Member Topic: How many of you had an arranged marriage? - Page 9

Originally posted by: Deviant_Pixel

I am engaged love marriage different religion, different countries, its very stressful.

From different countries or living in different countries ?

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

From different countries or living in different countries ?

From different countries, countries our respective parents dont approve of AT all! It's very complicated and life ahead will be complicated as I am moving to Canada next year and his residency application which he started a whole YEAR later is stuck due to Covid-19.

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Yes I mean I didn’t meet her till the wedding day

It was real real old style 😆😆

People stopped getting married like that in the 1950s I think 😆 Throwback

Wow so you had a typical traditional wedding. 😆

Originally posted by: Deviant_Pixel

From different countries, countries our respective parents dont approve of AT all!

But both of you live in the same place now ?

Sorry to hear about your parents. Maybe you can say why did you let us commute here ? 😆

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

She’s probably the only person on planet earth who can control my behavior 😆 ❤️

With just one look 👼

Aww cute

Originally posted by: Pr1yanka

Wow...I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through this...thankfully you understood before the wedding...my college mate got married to this guy, who was already living with his male partner in USA. She was in India and he Would always cite immigration issues to call her. She finally got to know after a year. She divorced him and he was an asshole to suggest to her not to do so because what willsociety tell her....what Will she do n live etc...she is living a successful independent life currently and unmarried. the nerve of some people. If you are gay, please don’t spoil girls’ lives by marrying them.

The boy never wanted to marry me. His mother was threatening to kill herself.

Originally posted by: sev.puri

A close friend of mine had an arranged marriage. The guy’s family and her family were close family friends but they didn’t used to interact much, nor did they ever date before marriage due to cultural/religious reasons. Now imagine in full filmy style, when her dadi was on her deathbed, she did a classic “I want to see you both married before I die.” She has 3 elder siblings but ended up being the first to marry because of dadi se kiya hua vaada. It’s been a few years and she could not be more miserable and to her own admission has said she has given up. They have a little girl and he doesn’t spend time with her much. Maybe takes her grocery shopping, buys her a teddy every now and then. He’ll come home from work and be like “yaar sambhalo isko, kaam se thak kar aaya hoon”, even though they both work full time jobs. He didn’t even enter the hospital when she gave birth because he didn’t want to be grossed out or whatever. Whenever we talk to her about the possibility of a separation, she brings up her mum’s health condition and not wanting to stress her out. No idea what other advice to give in this case.

I hate when elders blackmailing spoils someone's life.

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

But both of you live in the same place now ?

Sorry to hear about your parents. Maybe you can say why did you let us commute here ? 😆

Trust me if you knew where he was from or guessed you would understand their hesitation. Still we made them agree with our terms because we have been together for 8 years since university where we met (in the UK). Eg. he is muslim and I am half hindu half christian so I was very adamant that I would not convert. He didn't expect me to because he respected that and also he is barely religious himself so he had no grounds. Though his dad did ask me on our first meeting but I said no upfront, awkward AF. His dad very smartly waited till no ONE (including my family) was around to ask me and my fiance went outside for a 'call' which was actually a cigarette break because he was so stressed out.

Our parents ganged up on our first official meeting to explain to us how we both are respectively great but this is such a bad idea etc. Surprisingly he was a lot more aggressive in convincing than me, because he was freaking out before.

Originally posted by: Mishh007

By gods grace I’m not married.

My parents had an arranged marriage and I have grown up as a third wheel. These two are so into each other they legit forget I exist. Love marriage hoti toh kya hota. *shudders*

Your parents act like teenagers in love and you have to act as an adult. You have a very good example of love and respect required in a relationship. You are lucky.

Please be kind and do clear my confusion 😃.

Real world mein disclose nai kar paati hoon toh yehi sahi.

Pehle baat toh shaadi karna zaroori hota hai kya?

I want to get married but I don't trust people at all.🤦 I'm a mess.