Slapping doesn't always mean violence!!! - Page 8

Originally posted by: euphoric

Charu i understand ur perspective. I wud say any act is abuse when perpetrator is at the advantageous position and exploits tht advantage whereas the victim is a weakling who is left with no choice but to let go of self respect and keep putting up with the trash thrown their way. And neither moloy is an exploitator nor moh any weakling. So i dont see this as an act of abuse.

No i will nt compare this with child n parent equation. But trust me, being in teaching fraternity... I hv realized tht u hv all kinds of people. In every class, there r ppl who r different and i cant treat everyone equally. Some yrs back i was so naive tht i took them on face value... Someone even cooked up a story of open heart surgery... Another case, whr a child lied to parents abt their fees... Another one put a girl's number on a p*rnsite after some dispute... Even counseling fail on them coz they feel they can get away with everything. And i hv come to believe tht such cases need to be dealt with strictness.

So while some r genuinely very sensitive... some understand only consequences. As far as the teacher knows wht line to draw, wht dynamics r at play and respect people's personal boundaries, things can be well sorted.

Yeah that's what I said na..its not abuse or violence....i just find the act as humiliating...n should be avoided to the max..I slapped my baby just once n I still regret it..how could i raise my hand..I just shout when I lose it and that too is such a bad habit....between husband wife there should be a line too that shouldn't be crossed..in any scenario slap can be avoided

I agree completely about the children's part..that's the reason na parents also feel children should be disciplined..but since they are not able to do it , they just pass the buck to the teacher..very idiotic..😆

Originally posted by: Reemz11

whats this?

‘U slap when it is just needed at that time because the other person is too adamant to listen to you and going on a wrong path’

I’ve never had to resort to slapping even when someone isn’t listening to me. You argue, you don’t slap! You even brought in children.

Yes it is too sensitive and yes you should’ve stuck to the show.

Children were brought in by others in this discussion and then I just commented on that because this is my post and I should be replying to people who read or write for me. I was talking about any dear one. It could be children or not. I m happy for u that u didn't come across extreme gone cases where u have to slap them...like u have to! I have seen such cases and that's my opinion.

I didn't wish to say this, but if u still want to teach me what I should write in my post...then lastly, it's my post, I'll write what I feel is right.

That's all from my side.

Originally posted by: AllThatCritique

The level of audacity here to justify slapping..its insane. In the OG post they even use 'latho ke bhooth bato se nahin mante' if I read correctly. Just imagine that. To think it's okay to go on slapping people around if they don't listen to you... Wow.

I’m just so confused why all this had to be brought in to today’s scenario of Mohini being slapped. You can agree or disagree with it because it’s fiction but why use real life examples in such a situation which doesn’t demand it. It’s actually disappointing more than anything.

Originally posted by: braveheartdoc

Sorry to butt in Reemz but if 20 plus people like a post does that mean we're all justifying the slaps? Liking a post means to appreciate the effort the TM has made into making a post and I dont think she doesnt deserve this appreciation. She has put forward her views in a very well presented way and I personally loved to read it so I liked it.

If you dont agree doesnt mean you cant appreciate someones efforts...but yes that again is my pov😊

Even I have liked everyone's post who have opposite thoughts of mine and who have bashed me. Just to appreciate their efforts though they've posted it according to their opinion. But it doesn't mean that I agree to their opinion.

Originally posted by: _charu_

I agree completely about the children's part..that's the reason na parents also feel children should be disciplined..but since they are not able to do it , they just pass the buck to the teacher..very idiotic..😆

Ouchh... U knw my pains 😆

Originally posted by: Reemz11

I’m just so confused why all this had to be brought in to today’s scenario of Mohini being slapped. You can agree or disagree with it because it’s fiction but why use real life examples in such a situation which doesn’t demand it. It’s actually disappointing more than anything.

I'm actually more shocked about the fact that slapping( essentially hitting your child ) is now being peddled as some sort of cultural thing which somehow makes it right.. like what the eff. The level of conditioning here..astounding. All sorts of nonsense to justify fiction.

Originally posted by: AllThatCritique

Like I said conditioning. And If it's not allowed then you shouldn't bring culture in here in the first place. To say slapping is okay and a cultural thing,well people would ask what culture it is where it's okay to do that. And no,cultural differences don't justify hitting your child. Parenting can be done equally well without hitting your child.

And again,if that @BOLD is not allowed then you shouldn't bring your personal life and your experiences to justify anything vile. Then you are responsible for opening the floodgates of questioning. Hope that's clear.

When there r two perspectives in a forum, trying to respect both of them with a conclusion that both come from different mindsets, backgrounds, cultures is the sanest thing I can do. But if one wants to come with prejudiced minds and bend things according to their whims and wishes, I think we should stop discussing it here cuz I really don't deem it necessary to answer to the prejudiced opinions. If the sensitivity in the forum is abused due to this post or people r reaching asylums because I promoted slapping, u have an option to report the post, I m sure u already know it. Maybe getting the thread closed is the best thing that can be done right now. Thanks!

Originally posted by: Reemz11

Well I personally only like a post if I agree with the sentiments.

There was no need to make a topic defending slapping. Period! Talk about the scene but don’t give scenarios especially involving kids. Don’t get so carried away for your love of the show and characters that you bring in reality on a sensitive topic.

Its upto you as to what post you wish to like but then you cant generalise your views to everyone. Just as I dont agree to this post of yours but still i liked it bcoz you quoted me. So its an individual choice dear😊

Regarding making a topic i dont know if you were there in the forum or not such a topic on thappads discussion has been made earlier too when Anurag slapped Prerna and there were many threads so our respectable mod Munni had merged the threads and the title was all thappad discussions here. So such topic in the forum is not for the first time 😉

Rest its the choice of the TM to make a post in a way she feels right. You cant question that especially when she is following the rules of IF. I agree this is a sensitive topic but I really dont understand why accepting differing opinions is so difficult here

Originally posted by: braveheartdoc

Its upto you as to what post you wish to like but then you cant generalise your views to everyone. Just as I dont agree to this post of yours but still i liked it bcoz you quoted me. So its an individual choice dear😊

Regarding making a topic i dont know if you were there in the forum or not such a topic on thappads discussion has been made earlier too when Anurag slapped Prerna and there were many threads so our respectable mod Munni had merged the threads and the title was all thappad discussions here. So such topic in the forum is not for the first time 😉

Rest its the choice of the TM to make a post in a way she feels right. You cant question that especially when she is following the rules of IF. I agree this is a sensitive topic but I really dont understand why accepting differing opinions is so difficult here

Thanks for saying this doc. So much for writing "insensitive topic". I thought we all here r adults n we know how to deal with insensitive things. U can't ignore things in life because they r insensitive. That's the harsh reality of life, isn't it? I m feeling horrible as if I spoke something insensitive to small kids and caused them some mental trauma. (Just to clarify myself, I m not calling any of y'all kids. I mean actual little kids)

Originally posted by: IFLove

Wow I come back after a busy day and the thread is still open...thanks for the civilised discussion peeps🤗 This very much proves that in spite of having different views regarding slaps, we all r civilised enough...so yeah, those who were physically abused (read slapped occasionally) in their childhood like me aren't mentally affected or have undergone any trauma due to the "abuses"

Well, I feel this difference of opinion depends on the culture each one of us comes from. There r a few who have been brought up with slapping is violence, so no slapping at all. And there r a few like me who were slapped by their parents occasionally in their childhood, of course I might have cried or got mad with them, but today when I look back, I thank them for their every slap... because I know what an adamant kid I used to be and I would never understand things if I didn't wish to, so yeah, some strictness or terror was needed for me. And let me tell u, none of my parents are less cultured or unloving than any of those who didn't slap their kids. Every person has their way of treating their dear ones and none of us can say it is wrong unless we go through their journey. So this was about real life.

Coming to the show, well, this show isn't really worth justifying. What happens today is nullified tomorrow. So for once and the last time, this post was not to justify the show out of so called blind love for the fictional characters. Actually u justify something that u feel is wrong and needs to be defended. In first place, I refuse to consider moloy wrong today. He was very much right and I don't find any need to justify him. If this one emotional outburst turns into his habit and he goes on slapping her every now n then, I'll be the first one to create a post against him. So those who made the comments like anything to justify a fictional character, please spare me that from my next posts, thank you!🙏 Those who respectfully disagreed to what I wrote by putting their views forward and not getting personal with me or those having similar thoughts like me, you all sweethearts!🤗 And those who agreed with me, we r toh used to this violence since childhood...cheers to our tolerance levels!😀

Hey, IFlove it seems you have generalized entire slap theory based on a kid being slapped by parents for a mistake or teach then a lesson. Which unfortunately is not fair to justify the act and come with a list of scenarios where one is/should be allowed. And you mentioned about culture, I am finding it hard to find the connection between culture and slapping. Would love if you could elaborate how culture fit in here.

If I may ask a personal question because your post is mostly about real life and I'll respect your choice if you decide not to answer. Keeping aside a kid being slapped, are you okay with an adult slapping another adult in any kind of relationship varying from bro-sis, husband-wife, gf-bf, friends, etc? In any conflicting situation is that the best thing to do being educated and learned adults. I can't imagine my parents slapping each other even if I were a 5 year old.

You are absolutely correct that every parent have their way of treating their child, though I personally feel slapping a child is the easiest way for parents choose to rectify mistakes and there are other better ways to do the same. Neverthless is that enough to actually justify it under other situations?