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Is Sumitra thinking and behaviour towards Ganga is right?

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Posted: 12 years ago

#31

To be honest, Singhs have been wrong in dealing with Ganga from day one. You can't keep a woman at home on pretext of helping her! And even if you do, how come you treat her like family? Almost like a daughter or DIL? Even participating in pujas and festivals with the other women of the house? Naturally the other person will feel attached then!

It is really bad to first keep a person like this but later withdraw.

Sumitra is wrong but in a way also right.

Ganga could be sent to an ashram or any organisation that provides shelter and assistance to such women. Why keep her at their own home?

Naturally any one will feel alarmed and threatened after two-three fatal attacks on their family due to a person who they are keeping at home.

Ganga doesn't invite Ratan to attack but she is the reason why Rat comes to Singhs.

So Sumitra will feel bad.

But yes she should not have let her go at late hour of the night. She should have waited, talked to everyone about her concerns firmly and arranged for Ganga to be sent to a home for such women.

Blaming her for Ganga's departure at midnight or behaving as if she threw her out is wrong.

Basically Singhs are still taking Ganga issue wrong! Focus on her divorce from Ratan and get her legal custody of her child instead of being relieved that Ratan is now in jail aur khatra tal gaya hai! 😡 How can they say this?

In past also they have helped many people but haven't kept them at their house. Aise toh they could have adopted little Gudiya and raised her like a daughter and she wouldn't have grown up into the frustrated Gauri! 😆
Or they could have kept Phooli and her baby at their home.

Also, till the time they kept Ganga with them they took no solid measures for their safety despite attacks by Ratan. Their handling of the matter has been illogical!

In order to make Ganga a reflection of Anandi in Singh family and start her love story with Jagya, they ignored other issues.

So Sumitra is both right and wrong IMO.

Lastly, she has no control over her son and no influence on her husband. She's been mostly a yes woman. So even if she says anything now, nobody would listen to her. Or take her seriously. Rather she'd be defied and made to keep silent even if any concern voiced by her is valid.

Singhs totally silence her instead of finding some way to address her concerns also while keeping support and respect for Ganga also intact.

This makes Sumitra hate Ganga more. This is why she was fuming how Bhairon or Jagya could shout at her or put her down all "due to Ganga".

Bhairon lacked his trademark tact in dealing with Sumi this time.

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Posted: 12 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: Skepblun
Singhs totally silence her instead of finding some way to address her concerns also while keeping support and respect for Ganga also intact.

This makes Sumitra hate Ganga more. This is why she was fuming how Bhairon or Jagya could shout at her or put her down all "due to Ganga".

Very very nice point. I really feel you have nailed it. Sumitra's real issue is not Ganga or rattan singh, but the fact that she "an insider" is consistently being squelched for the sake of an "outsider".

That is why she made such a strong point of calling ganga a "parayi" ladki, and not to be compared to anandi or suguna. I think anandi and suguna were just metaphors for "insider" ... and what she really meant to Jagya ... "I am your apna and ganga is parayi"

How could this be better handled by Bhairon or Jagya?

I mean there doesn't seem to be any way to balance Sumitra's views and opinions along with respect for Ganga's situation.

For me it looks like an either/or situation.

Either say sumitra is right -- which means throw ganga out

say ganga is right -- which means push sumitra's voice down.

Is there a way to do both?

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Posted: 12 years ago

#33

sumi knows that ratan threatens her family by taking goddess vows but at that time she does not show worriness ????? but after sanchi enlightment sumi start worrying about family ?? sumi and sanchi cannot find out themselves that ratan is behind for making attack on jagya if ganga would have not told it must be ratan who sends goons to attack jagya .so sumi should thanks to ganga that because of ganga she come to know ratan send goons to attack jagya

Edited by surabhi01 - 12 years ago

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Missesha

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Posted: 12 years ago

#34

@ Skepblun loved your analysis.

@ Sectoreight, In my opinion there was a way to handle this. Bhairon could have aplogised to Sumi for overlooking her fears and putting the family through this torture. That would have immediately given solace to Sumitra. She too has just come out of a violent shock.

Once he adressed that, he could have then make her understand that G is not at fault, with love and concern. Sumi would have immediately melted and probably gone to look for G in dark night and even apologised.

But things didn't shape that way. Singhs enjoyed sidelining Sumitra leaving her more aggravated & helpless. Now there is no way Sumi will ever like G. She will always hate her because her own family chose a 'parayi's' emotions more than her's (an insider's)

If Bhairon still understands Sumi's mental state & gives her solace, Sumi will be fine, but otherwise not.

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Posted: 12 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: surabhi01
sumi knows that ratan threatens her family by taking goddess vows but at that time she does not show worriness ????? but after sanchi enlightment sumi start worrying about family ?? sumi and sanchi cannot find out themselves that ratan is behind for making attack on jagya if ganga would have not told it must be ratan who sends goons to attack jagya .so sumi should thanks to ganga that because of ganga she come to know ratan send goons to attack jagya

Surabhi

I think at this point now we cannot flog a dead horse.

Many times in life, we make one decision without possibly thinking through all the consequences, or we may not be able to predict unforeseen events. Then, when we have more information, or once things progress, other issues come to light, and we have the right to make new decisions or change existing ones.

Perhaps at the time, when ganga was brought in, sumitra did not have a clear sense of what she was getting into. And even rattan's goddess vows threats may have just been thought to be a frustrated man giving empty types of rants. She sort of went with the flow and said okay.

But after seeing that rattan's threats were not empty, but he was really capable of harming the singh family through jagya's head injuries, I think sumi really started to re-assess the ganga issue.

That is okay. If we have a plan in mind, and we think it will go a certain way... but it goes in opposite direction, then I feel it is okay to change our perspective, views and strategies accordingly.

So I don't fault sumi for changing her stand on ganga (either with sanchi or without sanchi).

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731627

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Posted: 12 years ago

#36

sectoreight if bhairon ds could not take protective measure then it is their fault but sumi ignore ratan threat and went with flow so it is not sumi fault .how ?? .i can also say bhairon also went with flow

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sectoreight

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Posted: 12 years ago

#37

Originally posted by: surabhi01
sectoreight if bhairon ds could not take protective measure then it is their fault but sumi ignore ratan threat and went with flow so it is not sumi fault .how ?? .i can also say bhairon also went with flow

hi surabhi, I don't understand what you are saying.

I thought that you are blaming sumi for first taking her into haveli nicely and then changing her mind.

so I was saying it is okay for her to change her mind.

is there some other point you are trying to make because I am not understanding.

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731627

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Posted: 12 years ago

#38

if u cant understand then dont understand i have no time to explain u .

really in last third post i am taking about that why sumi does not show concern for family when ratan threats in front of goddess and here people r arguiing with me sumi can change her mind with ganga .

Edited by surabhi01 - 12 years ago