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Is Sumitra thinking and behaviour towards Ganga is right?

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Nandita / Tina

@5cents

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Posted: 12 years ago

#11

Pari, I agree Sumitra is at fault big time here but I would't blame her for J's misdeeds towards Aji.

That is a different thing all together. Why join 2 & 2 and make 8. 😕

If Aji suffered coz of J Sumi compensated it also very well ...so no complaints there.

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Picasso9

@Picasso9

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Posted: 12 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: 5cents
Pari, I agree Sumitra is at fault big time here but I would't blame her for J's misdeeds towards Aji.
That is a different thing all together. Why join 2 & 2 and make 8. 😕
If Aji suffered coz of J Sumi compensated it also very well ...so no complaints there.

Agreed Tina! 😊

Sumitra should never be blamed for what Jagya did to Anandi. I was just playing devil's advocate pertaining to how Sumi is blaming Ganga for Rat Singh's actions.

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zephyr29

@zephyr29

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Posted: 12 years ago

#13

Sumitra's fears for her family is well-founded but her treatment of Ganga is wrong. If she was that concerned she would have voiced her opinion and worries much earlier itself when the Singhs were about to give her shelter. But she had absolutely no problem then welcoming her into the family as one of their own. Its only when the comparisons with Anandi started she began to feel a grudge towards Ganga. Sanchi was the one who put the idea into her head about Ratan Singh which gave her a valid reason to want Ganga out of the house. But I doubt this had anything to do with Ratan Singh, even if he was safe behind bars and didn't pose any threat to them still she would have found something else to put blame on her. Even common people like us would have basic humanity to not let a woman go out like that late at night.

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sectoreight

@sectoreight

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Posted: 12 years ago

#14

I feel sumitra's behaviour was wrong only because ganga has already got admission in a college, and her life was already taking a turn for leaving the haveli in natural course.

Also, since the damage is already done, and rattan singh has a vendetta towards the singhs anyway, what is to be gained by turning away Ganga now? Even if Ganga no longer lives there, Ratan singh will still have revenge feelings towards the singhs for giving shelter to her... and especially for having him arrested again . It's not like he will say "Oh ganga is no longer here; so let me leave the singhs alone"

While I would not have had problems with sumi's behaviour earlier, I feel the timing of ganga's departure at this point is really, really off because ganga's departure serves no purpose in securing the safety of the singhs any more. She may as well continue to stay in the haveli.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 12 years ago

#15

I don't think Sumi is wrong in her thinking and her fears did turn out to be real.

Like she said to Jagya Ganga is not like Anandi or Suguna for her.If she thinks that way it is her business.DS thinks Ganga is a lot like Anandi that is her opinion but why try to make Sumi see Anandi in Ganga?Sumi does n't want another Anandi.

For her Ganga is a nobody whom her family is given her shelter.If Sumi thinks of Ganga this way it is her opinion.Why should she be faulted for thinking that way?

Sumi is inherently a weak woman whose world begins and ends with her family and she only thinks of her family first,

But she was wrong in taking her frustrations out on Ganga.Ganga was there because her family brought her in.She should have taken up her issues with her husband and MIL.

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Sudha

@Sudharies

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Posted: 12 years ago

#16

I do felt she was right in her fears about her family's safety. But she's not right in her rude behavior with Ganga and especially Mannu an innocent child. I agree that Ganga isn't Ajee or Sugna to her. But she's afterall a young girl with a kid in hand, isn't it a basic humanity to help her even after the danger passed away?

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Picasso9

@Picasso9

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Posted: 12 years ago

#17

Yes, it is Sumi's business if she doesn't see Anandi in Ganga. No one cares if she sees Anandi in Ganga. The comparison of Anandi and Sugna to Ganga by Jagya, and Sumi's subsequent reaction showed Sumi's inherent hatred of Ganga. We are allowed to criticise that hatred based on the flimsy excuse of comparisons. The context being that she was asked to view the situation hypothetically, that if it were her own daughters, would she allow them to leave the house in the middle of the night. That is the criticism.

Rattan Singh, as Bhairon put it, is a different issue. Sumi just hated Ganga because she feels Ganga is beneath her and her womanly radar sensed the growing closeness between J and G. Sumi had a vendetta, in under no circumstances will Ganga become a part of her family thats why she kept on saying paraya ladki, paraya ladki. it wasn't her closeness to Anandi or her love of Anandi that didn't want her to see Ganga in Anandi's stead. No, she just didn't want a girl she found beneath her as a candidate for her DIL.

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Sweta

@BeyondTheSky

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Posted: 12 years ago

#18

well, if it was any other normal run-of-the-mill lady of the house, i would have said that sumitra is right...but sumitra is not any ordinary woman...she is special...she is the woman who took care of litttle anandi as her own daughter...was with her through all her struggles...disowned her own son when he betrayed her daughter-in-law...also she always supported her mother-in-law..taking care of her..even though dadisa was so rude to her during initial days & mistreated her & her brother so much...these are some of the qualities that i admired in sumitra.

so this rude behavior towards ganga coming from such a woman is wrong as per me .

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 12 years ago

#19

Sumitra is wrong in taking out frustrations on Ganga, but not wrong in wanting G to be shifted to a hostel or women's shelter for the sake of her family's security.

It is also her business on what level of affection she has for Ganga. She does not think of G more than an outsider who was sheltered in their family out of humanity. So why is she forced to love and feel for G the same way as she does for A or Sugna? What Sumi can do for Anandi or Sugna, it is not necessary that she would WANT to do that for Ganga. So J's comparison was wrong there.

Besides, Sumitra was not the only person left to stop G from going out in dark at mid-night. There were other 3 members who could have stopped her and they did, but G did not want to stop. Her choice.

In fact it is good G left. She also had her dignity to maintain. And why live in a place where you are not welcome much anymore?

So what happened was best for both Sumi & Ganga. And i would not blame Sumi for G's decision to leave the house. G was always J's responsibilty and he will need to sort that out, which he will eventually.

Edited by Missesha - 12 years ago

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 12 years ago

#20

For Sumitra her world begins and ends with her family.

Anandi - was brought in as daughter into their home until she is old enough to take on the duties of DIL.

The reason for supporting Anandi against Jagya was because Anandi was brought in by her and she promised Anandi's parents that she would take care of her and it is her own son who did injustice to Anandi.It is still within the family.

She was just taking the side of a family member who was wronged by another family member.

When Anandi was sarpanch she had to deliver judgement against Basant Gehna in their dispute against worker who sone quarreled with Nandu.She wanted Anandi to resign from Sarpanch post.There was lot of crying and drama at that time too.And DS had to sort it out in the end.

Sumitra would always stand by her family members whether they are right or wrong when it comes to disputes with outsiders.

Here also she was very well within her character.For her Ganga is an outsider.She would only do so much for outsiders and not more than that and she won't hep an outsider at the risk of the safety of her family.

If DS and J consider Ganga as part of their family they are free to do so.Sumitra is not obliged to think the same way.

Sumitra is just an ordinary woman whose world is her family and everything like helping someone or standing up for justice or fighting for justice are way down in her priority list.

If not thinking beyond her family makes her bad then it is just too bad.

Edited by aparnauma - 12 years ago

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