HUM SAATH SAATH HAI

Keep ur face always towards the SUNSHINE .. & Shadows will fall behind ...

Ruby
Now where and, more importantly, how do I start? I can go on saying , this is fantastic, amazing, mindblowing, eye opening etc. but then whatever I say or write about your thought process will not be enough..

Starting with the title of the post -I, for one, am glad you didn't call it Shadows - to me it's a bit brooding and lingering - and yesterday was more about breaking free. But yes, one can never get rid of his shadow.
Instead I loved how you started the post speaking about sunshine and light just for the progressiveness and hope it depicts

You have perfectly worded the journey of a man from darkness to light.

Darkness - by definition- is simply, the absence of light. But then there is no stopping light. It just needs a little opening to fill you and open your eyes to what is around you.
A man who was forcing himself to live in a dark tunnel when light was beckoning him, a beacon he was not ready to embrace for his own good. He has seen light today. Finally!

The words you wrote --
He looked around at the carcass of a dead past... & wondered why did he hold on to it ... all he could see behind him was DARKNESS.. & then he looked up .. .& looked at the STROKE OF LIGHT .. A STROKE OF SUNSHINE ... THE pure radiance of TRUTH shown out of that light .. the light which showed him the way ...
--pitch perfect and very deep. So love you for that.

My 2 (se zyada 😛) cents on this

Looking back at the whole track -
It started with Shagun being provoked about not having a family. A family which she broke up for her own desires, on her own will. The woman that she is, grabbed the opportunity with both hands, just to fulfill her selfish desires
Did she think about?
1. Her brother - whose marriage she stopped for her own benefits
2. Her son - whom she left alone in the night worried more about her marriage and her status (yeh shaadi nahin hui to mere status ka kya hoga)
3. Her ex - whose life she had already made miserable by using their son against him
4. The woman who saved her honor on the rainy night, which could have ended in a disaster otherwise.

She thought ONLY and ONLY about herself, which was evident from her rant yesterday. She is another soul, who wants to live in darkness thinking that it is light.
Because, for her what glitters OUTSIDE is light in direct contrast to Ishita who has so much light INSIDE her that she glitters even in the dark

If not wasn't for this one woman ISHITA, Raman would have never seen light and more importantly see himself in light.
He would have never seen the love and angst of his parents, who saw him suffer everyday -out of rejection, out of guilt for pampering his -then - wife beyond repair and thus destroying his life.
Never seen the yearning of his daughter - who ONLY and ONLY wanted his love. Nothing else.
He had begun to destroy every relation because of one.

Now he has rebuilt all of them and more solidly AGAIN, because of ONE relation. The relationship with Ishita, his wife.
He has, in fact, got more. A family, the Iyers, who understands him and will stand by him through thick and thin. A lot more people to lean on. A lot more people to share with.
So what he lost has returned to him, doubled.

A little bit of her sensibility - in him.

On the rainy night, she heard about her husband from his ex. She knew what she had done to him but still that didn't stop her from helping a lost soul.
No. It is not being MAHAAN. It is just being Human.
Because that's what she is. A simple one. One who doesn't manipulate or play games, use relationships, instead values them more than her life.
She is always ready to forgive and forget and let go.

She has gone through a broken heart. To many it may seem it was not a big deal compared to Raman's ordeal. But how can one judge that. Pain and heartbreak are the same. What makes it APPEAR simple is the way you deal with it.
She made it appear simple, because she wanted it to.

There are 2 ways to deal with a problem. Head on or run away. Ignoring it is only a stop gap arrangement. One will have to take a decision one fine day

If you remember, in the earlier episodes, Subbu's name and his mother's taunts would break her. But she used to think about her parents then. She understood that she would break them even more if she breaks down. She dealt with the problem head on.

While Raman took the opposite route.

She had told him to be nice to his ex- because she was the mother of his children, and they are the ones who mattered to him more than his ex. He technically agreed to her words but not psychologically.

During the accident track, they talk about the rains and she says how the rain will settle the dust and things will be clearer. While he says, some of us are weak and implies maybe they prefer to live with the dust around them. She says to herself, she will wait for that day while he thinks to himself that he will bare his heart to her one day.

In your last post I had written
"The dance in the rain is again symbolic to washing away all her fears. To tell her not to get bogged down by others comments on their life.
A cleansing of the soul to start afresh. Start together"

But connecting this I had a totally new perception. I felt, the dance in the rain was more for him. To clear the dust. Yes he guided her, he gave her what she wanted, but it was the dust around him that got settled, because she was with him
The rains that she had waited for had arrived and that day he, albeit unknown to self, showed her what she meant to him. The dialogues post that too seem more in that sense to me now. She had talked about a moment which she will remember for a life time, while he talked about having a lifetime full of such memories

With the dust settled, he was able to see his ex in a totally new light. He was able to see her frustration and her anguish. Yes he was disgusted with her for the person she is. Disgusted that she hurt all the people close to his heart, disgusted that she had manipulated a woman who helped her when she was alone out there on the street, alone in life. But that didn't stop him from seeing the truth.

Today he has psychologically accepted what Ishita had told him on the night of the party
And the biggest proof of that was, HE explained that to Mihir, his ex's brother

Again a little bit of her understanding - in him

The scene in the balcony both between Ishita and Mihir and Raman and Mihir were equally poignant

First - the whole exchange was in a balcony - a place from you can see things which you may not be able to see from the ground. A place to rise above and view. Good Job by CVs again 👏

There - A sister stopped her brother from falling. She asks him to move ahead. Heal his wounds and for that first stop scarring yourself. She taught him a beautiful lesson, a lesson that her husband also learnt
You explains to him with an example he can completely relate to- you love your brother and what is love - nothing but an ability to reach out to your loved ones, an ability to nurture and grow. The most powerful resource to live.
You need not love someone who hurt you but you need not keep hating and hurting them (and self by that) and stop loving people around you. Love and forgiveness go hand in hand.
A choice had to be made. To progress in life for someone you love or to remain chained in disdain for some who hurt you.
Which one is more important to live in peace.
Punishing someone is not the answer to hurt. Mercy is.

A quote by Mahatma Gandhi - The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.

She wanted her brother to be strong. Another lesson for her husband who was listening to this exchange.
A little bit of her strength- in him

This exchange witnessed by her husband shook him. He realized that he actually has moved on. He accepts the fact.
And hence is able to guide the person -who knew him best, his mirror, who stood by him through the toughest phase of his life - during his mental agony. Release him from the burden they both were equally shouldering.

THEY need to set things right for their future. No one else can do it.

Today he realizes he actually has everything and everyone he needs to live a blessed life. He realizes it's time to come to terms with his past. Time to stop harboring on it.

Ek Rishta toota. Ek Jud gaya. Do you live the one life that you have for the broken ones or the loved ones.
He needs to make a choice. Deal with the problem head on.

A little bit of her sense- in him

He in fact understands the status quo of his ex - better now. He has sympathy for her. For a second he forgets he is talking about his ex. He talks about a woman. A human being.

A beautiful line from one of my all time favorite series -

Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love. - J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

A little bit of her empathy- in him

He also says she is the mother of his children. He knows that that relation can never be broken.
Again this is a line which Ishita tells Bala. Divorce is between a couple. Not between parents.
And she tells Raman when he admonishes her for bringing Shagun to his house. He in fact tells her Ishita is Ruhi's mom and not Shagun

Ishita knows that she is Ruhi's Mom in every sense but cannot ignore that Ruhi is because of Shagun. She even explains that to, HER daughter, Ruhi when she is heartbroken
The fact that Shagun will always be Ruhi and Adi's biological mom doesn't imply that Ishita is less important.
Infact Shagun has given only her DNA to Ruhi, while Ishita has given her entire self to the child.
Her heart, her soul, her values. She beautifully says in that scene, that tho God put Ruhi in Shagun's womb but wove her(Ruhi) in her(Ishita's) heart
So how does saying Shagun is Ruhi's mother, belittle her. Infact it raises Ishita's level above Shagun (will post on that later)

Raman today explicitly says that. One cannot run away from that fact. He understands had something happened to Shagun that night, it was Raman who would have felt guilty for not helping her. And that's because Raman is what he is. A righteous man and Ishita's action only saved him from falling in his own eyes had something untoward happened.

He explains to Mihir to live and let live. Let Shagun be at peace with what she wants. To let go off the past. CLOSE the chapter.

A little bit of her understanding and practicality- in him

She says that he is not Shagun's Raman but her Raman

Again this is not from a "he's my husband now" point of view. It is about the change in Raman as a human being.
A change in a person filled with prejudice and hatred to a person who understands and empathizes.
A person who is ready to be loved and love in return.
Something that she saw deep within him, something which was hidden behind what Shagun had made him show to the world.
Now all will be able to see that part of him. Because of her

She could now fall in love with him with total submission and getting the same if not more, in return.
She will also get a little bit of him In her
Again only a little. A little that will take them far ahead in life. In LOVE...which they have to discover together. But the wheels have been set in motion.
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There.. finally finished typing, I rest my case and more importantly my fingers 😛.
Itna school/college mein likhti to ab tak NASA mein hoti. Khair koi nahi.
Waise, newspaper clip had hinted on PP ka role in the back-story

waiting, waiiitttiiinnnggg, was following u all in live discussion threads, was reading ur earlier posts today early in the morning, couldnt watch the episode, will catch the repeat at 1, if i get the remote by then.

Res

***EDITED

Ruby ... one line in your entire post stands out ... It is ...

This post is dedicated to SONALI JAFFAR ... take a bow lady ... u delivered in spades ... & a humble thank u ...

Absolutely true ... my entire thought is dedicated to this woman ... today .. my brilliant goes to her ... only and only to her.

If I have to summarize the entire episode in one word ... it will be LETTING GO.

If we pause a bit and look into yesterday's episode, we will see that the entire thought behind each and every scene is Letting Go.

Before I begin to say something about this series ... as always, let me bring my personal perspective into my writing ... it is about letting go. Letting go is not always between a couple or lovers ... letting go can happen between any kind of relationship.

I am one of those unfortunate souls who had to let go and do a preclosure to one of the most cherished relationships in this world. I had to let go of my relationship with my mother when I lost her in my teens. I was not with her when she took her last breath and it damaged me to the core. I am ready to sell my soul any day to hold her just one more time, to at least get to say good bye to her. But numerous sleepless nights could not change the fact that it cannot be changed.

So the only option in front of me to LET GO, to mourn and do a closure to this relationship as I had a younger sister to look after who was in worse condition than me.

I did say my parting words to her in my thoughts, cried all alone and refused to remember the bad phase when she was ill. Instead, I now always remember our happier times when my family was full. This did not happen in a day. I worked on it and it took me years to master the art. Cannot say I am perfect at that but I work on it EVERY SINGLE DAY.

My whole point of entire ranting is to explain the meaning of Letting Go. I skimmed through the forum and I read something like how can he suddenly let go .. is it a Eureka moment ... you NEVER let go in a second ... you simply make a decision and work on it ... and the peace which get in return cannot be explained ... it can be just felt.

Coming down to the actual episode. I said this entire episode was dedicated to Letting Go. Each and every character in this episode let go whether it was about the per-conceived notions, their past, their anger, their anguish, or anything else.

If we look at the major participants in the entire drama today, they were:

• Raman
• Ishita
• Mihir
• Mihika
• Shagun
• Bhallas
• Iyers

I think pretty much everyone is covered in the points above. Now let me explain what everyone let go in this entire drama galore yesterday.

Let me begin from the bottom. Iyers and Bhallas. Two distinct families with diametrically opposite cultures, from a diametrically opposite directions of one country.

India, a cultural heaven with numerous values, dynamics, traditions, rituals, values ... all so different, yet so similar. However, one thing which makes it different from the rest of the world is the importance of the family in Indian culture... and by family I mean the entire family not the usual nuclear setup which is characteristic of a western culture.

Don't you think this entire drama would have played out if Mihir and Shagun were not related ... No ... the entire reason for this drama was FEAR. Fear of Bhallas that will Iyer's accept Mihir as their son in law if they get to know that Mihir is related to Shagun, a UGLY woman to the core. Then there was Iyers. They were on a continual quest to find out about the past of Mihir so that they could ensure a secure future for their daughter.

All this played out because although everyone .. just everyone in the frame repeated time and again that Mihir is a part of Bhalla family and he has a family .. the heart still wanted to look for the real one ... in other case ... the heart still wanted to hide the real one.

So with this revelation, both the sides finally Let Go of one thing. FEAR. While Iyers stood tall as they let go of their fear of Mihir's hidden family and accepted Mihir with all his baggage as Amma affectionately called him his son in law, the Bhallas, finally let go of their fear that Mihir's past family will have an ill affect on his future.

And what did they get in return. Mihir was finally accepted in both the families as a part of them. In all true sense. Without any barriers, any conditions, any hidden agenda. Period. That is the beauty of letting go.

Shagun. Oh How I hate to write about this lady. If I could I would have skipped this segment and moved on to another part but as Raman said, you cannot appreciate the beauty of sunlight until you face sheer darkness. And darkness she is.

BUT LEKIN KINTU PARANTU. Did she Let Go of something. Yes, my dears. She did. She indeed let go of her faade, her pretense, her ego. She was all but a beggar who begged in front of his brother to lend her happiness ... well as Raman said ... everyone has a right to live their own life and they have a right to choose what makes them happy ... she finds happiness in a unreal life with Ashok ... so be it ...

So, Shagun the woman who cannot see anything beyond her own actually went down on her knees and begged her brother to accept her. Letting go of ego, pretense, faade. As I said, she gets her own set of happiness in return or so she thinks.

Mihika. A major player in the entire drama yet a mute spectator to this. She did not have one dialogue in the entire sequence yet if she was not present, will anything would have happened. I will love to see a follow up scene between Mihir and Mihika where she can complain to him that he needs to trust her and he could have trusted her with this, a step in the ladder of Mohabattein. Amen to that thought.

What did she let go. She let go of her pretense about her Macho man. Remember the conversation between the two sisters where she said why does my Mihir act so macho all the time, he needs to become sensitive like my jeeju. Don't we always say that our partner knows our real self ... so while we were mocking that how could a tame Mihir be macho ... she had looked beyond the surface Mihir and had found out the real anger ridden, OCD Mihir who was carrying baggage of this past.

She tried to reunite his family with him by bringing Sanjana into the party ... thinking that the problem lies only at the surface ... however, with the entire revelation of Shagun and Mihir and of course PP ... She finally gets the real picture. While all the others are indirectly effected by this revelation ... she is a direct participant to all this. She has to knowingly enter this swamp all the time making sure that she holds on to the hand of his Macho man tightly and never let him slip even once. And she has to do that while maintaining her own balance.

So her letting go is the biggest. Her pretense that this problem is one-dimensional .. no she finally realizes that this is a multi-dimensional and she needs to do the perfect balancing act if she wants to sustain.

Only, what she gets in return makes her jump into it without a second thought. She gets her Mihir .. her mohabattein which is enough to do this for a life time.

Mihir. Raman. Ishita I have to write about all of them together because after yesterday's episode, it really makes them inseparable. They are victims of same crime, the wounds are may be different but the pain is not less in either case.

I am sorry to blow my own trumpet but in my maiden venture "An Ishra SS: Sirf Tumhare Liye - Final Part page 13"

I had carved a special bond between Mihir and Raman. I had written there was a reason that Mihir had a special place in Raman's heart. Last episode made me proud as a writer that I was able to touch that part way before it was actually shown.

Coming back to the episode, the conversation between both of them will stay with each YHMian forever ... and I for sure can vouch that I may end up watching this scene more than the rain dance scene for the sheer brilliance of it.

Letting Go. Raman. Could it be better than to hear from the horse's mouth? A man who was at the center of all this and went through a devastation which had catastrophic results, yet finally today, he was able to see the bigger picture and let go or decides to let go. I am sure there will be instances where he returns to his old self. It cannot be helped. He is human not a robot. Yet a decision he made today will bring him back to his normal self after a minimal self battle, something he has never even attempted before.

I loved the fact that he said that whatever happens, that woman is my children's mother and I cannot accept that her name is bad mouthed by the society because it affects my children. Will this man shed a tear when Shagun eventually leaves this world in future? I bet he will because he shared something beautiful with this woman at one point of time; albeit for a small period ... BUT .. it was beautiful and honest at least for him.

So, he refuses to go back in the bad era, mourns and gives a closure to his relationship and indirectly finally divorces this woman. He tells her brother, let her live her life the way she wants, we were not meant to be and nothing can change that.

This brings me to another beautiful conversation between Ishita and Mihir. She says Mihir should forgive Shagun. I know a segment of forum is angry on the fact that how could she act so MAHAAN ... I will like to say .. this sentence bowled me over.

This is what will eventually heal Mihir. Remember, she says a brilliant follow up line. She asks him to forgive her, not be at the same equation as they were once. My Mom used to say, anything can be repaired in this life, but trust once broken cannot be mended. True to the core.

The above instances reiterate the fact that we all live in a grey world.

The trust and sanctity between the siblings has been brutally broken. It cannot be repaired but the pain can be lessened by letting go, by giving it a proper closure. Otherwise, it will sooner or later, affects Mihir's future relationship with his wife, his children and so on so forth. Beautiful.

Mihir. It is said that a boy always looks up to his father as his ideal. This boy never got this chance as fate took his father from him at an early age. But the same fate smiled on him when Raman walked into his life, an elder brother, a father figure, a protector, a guardian all in one ... no wonder he worships the very ground his brother stands on.

What massacre it would be to see his own brother suffer at the hands of someone whom he called as his own sister .. once. So, it is but obvious for him to be filled with angst, anger, frustration all at once. The way he breaks down in front of Ishita and says I never even got to know when I became a pawn in the hands of my own sister. Broken trust.

She tries to help him move on by letting go. Reminded me of the after party conversation between Raman and Ishita when she asks Raman to let go and he is moved to tears. He has from that day tried, a conscious effort, only yesterday proved to be the final nail in coffin.

And now, he finds his own little brother, someone who is like a son to him, go down the same path of destruction as he had subconsciously once ended up in. He has to save him from this darkness so he immediately becomes a father figure and authoritatively asks him to look into his eyes while he speak. Eyes. A mirror of our own self, they are able to convey the biggest of emotions and messages which words can never even think of. He opens his heart to him and tells him that you do not need to be guilty for what was not in your control. I have moved on and am happy in my space. Now, it is time for you to move on and accept happiness without the crutches of any baggage behind you. So, forgive and move one. And remember, forgiving does not mean forgetting. It means I refuse to be bothered about something.

Mihir's dialogue what will happen to me if I let Shagun marry Ashok. He is very well aware of the fact that this family is a borrowed one and as soon as last bit of thread is broken, he will actually become an orphan. Sometimes, our mind needs reassurance that we are not alone. A pat on the back, a hug, a sentence like I am here is needed. Raman, provides him that solace that what if you are no more related to my via Shagun .. you are now my sister in law's husband. You are very much a part of my family.

And what does Mihir get in return by letting go. Believe me, he has his hands full by his one gesture of moving on. He finally gets a family. He is no more an orphan. Full acceptance from both the clans. He gets his lost relationship of his sister. Ishita and Mihir. The rakhi bond comes true when the rakhi sent by the real sister is tied on his hand by the sister who has proved to be his real sister in more ways than one. And, of course, he finally gets what he has been yearning all this while. He gets his Mohabbatein, his Mihika, no baggages, no hidden secrets ... just sheer bliss.

The final bit. Raman and Ishita. Of course, the discussion cannot be completed without the most important of the lot.

That Raman finally let go of Shagun is self-explanatory. I will not go there. Everyone knows that. I will like to focus on his stance when this entire revelation is done. He sits in the corner as a mute spectator, later he overhears and only shouts at Shagun for Mihir. His stance was of a person who is carrying a guilt with him, a person who thinks that he may have indirectly ruined the life of his brother. His past may ruin his brother's future irrevocably.

He rushes to Iyers to sort out this mess. As soon as he gets to know that they accept Mihir wholeheartedly, he breaks down. How many times have we seen this man break down .. that too in front of such a big audience ? He finally finds a closure to his guilt. His past could not ruin his brother's future and this is what makes him happy.

I know some people in the forum were anticipating a big showdown between Ishita and Raman after Sanjana fiasco ... BUT ... it is safe to say I anticipated something like this as I had seen this guilt in his stance yesterday. Remember, Ishita's convo about him being sensitive. He is a sensitive man and a broken one at on top of it ... his Ravan Kumar mode is a faade ... yesterday, it was Happy Bhalla who had wanted love and solace and was scared to death to see the life of his brother being turned upside down in front of his eyes. Take a bow Sonali.

Ishita. "Aaj mere saamne Shagun ke Raman nahi, MERE RAMAN khade hai." Do I need to say anything else? She finally let go of her misconception that her husband carried a torch for his ex-wife. Her eyes during the Tikka ceremony were a giveaway. I can write an essay about this but that will definitely take the beauty from the line which changes the course of direction between both of them.

If you have reached this far, am sure you will surely understand that what do Raman and Ishita get in return by letting go of their own pretenses.

Falling in Mohabbatein with Yeh Hai Mohabbatein with each passing moment.

P.S.: I am also putting this post separately in the forum as after my Yearning OS, this piece gave a me a creative satisfaction while writing 😳😳.

Hugs to you to put such an eloquent post 🤗

RES! 😃

Redwine loved ur post as usual 😳 love Sonali Mam for this story I will be honest that I actually like Serial Ishita more than novel Ishita. 😆

The problem here is not writing but the way Ishra journey and transitions takes place. 😉 i m sure this is how cvs have thought of, obviously TRP race is the thing they need to take care of if they want to b in this business.

I get the point that Ishra had to sort out their past before moving ahead but Ishitas transition from Believing Sanjana an episode earlier to "Aap mere Raman hogaye ho" in yesterdays episode, I felt like they should have had something more to be chewed on there. Just by hearing Ramans changed thoughts about his past she concurred that finally he has moved on, what if he has moved on from Shagun but not thinking about Ishita. What if Raman was just saying all those things to Mihir just to calm him down n accept his past?

I hope that they show clarifications at least on Monday. Btw I liked Raman Mihir scene 😳

Ruby 🤗

Hello there... First of all A round of applause for such a WoNderFul post 👏👏👏 You have explained the Episode very beautyful and i enjoyed reading your post more then watching the episode... loved the way you explained the deapth of each and every dilouge by Raman.. Ishita or mihir.. i am very happy to hearing Aaj Aap "Mere Raman" ho gaye ho frm ishita's mouth.. finally she knows that Raman has moved on of his past... and Raman his dilouge "I want a clouser on past" this one line says everything about his feelings... he is ready to start a freash and want to put fullstop on past.. he want a Freash start of his life with his wife as he said once that "He and ishita will make there new memoreis together" and Raman is already on the way to make new memories with his ishita there " Kuch Kuch Hota Hai" Moment a beautyful memory... which he wants to keep btween only two of them :) any third person strictly not allowed btween them... well as a Ishra fan i want many such cute sweet moments ishra.. and i think after this incident both raman and ishita ready to step forward in there relation... at the end i will say Karan Patel And Raj singh Arora had done great job brilliant perfomance by both of them.. but still Karan Patel Steal the Show with his OUTSTANDING Perfomance 👏👍🏼

Ruby
I think i didnot wait to see the episode this much. I am waiting to read ur post. I am damn sure that i didnot understand the mahaanta episode much and hence waiting eagerly:)))

I am not getting why Raman said that shagun is mother of his 2 kids when he reiterated the same fact many times that ISHITA is his kids mom. First of all they showed ishitha as a dumb person by making her believe a random person. And i should mention about shagun and your post in which you mentioned shagun is in the centre of all this. Wow!!! You have analysed this very well and much ahead only and i got it today. A huge applause to you!!!! ⭐️