Member Topic: How many of you had an arranged marriage? - Page 10

Originally posted by: Sharpener

Wow, thanks for sharing! I can't believe the wives are okay with the weekend getaways? 😕

My bff got arranged married to a rich gay guy too, they were married for two months. They never had sex and also he was developmentally delayed. I'm glad your parents supported you because my friend's mom blamed her so much for not sticking it out and bringing shame to the family 🤢

If the guy was gay, he would have found female touch disgusting. Mothers love to blame their daughters, for the misery they themselves create, in their own child's life

Originally posted by: colossial2015

Wow so you had a typical traditional wedding. 😆

Yes typical tradition but very short notice. I was born in USA and got married in Pakistan.

I told everyone April 12/13 that I’m getting married on April 22

No one but me and my parents went to the wedding. (Not even the siblings) But I didn’t know I had so many well wishers in Pakistan who attended. ❤️ It was truly a spectacle

Originally posted by: Veni-Vidi-Vici

Staying with him would have been shameful..asking daughter to stay with a gay husband is shameful...I don't know why parents don't realize that gay men don't become straight..miracles don't happen if the woman loves the guy enough...I don't understand the priorities of some people

Indians fear log kya kahenge.

Originally posted by: K.Ahm

So many people here in the UK now go for open marriages or marriage for the sake of it while maintaining their closet life.

I might be considered backward or orthodox or religious but open marriage is beyond my understanding. You rather stay single and have fun.

Nothing orthodox about it....open marriage concept hi galt hai

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

Please be kind and do clear my confusion 😃.

Real world mein disclose nai kar paati hoon toh yehi sahi.

Pehle baat toh shaadi karna zaroori hota hai kya?

I want to get married but I don't trust people at all.🤦 I'm a mess.

Things like relationships take time from both sides. If you do not want to marry, never marry to spoil someone's else life, dreams and trust.

Originally posted by: Deviant_Pixel

Trust me if you knew where he was from or guessed you would understand their hesitation. Still we made them agree with our terms because we have been together for 8 years since university where we met (in the UK). Eg. he is muslim and I am half hindu half christian so I was very adamant that I would not convert. He didn't expect me to because he respected that and also he is barely religious himself so he had no grounds. Though his dad did ask me on our first meeting but I said no upfront, awkward AF. His dad very smartly waited till no ONE (including my family) was around to ask me and my fiance went outside for a 'call' which was actually a cigarette break because he was so stressed out.

Our parents ganged up on our first official meeting to explain to us how we both are respectively great but this is such a bad idea etc. Surprisingly he was a lot more aggressive in convincing than me, because he was freaking out before.

I’m sure your parents think their doing right ?

Try me. Where is he from ?

Originally posted by: Veni-Vidi-Vici

Staying with him would have been shameful..asking daughter to stay with a gay husband is shameful...I don't know why parents don't realize that gay men don't become straight..miracles don't happen if the woman loves the guy enough...I don't understand the priorities of some people

Tell me bout it

The stuff that goes in this community is disgusting. Desis are OBSESSED with their image. Our own family friends got their orphaned niece married off to an autistic guy just because he was rich...she divorced him after three years and now they're publicly shaming their own niece 🤪

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Yes typical tradition but very short notice. I was born in USA and got married in Pakistan.

I told everyone April 12/13 that I’m getting married on April 22

No one but me and my parents went to the wedding. (Not even the siblings) But I didn’t know I had so many well wishers in Pakistan who attended. ❤️ It was truly a spectacle

Your wedding was a big fat pakistani wedding. Chat mangni pat biya( wedding) type of wedding.

You and your wife is happy. Only that matters.

Originally posted by: Veni-Vidi-Vici

She was fashionable..so thought she wouldn't mind a gay for a husband if he were to shower her with money and a carte blanche to explore...

Maybe he was desperate for an easy way out but marriage means a lot of things beyond those two factors, bonding, companionship, planning for the future and even kids with each other.. very few people would be comfortable hiding such a secret from the society..beyond a point even a 'professional' beard will find it too much..

Being gay is a natural thing, it is destroying lives, causing pain to unsuspecting partners and such things that are bad...plus a closet gay is always prone to blackmail..tough choices to make, but life is tough anyway

True, buts still better than an abusive relationship that people don’t break for the sake of society.

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

Please be kind and do clear my confusion 😃.

Real world mein disclose nai kar paati hoon toh yehi sahi.

Pehle baat toh shaadi karna zaroori hota hai kya?

I want to get married but I don't trust people at all.🤦 I'm a mess.

No, marriage is not at all zaroori. People should do it only when they want to or need to get married.

Many people get married only for the sake of it, just to get it ticked from the list of to do things. The way I did it, just because it was expected from me that I should be married, I said yes to my parents. I never wanted to, I don't even need to be married and yet here I am, married and kids, all that jazz.

But sometimes people do need to or want to marry and unfortunately there is no safe way into it. It's a blind jump in its nature.

You sound like my sister, she too wanted to marry but was so afraid of going into it. She almost spent one and a half decade just thinking about it. She is happily married now, it is an arranged one.