Is eloping a good decision in real life? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Ambajee

Actually, this is true! Couldn’t agree more here! If two emotionally and financially stable persons decide to live together (elope or otherwise), I don’t see why it is wrong! Yes, parents are important part of your life, but them expecting you to be grateful for your existence is little dramatic! U can definitely consider their feelings being hurt, but if they r valuing societal pressure and honor more than you, they are not worth it! And all this elopement depends on your potential other half and your mutual faith in each other!

They are not 13 year olds so why the big drama? Like you said if the family loves and cares for them, have more faith in your adult children and their decisions? If not, is it even worth sacrificing your love for such a family? A family’s love should be unconditional

Originally posted by: Idkwhat

I literally agree with everything but why do you guys call them stepsisters they are literally half sisters they are blood related after all share a same father nevertheless I really love how they show half siblings can love each other too like kairav feels the same way for both of them this shows how strong his bond is with his sisters so it can be clear among people that half siblings relationship isn't bad at all as it seems

yaa sorry my bad half sisters, but in show arohi called akshu sautela in front of everyone so she is a firm believer that they are step sisters. And ofcourse half siblings can love each other, even i want akshu and arohi to rebuild their bond and come out as best siblings who always stand by each other. I want it befire abhira marriage too so arohi can play her role as sali well☺️🤪

Originally posted by: chremma

yaa sorry my bad half sisters, but in show arohi called akshu sautela in front of everyone so she is a firm believer that they are step sisters. And ofcourse half siblings can love each other, even i want akshu and arohi to rebuild their bond and come out as best siblings who always stand by each other. I want it befire abhira marriage too so arohi can play her role as sali well☺️🤪

Hindi language and Desi culture does not have a word for “half” siblings…all are referred as sautela

Originally posted by: ViSions

Indian culture is the real culprit, and society creates more problem for you when you are at your weakest, I have seen this in my family, a girl is not allowed to divorce, even if she is constantly abused by her husband. The family says don't leave him to enjoy his life, you will leave him, he will marry someone else. You will be ruined.

Running away from family is ok for a boy, but a girl should never take risk of trusting a men so much. In Indian society no matter how independent a girl is, a bad relationship can still destroy her life.

Men are not trustworthy, and trust me when I am saying this.

Girl should always give more importance to her family or extended family than her lover( atleast in India)

Well you're definitely right over this, i m a firm believerr that indian culture is the one to weaken woman's status in today's society.Even a well earning, financially independent woman is bounded by emotional baggage let it be frkm her husband or from her family. The mothers teach their daughters to adjust and make compromise, as if only woman needs men, like seriously don't men need women equally too?

Our traditions might be beautiful in all rituals and celebrations, they mark grand changes but they also mark the ending of dreams for many woman.

No offense to anyone here but i m not happy how the indian society is working for woman empowerment🤬

ooooh i didn't knew that😕

See you learn new things every day, thanks for telling and correcting me 😃

Originally posted by: MimiLulu

They are not 13 year olds so why the big drama? Like you said if the family loves and cares for them, have more faith in your adult children and their decisions? If not, is it even worth sacrificing your love for such a family? A family’s love should be unconditional

It is more about staying safe and secure than paying gratitude to your family. Security should be the priority. Atleast if something unfortunate happens, willingly or unwillingly someone will be there to help you.

This is called practicality.

Originally posted by: ViSions

It is more about staying safe and secure than paying gratitude to your family. Security should be the priority. Atleast if something unfortunate happens, willingly or unwillingly someone will be there to help you.

This is called practicality.

but grown adults can know better? I’m not saying run off with any Tom Dick Harry but let’s say in Akshu and Abhi’s case, they got know each other. They are mature enough to decide if the other person is right for them or not, in that case they don’t need to have their family’s agreement.

Fine they need the family’s agreement, the families should put their ego aside and have more faith in their adult children. Here in America, a lot of guys go and ask the bride’s father for “permission” before proposing to the bride but it’s only a formality and the end decision is on the guy and girl…that’s how it should be

Originally posted by: chremma

Well you're definitely right over this, i m a firm believerr that indian culture is the one to weaken woman's status in today's society.Even a well earning, financially independent woman is bounded by emotional baggage let it be frkm her husband or from her family. The mothers teach their daughters to adjust and make compromise, as if only woman needs men, like seriously don't men need women equally too?

Our traditions might be beautiful in all rituals and celebrations, they mark grand changes but they also mark the ending of dreams for many woman.

No offense to anyone here but i m not happy how the indian society is working for woman empowerment🤬

Sadly, Indian society is not working for women empowerment, it is all fake.

Men are privileged in India, they can do whatever they want.

Originally posted by: MimiLulu

but grown adults can know better? I’m not saying run off with any Tom Dick Harry but let’s say in Akshu and Abhi’s case, they got know each other. They are mature enough to decide if the other person is right for them or not, in that case they don’t need to have their family’s agreement.

Fine they need the family’s agreement, the families should put their ego aside and have more faith in their adult children. Here in America, a lot of guys go and ask the bride’s father for “permission” before proposing to the bride but it’s only a formality and the end decision is on the guy and girl…that’s how it should be

True, that is how it should work, but Indian scenario is very different. Here, An ideal men turns into Tom Dick and Harry.

A boy, no matter how mature and modern he is, when becomes husband, demands god like treatment. Ye Indian men ke sanskaro me hai.

This still need years to change.

Key words being consenting adults! Individual should be and will be responsible even if the relationship did not work after the elope! Family helps you in growing up as a strong independent person! Indian parents (or atleast the older generation) in my opinion grew up with the ‘guilt-tripping, be-grateful to your ma baap’ theatrics! I would never want my child to decide his life based on my feelings however attached I’m to him!