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redwine1

@redwine1

Rocker

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Posted: 11 years ago

#91

Come on Redwine that ways m I a Gopi Bahu to ask my husband everytime for inviting someoneover to my own house 😆 i do it not just to understand his comfort levels with the guest but schedule time n also coz thats what is meant to b a part f family. When u r living in a family u hv to think about others too if not u r insensitive n next time they will do d same wid u.

Imagine if bhallas wud hv let Param come home without consulting ishu? Wud that b not insensitive towards her?

LOL ... 😆😆😆

Lets take this as a given .. she has made a MISTAKE... she did not consult nor did she speak to Raman ...

while no one is critiquing her helping Shagun .. similarly no one is saying she did right by not talking to raman or taking everyones feelings into account ...

i guess what both Aani & me are trying to say here is ... this is not about right & wrong ... this is about resolving the past ... this is about the CROSSED WIRES between these 2 ...

for the mistake she has made .. SHE WILL pAY DEARLY ... she will get the shouts she will get the problems galore that Toshi spoke about ... but in the end she did not mean malice .. so she for her foolishness will be reprimanded ...but in the end she will also get her pot of gold 😉

Take a moment here ... when param came for the GODH BHARAI ceremony ..how many people stopped him .. did Toshi not ask Ishita to give the gift directly to Param ... did anyone protest the fact that Shagun would name the kid ... had that kid not rained on the parade by peeing on Shagun's sari .. Shagun not ISHITA would've named the child ...

Did anyone reprimand Simmi .. when she said ... Shagun was also MAMI ..

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Aeryn

@Aeryn

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

#92

Originally posted by: redwine1

Well Ruby this is incredibly off putting then

Fact still remains that when you live in close quarters, respecting others is a must. If Ishita has thought along that line then she is incredibly egoistic, unsensitive...

Asking permission in this situation would have not made her a submissive gopi bahu but just someone who respects feelings of other...she shares that room, she doesn't own it

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pomegranate

@pomegranate

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 11 years ago

#93

Originally posted by: Aeryn

😆😆

That's another way to rationalize it ...

I find it hard to believe that after everything, ishita believes raman is still in love with shagun. he may have some strong feelings for her(hatred) but it is definitely not love. honestly, ishita needs to take a break from saving the world and ask herself what she wants from this marriage. does she plan on being ruhi's mom and raman will be the friend/co-parent? is it even possible to spend her life like this? yes raman should lay his cards out on the table but I only question ishita because I have never seen her desire to transform this platonic relationship into a REAL marriage. with raman it is obvious, he wants this marriage to work, he wants her to be his WIFE and not just a companion. He has staked a claim on his wife, ishita has not, he gives her presents as a sweet gesture, she does not. now, this could be because she is afraid of rejection but also because she has never even attempted to give this marriage a serious thought.

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Colt.Pixy

@Colt.Pixy

Trailblazer

+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

#94

Originally posted by: redwine1

na its been used a couple of times .. when there is real hurt & sadness .. when they both are not on the same page ...
i love that BG its very soulful ..the male voice used is brilliant ... i have been wanting to d/l that ..but can't find a MAC version of it ...😕 mile toh pls de dena

I have idea of only that perv track. if you want full version , i need date of ep 😕

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Aeryn

@Aeryn

Voyager

Posted: 11 years ago

#95

Originally posted by: redwine1

How much more seriously can she take her relationship with raman ... if people say by action raman has shown his deep love for her ... has she not shown the same ..

This is what I am trying to say.

Ishita has not been vocal either in her feelings for Raman. Has she ever clearly stated what he is to her? Nope

But Raman has felt her concern, her love in her actions thus has been shown as wanting to live the relationship in all sense...solely based on what is felt between the both of them

Reverse however is not true and that is frustrating. What Ishita wants from marriage is not shown.

She doesn't work on it, she is just content being bahu, maa, sis in law etc

It has been shown she is in love with him. Wouldn't she then instinctively show signs of wanting more from the relation? She is really passive about it all...

Edited by Aeryn - 11 years ago

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redwine1

@redwine1

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 11 years ago

#96

Well Ruby this is incredibly off putting then

Fact still remains that when you live in close quarters, respecting others is a must. If Ishita has thought along that line then she is incredibly egoistic, unsensitive...

Asking permission in this situation would have not made her a submissive gopi bahu but just someone who respects feelings of other...she shares that room, she doesn't own it

LOL LOL LOL ...

V shud ask for money from Balaji .. look how hard we are working for them ...😉

Had she walked in straight with Shagun & put her to bed that would be insensitive .. she told Raman let me come in & talk to u about this ...( here let me add .. both the director & the actress were completely wrong in their brief & their performance)

she walks in dumps Shagun on the sofa ... what does Raman do .. he walks out ... whom should she ask permission from ... Only when Shagun starts to make NOISE .. & disturbs everyone around ..only when no one is forthcoming with any solution does she take Shagun into her room ...

what happened there .. Toshi ... Simmi .. raman .. started firing her ...did anyone ask at any point why have u brought her here ... let Ishita explain in entirety what transpired .. ...they left her to deal with the situation ... she dealt with it .. albeit VERY VERY BADLY ...

... let me add once more ... I hated this move of bringing the ex wife in ur marital bed .. its unpalatable to me to ...i have given a couple of solutions myself on what could've been shown ... but its not something i can't ignore ... to let the writer take the story forward

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--Megha--

@--Megha--

Sparkler

Posted: 11 years ago

#97

Originally posted by: redwine1

LOL ...😆😆😆

Lets take this as a given .. she has made a MISTAKE... she did not consult nor did she speak to Raman ...

while no one is critiquing her helping Shagun .. similarly no one is saying she did right by not talking to raman or taking everyones feelings into account ...

i guess what both Aani & me are trying to say here is ... this is not about right & wrong ... this is about resolving the past ... this is about the CROSSED WIRES between these 2 ...

for the mistake she has made .. SHE WILL pAY DEARLY ... she will get the shouts she will get the problems galore that Toshi spoke about ... but in the end she did not mean malice .. so she for her foolishness will be reprimanded ...but in the end she will also get her pot of gold😉

Take a moment here ... when param came for the GODH BHARAI ceremony ..how many people stopped him .. did Toshi not ask Ishita to give the gift directly to Param ... did anyone protest thefact that Shagun would name the kid ... had that kid not rained on the parade by peeing on Shagun's sari .. Shagun not ISHITA would've named thechild ...

Did anyone reprimand Simmi .. when she said ... Shagun was also MAMI ..

Dear i get it that cvs r trying to create this story . My only grudge y lose logic nothing else. Nothing wrong in showing Ishita erring. But they r not building up Ishra story they r moving backwards. Suddenly out f nowhere Ishita is portrayed as insensitive n shallow towards her marriage. N m not saying that she will not apologize tmrw she will n she shud n I hope she learns a thing or two out f it. My problem with this track was they need not have taken this route for showing progression in relationship.

N in anaya naming ceremony Ishita knew Param was coming in fact she was explaining to Rkb that its ok if he comes coz he is Anaya's dad 😆i guess mrs Bhalla said Simmi that how can u let Shagun name Anaya? N then asked Ishita to name her. n in the end Romi spoke up n didnt let her touch params feet. I also remember Toshiji trying to talk with Simmi after the ceremony but she didnt listen. So the family did help Ishu n took her side then what more shud they have done for her ?

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Colt.Pixy

@Colt.Pixy

Trailblazer

+ 5

Posted: 11 years ago

#98

Originally posted by: Aeryn

Well Ruby this is incredibly off putting then

Fact still remains that when you live in close quarters, respecting others is a must. If Ishita has thought along that line then she is incredibly egoistic, unsensitive...
Asking permission in this situation would have not made her a submissive gopi bahu but just someone who respects feelings of other...she shares that room, she doesn't own it

lemme tell you, it s very true. I have lived in hostel for 4 years of college. I din have idea how my step would reflect but first time when me and my friend needed to work on some project together for a night , my room mate came to me and just asked me " did you ask me before bringing to your friend to this room, because I don't like other girl invading my privacy" i had to say sorry to her and me and my friend left room and went some where else to finish project on terrace 😆

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...EhSaas...

@...EhSaas...

Trailblazer

+ 6

Posted: 11 years ago

#99

Ishita is selfless person no doubt and I don't think so anyone pointed out on her intention neither we fans nor raman nor toshiji but her approached was wrong and even after making blunder she is not ready to accept that she did any mistake

I don't mind that she make any mistake. Actually I was tired to see that she is always right and others are always wrong and she suffered because of other. Lately I started to feel detached from this character. Finally she did mistake that means she is not perfect. I dont like perfect bahu.

She is independent lady and she has full right to take decision on her own but some decision should be taken with consultancy.

Accepted your mother pov but at the same time she failed to understand mothers toshiji pov. Toshiji was concerned for both kids raman and ishita. Toshiji already saw her heartbroken son and her daughter simmi is also going to face same. She is same ishita who blasted raman for bringing Trisha at Iyer's house because Trisha presence will hurt her. She understood as a sister but here she was fail to understand her husband pain

Raman directly and indirectly told ishita that he has moved on from shagun if ishita still think that he still loves shagun than what is raman fault in that. I said same in another that ishita has witnessed raman change behaviour from first day of their marriage to till date so what proof she needs

Raman get affected thanks to shagun because she still haunting him and his family. Didn't ishita was crying when she was talking about Subbu because she remembered those painful days of her life and she clearly said to raman that she moved on and he believed her words without any proof. Just like she was hurt same goes with raman he moved on but those painful days hurt him

My problem is not her mistake but her attitude that she can not be wrong and it's her only who think about others and always pointed out others actions and she is selfless person but selfless person can also be wrong and their action can also hurt others and in Saturday episode her behaviour with raman and toshiji was wrong. She fails to understand their emotion.

I just want to see that she realised her mistake and do something for raman. Raman hurted ishita most no. Of times but he didn't leave any stone to do something special for her. Ishita is so much busy in her social work and Jagga jasoosi that she is not giving time to ruhi and raman and her married life. She forgot thay ruhi is her first responsibility but no she is busy in simmi baby sitting. I am not getting what is the wrong being little bit selfish and think about your life.

She always went out at night and she met Parm at night if something wrong happend with her kaun responsible hota? Everyone had pointed out bhalla only.

Ishita could call raman when she was driving after going from Khanna house. Atleast she could have called raman they must worried about her and here raman called her 50 times but no use. Ishita should learn how to use phone.

She also has right on bhalla house but only her has right nope. Simmi is daughter of that house but still never bring param in house instead she decided to leave that house.

Anything too much is always injurious to health and life. I am waiting for tonight episode and ishita reaction