in our life and so will she but i dont think ones she adopts she will go back to work.

yah bhavna mentality will effect the child but if varsa was to love her and as we know how the D family is when it come to love then she will be fine

i am in for varsha adopting the kid

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Good post - I would like to add that there is nothing wrong in going back to work just because she has a kid😊. We all do that. Of course she may not if she feels MIL won't look after her adopte kid properly. Is that what you mean?