I respectfully disagree. In reality, it may be true that mothers raise hands in anger when children irritate them too much, but that too is only till children remain "children".
Not after the child grows up to be an adult who's married. If it goes on after marriage, it means that the mother has not learnt to draw boundaries. This is highly unhealthy and disrespectful to everyone involved. And the fact that this violence happens in reality doesn't mean it should be accepted as "mother's love" or that she's trying to get children to "behave".
That's simply NOT how Parenting should work. BEATING CHILDREN BLACK AND BLUE IS A CRIME, BEATING CHILDREN (OR ANYONE) IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE which needs to be strictly condemned without any ifs and buts, and Dhara's behaviour is therefore rightfully being condemned here in the forum. And NO, being a mother DOES NOT GRANT ANYONE THE RIGHT TO PUNISH THEIR CHILD "AS THEY DEEM FIT". Mother is only a human, not God who can do whatever they like.
Also, a mother needs to deal with all her children in a way that shows equality. At least, should try being impartial without being blatantly unfair. Mothers should not let one child do whatever they like and brush their faults under the carpet in a millisecond (like Dhara has done with respect to Dev), and unleash their wrath on another child senselessly (like Dhara has done with Shiva and Krish).
That's hypocrisy and I seriously doubt whether the person understands what being a mother is, if they behave in such an eccentric manner. Mother's rights come with responsibilities, and one needs to have the maturity and patience to fulfill those responsibilities. And khaana khilaana is not a responsibility. I'm talking about the responsibility of giving the children (now adults) the space to live their lives, make mistakes and learn by themselves, rather than 24/7 micro-managing by the mother.
Becoming hysteric just after the 1st instance when there was trouble in the family & she lost control of the house: that's not very mother-like behaviour. Just claiming the rights of a mother and hitting so-called children (who're actually adults) only means abuse of the advantage given to the mother figure. And this is wrong, whether it's the real mother or the bhabhi-ma.
Further, her reasons for splitting the house are the lamest. She's just emotionally manipulated everyone to do what she likes. Her actions have clearly not improved anything in the house, forget making everyone understand family's importance or bringing Shivi closer.
After the batwara, Shiva has still not accepted Rishita dil se (and rightfully so, because of Rishita's own bad behaviour), and he is forced to keep his emotions bottled up just to satisfy Dhara's ego. Rishita should earn the respect by her own actions, not by Dhara ordering people to shut their mouths in front of Rishita. Rishita has now developed even deeper insecurities and has clearly not understood the "importance" of family. Shiva and Raavi are suffocated, not allowed to even fight, and are forced to be together, being denied the chance of developing a natural bond themselves.
And if family is all that important as Dhara claims to make everyone understand, she should not have to do anything to prove that. She should not have to do so much emotional blackmailing, threatening them of leaving the house, if it's really true that family is the be-all-and-end-all of everything. The character of Dhara just wants control over everyone's lives and is taking undue advantage of the exalted position the brothers have given her. That's why it's important to acknowledge that nobody is God on earth, everyone's human: to err is human. She's condemned because her actions are going over the top now.
And having so-called good intentions cannot be an excuse for Dhara's beliefs that her "plan" is doing good for everyone. Lol. Everyone can see the mess in the family due to her decision. Instead of accepting that she has made a major blunder, she still keeps justifying her actions without trying to realise the damage she's causing to people around her, including Gautam.
There's so much more that's highly problematic with Dhara's insufferable, self-righteous, mahaan attitude, but I think it'll take much longer if I sit to write everything down. Maybe some other day...
Edited by HahaHeheHuhu9 - 2 years ago
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