Varsha's Adoption - Page 5

Originally posted by: xyzzee

I would agree its not easy to adopt especially if you have a biological one also. But I personally know of people who have kids of their own, adopted another and are the most wonderful parents to their adopted children. Also you are not overpopulating the world by having too many.😉 Kudos to those people who can do it.

Originally posted by: tasha80

i think varsha relized her mistake and she is ready for adoption and to take care of the baby but we all have up and down in our life and so will she but i dont think ones she adopts she will go back to work.

yah bhavna mentality will effect the child but if varsa was to love her and as we know how the D family is when it come to love then she will be fine

i am in for varsha adopting the kid

Originally posted by: sowmya_jairam

Hope, Varsha and all the others, agree with your post. Varsha may genuinely want to be a mother now, but she needs to give it some time before taking any decision. Spend time with kids, maybe do some baby-sitting and see if that's what she truly wants. While it's not fair to judge a person by their past actions, those actions can't be ignored either. To me, it still seems like it is some kind of a fad for Varsha-to achieve something she can't have. And I'm afraid once she gets it, a child in this case, she will not be interested any longer. Maybe that's not the case this time, but she has to take the time to decide for sure and Satish-Bhavna also need the time since they're all part of the family, especially Satish.

About Bhavna wanting a pota, I still don't think she means she wants only a grandson and not a granddaughter. If a girl is born, she will be celebrated the same way as a boy--I'm pretty sure about that. Pota" is a manner of speaking, so please dont judge the character as being gender-biased until there is more proof. Like, for example, if Varsha gets pregnant and the sonography shows a girl child, then if Bhavna tells her to abort, then I am all for throwing stones at her. Or if she agrees for adoption and insists on a boy, then again I'll agree. But until then, it's not fair to judge a character on their manner of speaking. I know a lot of people who say they're looking forward to have their "grandsons" play in their laps in my native language. I also know that they dont mean that they prefer grandsons over granddaughters, just that it's kind of a way of speaking, more like a tradition. Opinions have changed, biases have changed, other cultures and traditions have been adopted as one's own, but language is the same right? It's the same speech that has existed for centuries in India. In this case, I find Bhavna to be a sensible, if overbearing person who will listen to reason when told in the right way and once she's given the time to heal. Everybody needs to step back and do some thinking, see what their priorities are while continuing to spend time with children like Varsha's doing and also getting expert help to see if there is any way to help normal conception.

Originally posted by: bhallarox

Varsha wants to be a mother at any cost. You are right in some parts, but she is really desperate for a child and she wants one because she wants to be a mother, and to keep her family happy.

Originally posted by: babu2008

A child is a huge responsibility..a girl like Varsha is not fit for it.

Originally posted by: --Hope--

Omana

@bold - I don't think it is a whim this time round though. I think she is using it as some kind atonement / makeup solution in desperation. It is also the only one that was presented to her by a source she trusts i.e. believe it was one of the Ks?? don't remembercearly.

Archana told her to consider adoption.

Bhavna for all her biases or prejudices in this matter actually made the wisest solution - visit a medical expert. I agree it is the wisest solution however she should have discussed it with Satish and Varsha first before going ahead and fixing an appoinment.

this seems to be the last and least appreciated solution by all the K women unfortunately. They seem to survive on an exclusive diet of hope, Bappa, and naturopathy. I find it extremely silly. Just praying isn't gonna solve anything.

see the problem is that while Bhavna has her bias about Varsha so does Varsha about Bhavna - quite often people that we distrust or dislike say sensible things an we ignore it because we are blinded by our dslike of them. In fact even Savita - while she said things about Archana that are deatable, she said many hometruths to Manav about the mother -son relatioship that he ignored because he was consumed by her hatred for Archana. Well said, I completely agree.

ok my last statement was not about Archana though it did make reference to her. Even it if was about Archana, it doesn't make a difference to me.I do like Archana,but that doesn't mean I support her blindly or get angry when people criticize her actions. She is just a fictional character 😛

Originally posted by: xyzzee

I don't think she is being a monster just highly unreasonable and at times dictatorial of late. Lets see what happens in future..Again, I don't analyze the TV characters and their future acts as they are not real people...So to I just take all this at Face value and see what the future holds.

Originally posted by: shootingstar27

@ bold

thanks.😃

Originally posted by: tvdost

A very good post indeed and very good points.....somehow thought of sharing my own personal experience here for the first time after seeing these posts......though I do not have a child so far but my sister's children are my children.....and love kids somehow I don't have the courage to go for adoption...have always loved kids all my life but when it comes to this I shudder at the very thought of it...its a huge responsibility and its not only through adoption you can show your love for kids or do your good deed to society.......i would say a chidless couple going for adoption do it more for themselves rather than anything else..

and here I would say Varsha has never ever used her brains while making decisions...and this is a huge huge responsibility which Varsha cannot handle for sure...

Originally posted by: zaara10

All I can say is, this is PR-land, where they dont seem to believe in doctors. Therefore adoption is the preferred option over in-vitro or any other medical treatment...
But as far as Varsha being committed to adoption and raising an adopted child goes, I think she's prepared... She seems to fully regret what she's done and has accepted the consequences. I like that she's not shown as broken and given up on life; I like that they're showing her taking control of her future. I think she has a supportive husband who will help guide her if she falters. As much as I see bhavna's pov and believe she has a right to express it, I don't think it's up to her what decision Varsha and satish make. I get that she wants to be a Dadi, but Varsha has a right to be a mother... Personally speaking, I have 2 wonderfully amazing daughters-- an infant and a toddler. The decision to have a 3rd child is strictly up to myself and my hubby, but more so up to me. But no one else!!
I hope the cvs treat this adoption issue well and don't butcher it!! Perhaps it's time for some redemption for Varsha's botched up character.