looking at the CVs - Page 58

Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

@pamk06 -- in one of my fav kdramas, there was this argument between mother and son. mother behind his back was giving girlfriend a hard time and finally she calls off their relationship. when he finds out, he is furious with the mother. she asks if the girlfriend is so important, he says that the way he was treated makes him furious! he feels disrespected and treated like he wasn't a man by his own mother and thats what ticks him off. he tells her that if she disliked the girlfriend, then she should have told him and talked to him and not gone behind his back. he is angry that he couldn't be a man and do his bit in protecting the woman he loved and feels angry at himself that he failed as a man.

see that similar kind of dynamic here. many would probably interpret it as fighting for nandini but the way he worded it, seemed like more he was actually fighting to be seen as himself. and it is right that he takes responsibility because he was the one who decided to pursue it no matter what when he stopped her at the bus stop... yet everyone acts like he has no brains and no decision making ability. in a backhanded way, it is an insult to him that they are not confronting him.

and your argument about telling him about the child does make sense. like you said, there are plenty of divorced parents and they do co-parent successfully. however, if the CVs show both kunal and mauli unite and present this happy front for the child, they will have to butcher the characters as it is obvious that they are going to be very unhappy together and it will be loveless marriage. all depends on the TRPs no?

Originally posted by: ProfMcGonagall

...But at the same time, Kunal isn't putting this across properly. He yells and abuses Mauli, but where is the proper tone that explains his decision in a way that Dida and Radhika understand that it is final? Yelling and abusing will make anyone think that he's lost it.

@mango_pudding : Actually what you say regarding her love being the reason for him being assertive. That can very well be the case. No one has a total personality change but some facets of personality does change or come to fore based on the situation or how much we value certain things in life.

Originally posted by: ProfMcGonagall

I feel it's the same with Kunal and family. Dida and Radhika are your typical elders. They don't see anything wrong. They call it a part of life. But they don't realize that you need to talk it out sometimes. You need to discuss. That's why Kunal doesn't feel heard and so he yells and abuses. But Kunal also needs to understand that yelling and abusing is not going to make them hear anything. He just needs to tell them calmly, but firmly that he loves Nandini and there is no chance of reconciliation with Mauli. End of story. Agreed he hasn't learnt how to do that from the home front, but I'm sure he must have learnt that from somewhere. I learnt how to talk calmly from work and university. I learnt how to put a point across without taunting someone. So how is it that he hasn't?

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Originally posted by: pamk06

PS: Glad to hear you are out of it now. Yes, sometimes its easier to talk to others than family members mainly because of generation gap, different thinking etc. But the issue here is them asking him. People keep saying that he did not tell, no one has stopped him but I have objection on them not asking/questioning him because this is basically a question on their upbringing.

Originally posted by: ProfMcGonagall

Again though I would argue that this is just how some families are. Some families are just so formal or distant that there is no talking, questioning, heart-to-heart conversations, etc. amongst them. I haven't seen the show from the beginning so I can't be sure, but from what I've seen that's what this family looks like. Mauli didn't share her basic problems or tensions with Dida or Radhika or even Kunal. She only broke down in front of them when she saw Kunal and Nandini together.

Think about this. Mauli just found out Kunal was cheating on her with her best friend. She's heartbroken as anyone would be. Then Kunal gets thrown out of the house. The next day Mauli is getting dressed up, seems to be fine, and claims to be going to work. In such a situation wouldn't you have gone beyond face value and tried to confirm that Mauli was actually fine? But Dida and Radhika didn't do anything like that. Why? Did they really think Mauli was fine?

It's these small details that just go to show you that this family isn't as close as they appear to be. So Kunal talking to them doesn't make sense and neither does them asking questions. But if they take stuff at face value, then why don't they take what Kunal said at face value as well? He said there's no chance of Mauli and me. He loves Nandini. Then why are they still hellbent on bringing Mauli and Kunal together again?!!

Actually they have shown that Mauli has always been a person who has kept a strong face and her emotions hidden in front of the family. The only two people she actually showed her emotions or her insecurities were Nandini and Kunal, not even her mother. When the bridge incident happened, where everyone thought Kunal died, Mauli was shown to be strong and holding her self together even though she was very scared and wanted to breakdown. She only did that in private and in front of Nandini and also mentioned that she cannot do that in front of the family as she needs to hold them together. May be that's has always been the dynamics of their family where Mauli is concerned, she is the person who the ladies lean on, hence they taking her words at face value after confrontation.

But in case of Kunal, they have shown many times his mother taking him to task and showing him a mirror whenever he hurt Mauli and forcing him to make things up with her. Hence when she is not doing the same thing now, just does not seem right or is weird especially as those instances were not that significant.