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Posted: 3 years ago
#41

Originally posted by: Idkwhat

Yes exactly this is what I meant to say! they always portray half siblings like enemies and call them step siblings, where there is no love only hatred and jealousy towards the other. this can have a bad impact on the mindset of other people and can have a misconception about half siblings in reality. unlike here, where kairav equally loves Akshara and aarohi so do the sisters. Hope this remains the same.


But notice it is only when it concerns two girls. They usually show no issues between half siblings or even step siblings if it's a brother and sister duo. It's another proof of how society likes pitting women against each other.

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: Miss-Behave


But notice it is only when it concerns two girls. They usually show no issues between half siblings or even step siblings if it's a brother and sister duo. It's another proof of how society likes pitting women against each other.

Exactly! I hope they don't further spoil the relationship between akshu and arohi to the point that they start hating each other, atleast now arohi does care for her sister. I want them to develop and rebuild their relationship and see how they support and stand for each other.

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Posted: 3 years ago
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I think it's a loaded question because in our culture parents are held at a very high esteem. We are brought up with the notion that parents are God, which in itself is a very good lesson but for people with good parents.


The thing is that life is unpredictable. I had a love marriage around 9 years ago. We'd been in love for 6-7 years before that. Both doctors. Both from good families. But my parents and family were against it because not only was he not South-Indian, he was a mixed culture kid - half Caucasian and half Indian and the Indian part of him was not from a higher caste. It took me years to convince them. Did I want to elope? Yes. Not because I didn't love my parents enough but because the kind of romantic love you have for a partner, if true, makes you want to leave the whole world behind and love him. It sounds stupid but it is true. Normal parents want the best for you, but sometimes it takes them time to come around and see that you might be able to take some decisions yourself. In the end, I had a normal wedding with blessings from both sides. But the same is not true for everyone.


In this case, the problem is that Akshara is a victim of constant gas-lighting by Arohi. And her family, especially her own brother, cannot process her feelings. Her feelings are constantly being challenged. And in such an environment, it's hard to understand that she comes from a borderline abusive family. She is loved but constantly derided, constantly has to prove her innocence. Abhi needs her to elope because only when she sees her relationships as an outsider, she'll be able to come to a logical conclusion.


Which is also why I really want Naksh to come into the picture. Ask Akshu to come to her mother's home and be her support. Maheshwaris and Singhanias were always extremely loving and caring towards their children which is missing in the Goenkas.

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Posted: 3 years ago
#44

Originally posted by: Indira1211

Abhimanyu is suggesting elopement because he has messed with the goenkas so much.. first proposal was for Arohi…because he and his mom made a blunder..then he cancelled it and proposed akshara..she rejected him xx times…then he came pleading for arohis hand in marriage again …and manish finally agreed after all the humiliation already suffered by his family…now on the wedding day abhimanyu knows he can’t face Manish to cancel his wedding to Arohi and say he’s marrying akshara….Manish will give him a tight kick out of the house…and it would be rightly deserved.. So the easy thing would be to run away… Both abhimanyu and akshara messed up big time and now the family must suffer 🤦🏻‍♀️

I agree abhimanyu and akshu messed up, but why shouldn't the families suffer ? They deserve this as they have been ignoring their children's feelings ..doesn't kairav know the complete truth ? Doesn't arohi know ? Neil? Manjari? Mahima? Harsh? Everyone knows abhimanyu is into akshara and vice versa ..yet by some strange logic they allowed arohi abhimanyu to happen so they deserve the brickbats coming their way.



Manish , ag and Co. Act dumb, weird and blind . Dikhta nahi ke abhimanyu doesnt talk to arohi normally so only on arohis zid they agreed for rishta..who does that ? Although abhimanyu and akshara messed up, yet , they r the ones who should get married bec if arohi marries abhimanyu, the 3 of them will forever suffer.

Edited by _charu_ - 3 years ago
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Posted: 3 years ago
#45

ok so here is the deal, I am a shipper of arranged marriage and it works well people are supported through thick and thin even when they are immature, yes families have their ups and downs and no one is perfect but eloping is a breach of trust, it shows how much of the trust of the family has been broken they will never be the same.


probably if you see this is why according to me sr akshara and naitik were a much better couple and also keesh according to me when compared to kaira, Love is just one part of the concept called marriage its all about trust, faith, understanding and support. Life as such is a very big concept and we need people whom we love and trust beside us through all our struggles

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Posted: 3 years ago
#46

a big no ...family first for me 😊like akshu


mummy nd papa ka dil kabhi nahi dukhana chayie unke against mein jaake love marriage kar ke ...mana lo unhe agar karni bhi hai toh shaadi magar against jaake bilkul nahi ...mera pov hai yeh ...im just saying my pov

Edited by Khushi_Albeli - 3 years ago
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Posted: 3 years ago
#47

for people who feel that parents approval is not needed, we wont understand their pain or sacrifice until we become parents. you people are talking about emotionally strong two individuals right😆

but humari jijaji kitna emotionally strong hey aur humari saali kitni emotional fool hey,agar yeh donoan bhaag kaey shaadi karengaey na,unki shaadi shuda life ek haftaey bhi nahi tikaegi.🤣

Edited by chinnu_kaku - 3 years ago
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Posted: 3 years ago
#48

Originally posted by: _charu_

I agree abhimanyu and akshu messed up, but why shouldn't the families suffer ? They deserve this as they have been ignoring their children's feelings ..doesn't kairav know the complete truth ? Doesn't arohi know ? Neil? Manjari? Mahima? Harsh? Everyone knows abhimanyu is into akshara and vice versa ..yet by some strange logic they allowed arohi abhimanyu to happen so they deserve the brickbats coming their way.



Manish , ag and Co. Act dumb, weird and blind . Dikhta nahi ke abhimanyu doesnt talk to arohi normally so only on arohis zid they agreed for rishta..who does that ? Although abhimanyu and akshara messed up, yet , they r the ones who should get married bec if arohi marries abhimanyu, the 3 of them will forever suffer.

i tok wanted to talk on this issue.seriously yaar. will abhi not get any other girl in the world?

see if both sisters are loving each other equally and can do anything for each other,this shaadi is ok,arohi already blames akshara for her bad luck and failures in life,are they not showing the path to hate akshara more in future? A man who told in the tilak ceremony that he loves only akshara,how did they approve the proposal of arohi? seriously,no family will say yes to already broken rishta.

if it was singhanias,they would have acted sensibly,especially bade papa.

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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: chinnu_kaku

for people who feel that patents approval is not needed, we wont understand their pain or sacrifice until we become parents. you people are talking about emotionally strong two individuals right😆

but humari jijaji kitna emotionally strong hey aur humari saali kitni emotional fool hey,agar yeh donoan nhaag kaey shaadi karengaey na,unki shaadi shuda life ek haftaey bhi nahi tikaegi🤣


yeah dear ur right if i have to choose between parents nd husband i will definately choose my parents ...because parents did a lot for there children nd because of them we r living a good life & well educated ...what husband's role? Many ppl say there husband is supportive nd they help them in there carrer but whats ur parent role? they not only help ur carrer but they build ur carrer from nursery to higher education they support u without demanding a single penny in return.

Edited by Khushi_Albeli - 3 years ago
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Posted: 3 years ago
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Originally posted by: Khushi_Albeli


yeah dear ur right if i have to choose between parents nd husband i will definately choose my parents ...because parents did a lot for there children nd because of them we r living a good life & well educated ...what husband's role? Many ppl say there husband is supportive nd they help them in there carrer but whats ur parent role? they not only help ur carrer but they build ur carrer from nursery to higher education they support u without demanding a single penny in return.

i want to ask those people ,would that so called husband would have agreed to marry you if yoo are uneducated? they marry woman because of the education of the girl given to her by her parents or the dowry. no man will marry a woman so selflessly.if not education,they k ow how to use her and throw her.dorry men are always selfish and only 10 percent of men are true to their relationship. no girl can be loved like how her parents loved/took care of her.most of the men need woman as a sex ibject/money giving atm / free maid doing all household work.


i know i will be bashed for this.

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