Is eloping a good decision in real life? - Page 2

Originally posted by: chremma

But that is what happens in a marriage right? like when your parents find a nice partner who can provide for you, look after you they marry you to him. Then also you leave behind your birth family and start living new life with your husband.The only difference is that when you elope the guy is not chosen by your family.

And i get it that you should show gratitude to your external family, but if they are being blind to your pain, feelings and sufferings then? And if you think that by sacrificing your happiness you're showing your gratitude then thats nonsense.

For a parent all their children are equal and they would'nt want their one child to sacrifice their happiness for the other, but on the other hand the grandaparents or the uncle aunts can be biased between two children and can neglect one child for the other.And if that neglected child has always suffered, due to their conditioning then they have the right to chose their happiness over family?

sometimes your real parents also act blind to your suffering, that doesn't allow you to run away.

Pal bhar me kaise badalte hain rishte, ab to har apna begaana lagta hai

Originally posted by: ViSions

sometimes your real parents also act blind to your suffering, that doesn't allow you to run away.

Well i kind of agree to your pt. here. But here i m only considering what all is happening with Akshra in the show.

And in reality well indian culture is different from other countries, here still alliances join families.

But in other countries its a decision between 2 individuals who decide to spend thier lives together, and as it should be families do get connected through marriages but the important factor are only those 2 individuals who got married

For Akshara having family like goenka eloping is best who want family like goenka they are never gonna support akshu anyway but I DNT want such partner like abhi there no gurantee he will support akshu forever if there some mature guy then yes but if your family truly you I may suggest no

Originally posted by: borntorule12

I wanted to know views of forum members( as a rational person) - is it okay to elope and marry in real life ?

Since we watch a show, sometimes I feel it's important to ponder on things.

Don't you think abhimanyu- a reputed 30's something surgeon is behaving immature and asking a girl whom he knows loves her family a lot since day 1 to ditch her fam and get married to him? Isn't it highly immature. You can't ditch your family for a guy you've started loving. What if that guy and you have a major fight then who will take stand for you if you never involved family in the first place?

How is Akshara wrong here ? She is the right one as however, whatever her family is like they are the ones who have loved her/ cared for her since 20-22 years of her existence.

in general,to run away and get married,i am totally against that.if one thinks,their family will not accept love marriage,then dont fall for a person,pr be brave and face he consequence.only cowards,selfish and brainless person will have such thinking.

Maybe I grew up in a different culture….but I always believe if miyan biwi raazi Kya karega hai darzi (not a typo)? Darzi needs to make their wedding outfits only

I don’t understand why two financially stable, educated, mature (to some extent) adults need to wait for their family’s approval? They are adults, let them make their own decisions

Yeah if they both are financially independent, maybe it's not that bad

Actually, this is true! Couldn’t agree more here! If two emotionally and financially stable persons decide to live together (elope or otherwise), I don’t see why it is wrong! Yes, parents are important part of your life, but them expecting you to be grateful for your existence is little dramatic! U can definitely consider their feelings being hurt, but if they r valuing societal pressure and honor more than you, they are not worth it! And all this elopement depends on your potential other half and your mutual faith in each other!

Originally posted by: chremma

Well if your family is selfish and do not care about you, don't enlighten your presence in front of your step sisters, ignores your trauma and pain...then YES definitely run away with a guy who thinks the world of you, can literally fight the world for you, isn't afraid to confess his love for you in front of the entire world, will protect with you everything he has, wishes to give you all the happiness and warmth you were deprived since long..Then YES RUN AWAY WITH that guy and live a new life

I get it respect your elders but that doesn't means that they will belittle you or won't care for you, relationships goes two ways, sacrifices should be made on both the sides, they should make efforts to understand you, but if not then they are not doing the aforementioned then they are toxic amd its better to leave them behind

Moreover in my POV only my parents matter for me, i will only reconsider for my parents. In Akhsu's case she doesn't have parentd and her extended family doesn't seem to really care about her so she doesn't need to spend 2 pennies giving a shit about them☺️

I literally agree with everything but why do you guys call them stepsisters they are literally half sisters they are blood related after all share a same father nevertheless I really love how they show half siblings can love each other too like kairav feels the same way for both of them this shows how strong his bond is with his sisters so it can be clear among people that half siblings relationship isn't bad at all as it seems

Originally posted by: chremma

Well i kind of agree to your pt. here. But here i m only considering what all is happening with Akshra in the show.

And in reality well indian culture is different from other countries, here still alliances join families.

But in other countries its a decision between 2 individuals who decide to spend thier lives together, and as it should be families do get connected through marriages but the important factor are only those 2 individuals who got married

Indian culture is the real culprit, and society creates more problem for you when you are at your weakest, I have seen this in my family, a girl is not allowed to divorce, even if she is constantly abused by her husband. The family says don't leave him to enjoy his life, you will leave him, he will marry someone else. You will be ruined.

Running away from family is ok for a boy, but a girl should never take risk of trusting a men so much. In Indian society no matter how independent a girl is, a bad relationship can still destroy her life.

Men are not trustworthy, and trust me when I am saying this.

Girl should always give more importance to her family or extended family than her lover( atleast in India)