Why is it only the woman's duty to understand the man? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Hope

Very well said, Basanti sa. Excellent Post. I really don't understand why people expect women to care, nurture, take taunts and understand to her man. You asked the perfect question, Why Paro? Why not Rudra?👏

It is hard for us viewers who saw Rudra in his good and bad times, know more about his past than Paro to understand his actions at times 🤔. Then I don't know how Paro is to understand him when all he does around her is tell her off, remind her that he hates her and doesn't need her in his life. I agree he is caring towards her to at times but that only confuses Paro more . This man keeps repeating that he hates her and out of no where starts to care about her and with in no time changes back to taunting her. Even in today's episode, he kept on taking her name when she was not around him and once she was next to him all he did was ridicule her. 🥺

Paro is taking the brunt of his mommy issues . But she is sticking to him even though he has a baggage only because she loves him. Now if he doesn't let her in then how is it her fault.😕 A man is equally responsible as a women to make a relationship work and here, till now only Paro was contributing to their relationship. She was always trying to understand him, give him love, gain his trust. So blaming Paro for not understanding Rudra is very wrong.

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Originally posted by: Jay Deol

Paro should leave him (go back to her medieval village and get a snake to find a a wimpy husband who sing happy and boring song) and my hottie rudra should get with Laila (as she does not lecture or nag) happy ending.👏

I am sure the snake will be a hot snake so I say she should go for mr. snake, and she tell home truths not nag... so if she nags he yells and cry like a mummy's boy. 😆

What Paro did today was right and she has every right to leave him (just not like this though don't like the mockey of religion) the man took her for granted insulted, called her characterless stating that she's not leaving any chance to touch her when he used to do even worst with her during the captor/captive track. The hena epsoide he forced her to go through it all when he knows well she was devoted to her dead husband. He never leave any chance to touch her then but when she ends up doing such things accidentally she become a characterless woman.

Major double standard there 👎🏼

Paro needs to walk out of his life enough is enough... Just because she loves him doesn't mean she should bare all his insults.

Good step taken by Paro today when she fed him the last apply and told him now help yourself!

Paro is no doormat and I like that in her today and the fact she also told him she had a past life but moved on.

Originally posted by: Semanti

Because Hindi soaps cannot look beyond tropes that have existed from the times of Savitri. Because we love asking women why they 'gave up' on a bad marriage. Because no matter what, a woman is expected to 'nurture'. Because a harsh childhood is complete leeway to act like an asshole these days.

Incidentally, I'd say that Paro 'understands' Rudra a darn sight better than he 'understands' her. She maybe delusional, but she knows exactly what he's like. He, on the other hand, has no idea and cannot see beyond an absurd prejudice that a rational army officer should be ashamed to hold.

Originally posted by: AyeReKhushi

I couldn't agree more NB, you perfectly stated it...I was amused to see some people blaming Paro for not "understanding" Rudra. If a man is as bipolar and complex as him, how can anyone understand him unless they live inside him and can read his mind. Perhaps only a therapist can understand him.

I feel like Paro tried her best with him...she tried to look past his harsh words and threats and continued to love him and stick with him. Beyond that, what else can she give, he has to give something back too. I'm res'ing this to add more later.

I would have kicked him where it hurts n dragged the guy to a therapist if this was real life! Paro on the other hand tolerates too much cz she is not me and is much much nicer!
I was happy today that she told him that she also has a bad past, but she doesn't cry mommy daddy mommy daddy mommy daddy mommy daddy like a broken record day n night cursing her destiny! she is stronger than that cz she has made a conscious effort to not allow the shadows of the past to not darken her present n future!!

anyway good thing she would be leaving him even for the sacrificial reason. why should she stick around to take all the crap.. i mean as sweet n loving as paro is he has given her no indication that he wants her around.. so he can start realizing what he has lost when she is gone!

n as for what NB asked - lol women who r educated r crying for those supposed past stuff .. which is ruining the present of the woman who is around him now. He is damaged so he is damaging her too.. so the part where he is damaging her is not at all imp compared to those stuff he should be over now!
As semanti said -


anyway now a days when I see the usernames i hit backspace n leave..

Originally posted by: ttt1

hey semanti

but isnt she too delusional

one she accepts the hate marriage thinking that they are meant to be together , i dont know if it is inconsistent writing or i read it like that , but i felt she is almost ready to take anything rudra dishes out cos she thinks she understands him, his anger ,mom issues

that sort of jumping to answers i think you forget what the question was

rudra , his past is not justification for his behaviour ,GH's dark hero who repents for a day

but i find paro's wiliness to take everything cos she thinks she know him more disturbing

because the story itself is rudra doesnt want the relationship at all , why will he try and understand her

Originally posted by: Semanti

I don't profess to understand Paro's motives or reasoning-- she frankly makes NO sense in my books. But I will give her this, she reads Rudra's moods pretty well. She has hit on his real problem-- his inability to let go of the past. Yes, her delusions are pretty scary. But I won't judge a woman for doing what she wants and what she's been led to by circumstances and other people. Because if anything, the plot makes EVEN less sense than Paro.

is that his problem , she doesnt really know , he realized that his mom left him to his worst enemy ,she doesnt know that, she doesnt know laila

may be his problem is he loves laila , we know it is not true she doesnt

the thing is i feel paro has 2 options one try and figure this out , if she want the marriage to work , even then i dont think taking all his verbal abuses is a good idea

or leave it

i dont see her doing either of the two

she has already reached a conclusion that she has figured it all out

As to why Rudra should try and understand Paro, he needs to ask himself that. He is obsessively-possessive about her. He cannot see her hurt by his own admission. He is clearly attracted to her. And ALL of these things bother him-- because he doesn't WANT these things. Nonetheless, his feelings exist and to get closure, he needs to make an effort to understand Paro. I am not saying he needs to do it for Paro's sake-- but for his OWN sake. And if he has an iota of intelligence, he'll do it soon. He is his own worst enemy, as Paro pointed out today.