Why is it only the woman's duty to understand the man?

samirao

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: Jay Deol
Paro should leave him (go back to her medieval village and get a snake to find a a wimpy husband who sing happy and boring song) and my hottie rudra should get with Laila (as she does not lecture or nag) happy ending.👏

With all due respect

Now I understand . What u and ur other friends want a from the show

Bedside Laila type women's don't lecture or nag cuz they only wants and understands body needs , nothing more nothing less

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kiran khurana

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: Naach_Basanti

I'm sure you must have looked around and found it yourself.😛

Definitely tried finding but didn't find anything, hence asked you. 😊

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sonapari

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: Jay Deol
Paro should leave him (go back to her medieval village and get a snake to find a a wimpy husband who sing happy and boring song) and my hottie rudra should get with Laila (as she does not lecture or nag) happy ending.👏

I like actress playing Laila..

But is it logical to bring Laila here...

I mean nagging & lecturing is one way of looking at paro's actions...

But what does Laila have to do in hubby wife's discussion...😲...

After 8 yrs of courtship Rudra didn't have. Feelings for her so may be Laila isn't in picture & she never was...unless we change writers or concept...this fact won't change...

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-mesmerised-

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Posted: 11 years ago

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In the real world, both husband and wife have to make an equal effort to understand each other - there's no two ways about it.

I guess in PaRud's case, Rudra is yet to accept his feelings for her. Until that happens, i don't think he's going to try and understand Paro because he doesn't really want to be married to her in the first place. Or so he says.

Protect her with his life he will, but he is yet to understand the importance of Paro in his life... the desire to understand her as a person will come later i feel.

As for Paro, she understands Rudra quite well already. She's made that clear not once but twice in the past couple of weeks alone, which is why she has decided to stick by him until now. She can see past the anger and harsh words and look directly into his soul.

Not forgetting the fact that she wanted this marriage, so naturally she would try to make it work. That's a pretty big factor in their marriage and it does impact how the two treat their relationship.

As of now Paro is definitely the stronger and more understanding of the two, Rudra still has a long way to go. Will be interesting to see how their relationship evolves...

Edited by -mesmerised- - 11 years ago

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Suhana2014

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: -mesmerised-
In the real world, both husband and wife have to make an equal effort to understand each other - there's no two ways about it.

I guess in PaRud's case, Rudra is yet to accept his feelings for her. Until that happens, i don't think he's going to try and understand Paro because he doesn't really want to be married to her in the first place. Or so he says.

Protect her with his life he will, but he is yet to understand the importance of Paro in his life... the desire to understand her as a person will come later i feel.

As for Paro, she understands Rudra quite well already. She's made that clear not once but twice in the past couple of weeks alone, which is why she has decided to stick by him until now. She can see past the anger and harsh words and look directly into his soul.

Not forgetting the fact that she wanted this marriage, so naturally she would try to make it work. That's a pretty big factor in their marriage and it does impact how the two treat their relationship.

As of now Paro is definitely the stronger and more understanding of the two, Rudra still has a long way to go in this marriage.

Exactly my thoughts...

Edited by Suhana2014 - 11 years ago

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sonapari

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Posted: 11 years ago

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In the real world, both husband and wife have to make an equal effort to understand each other - there's no two ways about it.

I guess in PaRud's case, Rudra is yet to accept his feelings for her. Until that happens, i don't think he's going to try and understand Paro because he doesn't really want to be married to her in the first place. Or so he says.

Protect her with his life he will, but he is yet to understand the importance of Paro in his life... the desire to understand her as a person will come later i feel.

As for Paro, she understands Rudra quite well already. She's made that clear not once but twice in the past couple of weeks alone, which is why she has decided to stick by him until now. She can see past the anger and harsh words and look directly into his soul.

Not forgetting the fact that she wanted this marriage, so naturally she would try to make it work. That's a pretty big factor in their marriage and it does impact how the two treat their relationship.

As of now Paro is definitely the stronger and more understanding of the two, Rudra still has a long way to go. Will be interesting to see how their relationship evolves...

Agreed

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Midnight

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Posted: 11 years ago

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I really want this separation track to be honest yes it does seems far too fetched here CVS shouldn't have made it look like JTHJ or Goosip girl for example also had a track like this. I would have preferred Paro having a heart to heart talk with Rudra telling him she can't be a burden on his life and that she can see he's damaged and doesn't want to make this marriage work so for his sake it's better she leave.

But the way I see this is all going, Paro will stay back for now because of the injured arm. She will nurse him & make him fit and strong and he will slowly accept his love for her and maybe about to confessed his feelings for her then BOOM... She left behind a letter explaining why she have to leave him and Rudra will go back to his angry man avatar and maybe become an emotional devdas he will drink heavily thinking of the fact he allow himself to get emotional attached to another Beautiful woman who left him.

The way for the show to get back to the darkness and Intensity... Is for Paro to leave Rudra so he can compared her to his mother but Mala as well have a damn good reason why she left Dilsher & Rudra and I'm sure Mohini is apart of it. Rudra will have to understand that Beautiful woman like Paro & his mother aren't self obsessed people who only care about themselves... Both are loving and caring woman at the end of the day.

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jeesie

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Posted: 11 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: AyeReKhushi
I couldn't agree more NB, you perfectly stated it...I was amused to see some people blaming Paro for not "understanding" Rudra. If a man is as bipolar and complex as him, how can anyone understand him unless they live inside him and can read his mind. Perhaps only a therapist can understand him.

I feel like Paro tried her best with him...she tried to look past his harsh words and threats and continued to love him and stick with him. Beyond that, what else can she give, he has to give something back too. I'm res'ing this to add more later.

Well said dear , totally agree with u

Fab post NB

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SoreThumb

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Posted: 11 years ago

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its not a womans duty to understand a man alone
its a two way street as it should be..thats how a relationship works

in case of RR..both dont understand the other to a large extent..
the reason that Paro is questioned right now is that she claimed that she understands him and hence acting the way she is (deciding to leave him)

on another note: the worst understanding of the characters is by the ones who should kbow them the most..the writers/CVs and this lack of understanding on their part is what creates the inconsitencies we see

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sonapari

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Posted: 11 years ago

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Originally posted by: DiyaS

@bold ... WORD!!! So far it's only been Paro who has been trying to put anything into this relationship ... she has listened to his sob stories, she asked Sunehri about his mother's story the first time she heard about it, she has got an idea of his life ... not difficult actually ... Rudra tends to wear his heart and his anger on his sleeve. And he has ranted 'khubsoorat aurat' at her enough times for her to get the gist of his issues. She knows he feels abandoned, that he still carries that abandoned child inside him ... and she has tried to give him her unconditional love despite his gruff behaviour, his rough words, his downright rudeness ... because she believes that under all that, there is a decent and a good man.

Rudra is wrong ... she does know him ... much more than he thinks, and much more than he would like.

But has he ever tried to understand her? Has he ever given anything to this relationship? He has only ranted and raved that he was forced to marry her to save his job ... repeated time and again ... till she has stopped listening to him. And now that she has decided to take him at his word and leave him ... then she is 'not being understanding enough'.

I loved the way Paro treated him in the last scene ... tough love ... some home truths, and then left him to think. Life deals everybody different cards ... it's up to each individual how to play them.

very well said...

I am glad she is leaving him...

he doesn't understand himself so may be thsi separation will give him the nice dose of loneliness...'

It will help him understand what he feels for paro...😳

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