Originally posted by: btalwar
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Ruby ... one line in your entire post stands out ... It is ...
This post is dedicated to SONALI JAFFAR ... take a bow lady ... u delivered in spades ... & a humble thank u ...
Absolutely true ... my entire thought is dedicated to this woman ... today .. my brilliant goes to her ... only and only to her.
If I have to summarize the entire episode in one word ... it will be LETTING GO.
If we pause a bit and look into yesterday's episode, we will see that the entire thought behind each and every scene is Letting Go.
Before I begin to say something about this series ... as always, let me bring my personal perspective into my writing ... it is about letting go. Letting go is not always between a couple or lovers ... letting go can happen between any kind of relationship.
I am one of those unfortunate souls who had to let go and do a preclosure to one of the most cherished relationships in this world. I had to let go of my relationship with my mother when I lost her in my teens. I was not with her when she took her last breath and it damaged me to the core. I am ready to sell my soul any day to hold her just one more time, to at least get to say good bye to her. But numerous sleepless nights could not change the fact that it cannot be changed.
So the only option in front of me to LET GO, to mourn and do a closure to this relationship as I had a younger sister to look after who was in worse condition than me.
I did say my parting words to her in my thoughts, cried all alone and refused to remember the bad phase when she was ill. Instead, I now always remember our happier times when my family was full. This did not happen in a day. I worked on it and it took me years to master the art. Cannot say I am perfect at that but I work on it EVERY SINGLE DAY.
My whole point of entire ranting is to explain the meaning of Letting Go. I skimmed through the forum and I read something like how can he suddenly let go .. is it a Eureka moment ... you NEVER let go in a second ... you simply make a decision and work on it ... and the peace which get in return cannot be explained ... it can be just felt.
Coming down to the actual episode. I said this entire episode was dedicated to Letting Go. Each and every character in this episode let go whether it was about the per-conceived notions, their past, their anger, their anguish, or anything else.
If we look at the major participants in the entire drama today, they were:
Raman Ishita Mihir Mihika Shagun Bhallas - Iyers
I think pretty much everyone is covered in the points above. Now let me explain what everyone let go in this entire drama galore yesterday.
Let me begin from the bottom. Iyers and Bhallas. Two distinct families with diametrically opposite cultures, from a diametrically opposite directions of one country.
India, a cultural heaven with numerous values, dynamics, traditions, rituals, values ... all so different, yet so similar. However, one thing which makes it different from the rest of the world is the importance of the family in Indian culture... and by family I mean the entire family not the usual nuclear setup which is characteristic of a western culture.
Don't you think this entire drama would have played out if Mihir and Shagun were not related ... No ... the entire reason for this drama was FEAR. Fear of Bhallas that will Iyer's accept Mihir as their son in law if they get to know that Mihir is related to Shagun, a UGLY woman to the core. Then there was Iyers. They were on a continual quest to find out about the past of Mihir so that they could ensure a secure future for their daughter.
All this played out because although everyone .. just everyone in the frame repeated time and again that Mihir is a part of Bhalla family and he has a family .. the heart still wanted to look for the real one ... in other case ... the heart still wanted to hide the real one.
So with this revelation, both the sides finally Let Go of one thing. FEAR. While Iyers stood tall as they let go of their fear of Mihir's hidden family and accepted Mihir with all his baggage as Amma affectionately called him his son in law, the Bhallas, finally let go of their fear that Mihir's past family will have an ill affect on his future.
And what did they get in return. Mihir was finally accepted in both the families as a part of them. In all true sense. Without any barriers, any conditions, any hidden agenda. Period. That is the beauty of letting go.
Shagun. Oh How I hate to write about this lady. If I could I would have skipped this segment and moved on to another part but as Raman said, you cannot appreciate the beauty of sunlight until you face sheer darkness. And darkness she is.
BUT LEKIN KINTU PARANTU. Did she Let Go of something. Yes, my dears. She did. She indeed let go of her faade, her pretense, her ego. She was all but a beggar who begged in front of his brother to lend her happiness ... well as Raman said ... everyone has a right to live their own life and they have a right to choose what makes them happy ... she finds happiness in a unreal life with Ashok ... so be it ...
So, Shagun the woman who cannot see anything beyond her own actually went down on her knees and begged her brother to accept her. Letting go of ego, pretense, faade. As I said, she gets her own set of happiness in return or so she thinks.
Mihika. A major player in the entire drama yet a mute spectator to this. She did not have one dialogue in the entire sequence yet if she was not present, will anything would have happened. I will love to see a follow up scene between Mihir and Mihika where she can complain to him that he needs to trust her and he could have trusted her with this, a step in the ladder of Mohabattein. Amen to that thought.
What did she let go. She let go of her pretense about her Macho man. Remember the conversation between the two sisters where she said why does my Mihir act so macho all the time, he needs to become sensitive like my jeeju. Don't we always say that our partner knows our real self ... so while we were mocking that how could a tame Mihir be macho ... she had looked beyond the surface Mihir and had found out the real anger ridden, OCD Mihir who was carrying baggage of this past.
She tried to reunite his family with him by bringing Sanjana into the party ... thinking that the problem lies only at the surface ... however, with the entire revelation of Shagun and Mihir and of course PP ... She finally gets the real picture. While all the others are indirectly effected by this revelation ... she is a direct participant to all this. She has to knowingly enter this swamp all the time making sure that she holds on to the hand of his Macho man tightly and never let him slip even once. And she has to do that while maintaining her own balance.
So her letting go is the biggest. Her pretense that this problem is one-dimensional .. no she finally realizes that this is a multi-dimensional and she needs to do the perfect balancing act if she wants to sustain.
Only, what she gets in return makes her jump into it without a second thought. She gets her Mihir .. her mohabattein which is enough to do this for a life time.
Mihir. Raman. Ishita I have to write about all of them together because after yesterday's episode, it really makes them inseparable. They are victims of same crime, the wounds are may be different but the pain is not less in either case.
I am sorry to blow my own trumpet but in my maiden venture "An Ishra SS: Sirf Tumhare Liye - Final Part page 13"
I had carved a special bond between Mihir and Raman. I had written there was a reason that Mihir had a special place in Raman's heart. Last episode made me proud as a writer that I was able to touch that part way before it was actually shown. Coming back to the episode, the conversation between both of them will stay with each YHMian forever ... and I for sure can vouch that I may end up watching this scene more than the rain dance scene for the sheer brilliance of it.
Letting Go. Raman. Could it be better than to hear from the horse's mouth? A man who was at the center of all this and went through a devastation which had catastrophic results, yet finally today, he was able to see the bigger picture and let go or decides to let go. I am sure there will be instances where he returns to his old self. It cannot be helped. He is human not a robot. Yet a decision he made today will bring him back to his normal self after a minimal self battle, something he has never even attempted before.
I loved the fact that he said that whatever happens, that woman is my children's mother and I cannot accept that her name is bad mouthed by the society because it affects my children. Will this man shed a tear when Shagun eventually leaves this world in future? I bet he will because he shared something beautiful with this woman at one point of time; albeit for a small period ... BUT .. it was beautiful and honest at least for him.
So, he refuses to go back in the bad era, mourns and gives a closure to his relationship and indirectly finally divorces this woman. He tells her brother, let her live her life the way she wants, we were not meant to be and nothing can change that.
This brings me to another beautiful conversation between Ishita and Mihir. She says Mihir should forgive Shagun. I know a segment of forum is angry on the fact that how could she act so MAHAAN ... I will like to say .. this sentence bowled me over.
This is what will eventually heal Mihir. Remember, she says a brilliant follow up line. She asks him to forgive her, not be at the same equation as they were once. My Mom used to say, anything can be repaired in this life, but trust once broken cannot be mended. True to the core.
The above instances reiterate the fact that we all live in a grey world.
The trust and sanctity between the siblings has been brutally broken. It cannot be repaired but the pain can be lessened by letting go, by giving it a proper closure. Otherwise, it will sooner or later, affects Mihir's future relationship with his wife, his children and so on so forth. Beautiful.
Mihir. It is said that a boy always looks up to his father as his ideal. This boy never got this chance as fate took his father from him at an early age. But the same fate smiled on him when Raman walked into his life, an elder brother, a father figure, a protector, a guardian all in one ... no wonder he worships the very ground his brother stands on.
What massacre it would be to see his own brother suffer at the hands of someone whom he called as his own sister .. once. So, it is but obvious for him to be filled with angst, anger, frustration all at once. The way he breaks down in front of Ishita and says I never even got to know when I became a pawn in the hands of my own sister. Broken trust.
She tries to help him move on by letting go. Reminded me of the after party conversation between Raman and Ishita when she asks Raman to let go and he is moved to tears. He has from that day tried, a conscious effort, only yesterday proved to be the final nail in coffin.
And now, he finds his own little brother, someone who is like a son to him, go down the same path of destruction as he had subconsciously once ended up in. He has to save him from this darkness so he immediately becomes a father figure and authoritatively asks him to look into his eyes while he speak. Eyes. A mirror of our own self, they are able to convey the biggest of emotions and messages which words can never even think of. He opens his heart to him and tells him that you do not need to be guilty for what was not in your control. I have moved on and am happy in my space. Now, it is time for you to move on and accept happiness without the crutches of any baggage behind you. So, forgive and move one. And remember, forgiving does not mean forgetting. It means I refuse to be bothered about something.
Mihir's dialogue what will happen to me if I let Shagun marry Ashok. He is very well aware of the fact that this family is a borrowed one and as soon as last bit of thread is broken, he will actually become an orphan. Sometimes, our mind needs reassurance that we are not alone. A pat on the back, a hug, a sentence like I am here is needed. Raman, provides him that solace that what if you are no more related to my via Shagun .. you are now my sister in law's husband. You are very much a part of my family.
And what does Mihir get in return by letting go. Believe me, he has his hands full by his one gesture of moving on. He finally gets a family. He is no more an orphan. Full acceptance from both the clans. He gets his lost relationship of his sister. Ishita and Mihir. The rakhi bond comes true when the rakhi sent by the real sister is tied on his hand by the sister who has proved to be his real sister in more ways than one. And, of course, he finally gets what he has been yearning all this while. He gets his Mohabbatein, his Mihika, no baggages, no hidden secrets ... just sheer bliss.
The final bit. Raman and Ishita. Of course, the discussion cannot be completed without the most important of the lot.
That Raman finally let go of Shagun is self-explanatory. I will not go there. Everyone knows that. I will like to focus on his stance when this entire revelation is done. He sits in the corner as a mute spectator, later he overhears and only shouts at Shagun for Mihir. His stance was of a person who is carrying a guilt with him, a person who thinks that he may have indirectly ruined the life of his brother. His past may ruin his brother's future irrevocably.
He rushes to Iyers to sort out this mess. As soon as he gets to know that they accept Mihir wholeheartedly, he breaks down. How many times have we seen this man break down .. that too in front of such a big audience ? He finally finds a closure to his guilt. His past could not ruin his brother's future and this is what makes him happy.
I know some people in the forum were anticipating a big showdown between Ishita and Raman after Sanjana fiasco ... BUT ... it is safe to say I anticipated something like this as I had seen this guilt in his stance yesterday. Remember, Ishita's convo about him being sensitive. He is a sensitive man and a broken one at on top of it ... his Ravan Kumar mode is a faade ... yesterday, it was Happy Bhalla who had wanted love and solace and was scared to death to see the life of his brother being turned upside down in front of his eyes. Take a bow Sonali.
Ishita. "Aaj mere saamne Shagun ke Raman nahi, MERE RAMAN khade hai." Do I need to say anything else? She finally let go of her misconception that her husband carried a torch for his ex-wife. Her eyes during the Tikka ceremony were a giveaway. I can write an essay about this but that will definitely take the beauty from the line which changes the course of direction between both of them.
If you have reached this far, am sure you will surely understand that what do Raman and Ishita get in return by letting go of their own pretenses.
Falling in Mohabbatein with Yeh Hai Mohabbatein with each passing moment.
P.S.: I am also putting this post separately in the forum as after my Yearning OS, this piece gave a me a creative satisfaction while writing 😳😳.
Hugs to you to put such an eloquent post 🤗
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