Is eloping a good decision in real life?

I wanted to know views of forum members( as a rational person) - is it okay to elope and marry in real life ?

Since we watch a show, sometimes I feel it's important to ponder on things.

Don't you think abhimanyu- a reputed 30's something surgeon is behaving immature and asking a girl whom he knows loves her family a lot since day 1 to ditch her fam and get married to him? Isn't it highly immature. You can't ditch your family for a guy you've started loving. What if that guy and you have a major fight then who will take stand for you if you never involved family in the first place?

How is Akshara wrong here ? She is the right one as however, whatever her family is like they are the ones who have loved her/ cared for her since 20-22 years of her existence.

yes/no

yes- when parents and family are against you marriage even though a person is educated, from nice family and kind hearted and all package deal but sometimes thinly reason they oppose because of what will the world or relative say.then yes its okay to go against their wishes. even though I could never do this in some situation this is needed. No- something they are right as they have seen more then us,,,they want best for the kids, and Abhira situation they are perfect for each other , from good family, educated, balances each other but ready to sacrifice for each other and abhi is always ready to stand up for akshu. what else do you want from a life partner but I personally would never run away as I would want blessings from elders and what if they never talk to you after the wedding,,can you imagine going thru that?

You brought up good point. I think no girl should do that for a boy because tomorrow is they both fight, girl will be left with no family support. And I have seen my cousin suffered very badly because of this.

Let wait for the story to unfold to know if they actually do it..I don't think they need to resort to any such tactic . They can straightaway tell their families.

In real life scenario, no, eloping is always a bad idea..its better to confront the families and try to convince them .

Well if your family is selfish and do not care about you, don't enlighten your presence in front of your step sisters, ignores your trauma and pain...then YES definitely run away with a guy who thinks the world of you, can literally fight the world for you, isn't afraid to confess his love for you in front of the entire world, will protect with you everything he has, wishes to give you all the happiness and warmth you were deprived since long..Then YES RUN AWAY WITH that guy and live a new life

I get it respect your elders but that doesn't means that they will belittle you or won't care for you, relationships goes two ways, sacrifices should be made on both the sides, they should make efforts to understand you, but if not then they are not doing the aforementioned then they are toxic amd its better to leave them behind

Moreover in my POV only my parents matter for me, i will only reconsider for my parents. In Akhsu's case she doesn't have parentd and her extended family doesn't seem to really care about her so she doesn't need to spend 2 pennies giving a shit about them☺️

Nope.

It's never a good idea. It's cowardly.

Also, it's like a slap on the face to the families.

If you think you're right and you've chosen the right person then you have nothing to worry about. Stand firm and fight for that person.

Let’s wait and see how it unfolds. Promos are generally mislead. I don’t want to think too much into 🤣

Her extended family raised her, funded her education, did whatever they could in their capacity. Yes they are flawed but no family is perfect. They didn't understood her emotional needs deeply fine but they do love her. It's not like she is treated very badly or was not given basic necessities and luxuries of life and that in itself is a matter of gratitude to kept you safe in the absence of your parents.

So if akshara eloped, she would actually wrong IMO.

One day you find a guy who will fund you and pamper you , so you leave behind the fam who kept you nicely all this year's doesn't look right to me.

In real life, eloping is a personal choice.

If your partner is light years better than family then why not. Also one has to be financially independent. Phir koi baat nahi.

The problem is when mann maryada comes in between. Family prestige, caste, creed, religion, status are given more importance. Why risk your life. Honour killings are very much present in India. Our fellow Indians start cursing, swearing, doing black magic. Yeah it happens in reality.

See if your family really values you they will consider your decision but at the same, the couple should not regret their decision or fall out of love and then go back and blame or create ruckus.

If you go thru Yrkkh threads, some members hate Abhi for his attitude and other feel Akshara has brought misery on her own self. In the same way your parents might think that the chosen one may not be right for you. Their opinions won't change It is not easy.

For me getting to know each other is of utmost importance before taking drastic decisions like eloping.

But that is what happens in a marriage right? like when your parents find a nice partner who can provide for you, look after you they marry you to him. Then also you leave behind your birth family and start living new life with your husband.The only difference is that when you elope the guy is not chosen by your family.

And i get it that you should show gratitude to your external family, but if they are being blind to your pain, feelings and sufferings then? And if you think that by sacrificing your happiness you're showing your gratitude then thats nonsense.

For a parent all their children are equal and they would'nt want their one child to sacrifice their happiness for the other, but on the other hand the grandaparents or the uncle aunts can be biased between two children and can neglect one child for the other.And if that neglected child has always suffered, due to their conditioning then they have the right to chose their happiness over family?