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Varsha's adoption
please correct me if I am wrong here (and I very well might be)
Adoption is wonderful deed as it provides an innocent child with support, love and structure that it needs and I for one think that people who take this step are really to be blessed as it is a huge responsibility.
but as with any major decision in life sucess depends entirely on intent and commitment. If the latter two are lacking then the whole arrangement is unstable and in the case of adoption the only one that suffers is the child as it is the child who builds up innocent expectations and attachments that are likely to be crushed or impacted.
Varsha did not want her own child because of the commitment and so she killed it. At no point of time did she actually seem to regret her decision (by itself) though what she did regret was the ripple effect that was caused by her decision. hindsight is 20/20.
Later, she wanted a child only after she thought she would lose Satish forever. So in my mind, it feels like she wanted a child to help mend the trust she lost in her relationship with Satish. Then she found out she could not have her own. She was heartbroken but she accepted her fate and by all accounts expected to live in a childless marriage with Satish - both focusing on their career groW*H. It is only when Bhavna suggested remarriage for Satish that she panicked and started seeking advice on options. She settled on adoption rather than surrogacy. Again her desire for a child is not so much to be a mother but rather to avoid losing Satish and create a compromise on the heir situation for Bhavna.
Satish too seemed resigned to a childless marriage and only supported Varsha because of his mother's reaction. He has proved he needs Varsha more than she needs him when he took her back without prejudice after the abortion when she was looking to leave her old life behind and relocate.
So my question is - while adoption is commendable - is it right when it is not being done because of a genuine desire to experience motherhood and enrich the life of a child but rather to rectify an irreversable wrong and stabilize one's life and relatioships?
Archana is the nurturing kind but Varsha is not. If by some miracle Varsha is able to conceive and give Bhavna that heir it is also possible that the adopted child while gain a secondary positon in Varsha's life in addition to the Bhavna's intolerance. Is it fair to that child then? Fertility marvels are not unheard off especially when you have the money for testing and treatment which Satish and his family does.
the act is commendable but the intentions it seems are not. What do you think?
Hope😃
please correct me if I am wrong here (and I very well might be)
Adoption is wonderful deed as it provides an innocent child with support, love and structure that it needs and I for one think that people who take this step are really to be blessed as it is a huge responsibility.
but as with any major decision in life sucess depends entirely on intent and commitment. If the latter two are lacking then the whole arrangement is unstable and in the case of adoption the only one that suffers is the child as it is the child who builds up innocent expectations and attachments that are likely to be crushed or impacted.
Varsha did not want her own child because of the commitment and so she killed it. At no point of time did she actually seem to regret her decision (by itself) though what she did regret was the ripple effect that was caused by her decision. hindsight is 20/20.
Later, she wanted a child only after she thought she would lose Satish forever. So in my mind, it feels like she wanted a child to help mend the trust she lost in her relationship with Satish. Then she found out she could not have her own. She was heartbroken but she accepted her fate and by all accounts expected to live in a childless marriage with Satish - both focusing on their career groW*H. It is only when Bhavna suggested remarriage for Satish that she panicked and started seeking advice on options. She settled on adoption rather than surrogacy. Again her desire for a child is not so much to be a mother but rather to avoid losing Satish and create a compromise on the heir situation for Bhavna.
Satish too seemed resigned to a childless marriage and only supported Varsha because of his mother's reaction. He has proved he needs Varsha more than she needs him when he took her back without prejudice after the abortion when she was looking to leave her old life behind and relocate.
So my question is - while adoption is commendable - is it right when it is not being done because of a genuine desire to experience motherhood and enrich the life of a child but rather to rectify an irreversable wrong and stabilize one's life and relatioships?
Archana is the nurturing kind but Varsha is not. If by some miracle Varsha is able to conceive and give Bhavna that heir it is also possible that the adopted child while gain a secondary positon in Varsha's life in addition to the Bhavna's intolerance. Is it fair to that child then? Fertility marvels are not unheard off especially when you have the money for testing and treatment which Satish and his family does.
the act is commendable but the intentions it seems are not. What do you think?
Hope😃
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