Joint Families - Page 3

ALRIGHT! This is my topic!

I live in a joint family😛. And the thought of living as one family has never come in mind. At first it used to be 14 people living in one house but one of my dads brother moved so now its my family and my dads brother family and my grandparents. At times it can get rowdy but I have never felt that "omg Im living with 10 people..its so crowded..I hate it." It feels like I have 2 dads and 2 moms. If one person isnt avaliable..I can go to the other..I get double the love from each parent. Its incredible. My cuzins and I feel like we are brother and sister. I have my freedom and they have theres. If I had a choice to live in just one family or joint. Id say joint..its so much more fun and the house is so much more lively.

I grew up in a nuclear family meeting close relatives occasionally.
But my parents and I do share a close bond with all of them.

when I sit back and look at some of them who are staying together, I see little problems cropping up time and again. Nothing like the melodrama in ekta soaps - but, you know, small complaints and misunderstandings. This enforces my belief that familiarity does breed contempt.

an ironic thought, but a little space and time away from closed ones can make you grow into a close knit family. Right now, if there is a problem , all the relatives rush to help, all huge celebrations are big family occasions, but everybody is satisfied with individual nuclear setups.

Originally posted by: i_luv_jay_sean

ALRIGHT! This is my topic!

I live in a joint family😛. And the thought of living as one family has never come in mind. At first it used to be 14 people living in one house but one of my dads brother moved so now its my family and my dads brother family and my grandparents. At times it can get rowdy but I have never felt that "omg Im living with 10 people..its so crowded..I hate it." It feels like I have 2 dads and 2 moms. If one person isnt avaliable..I can go to the other..I get double the love from each parent. Its incredible. My cuzins and I feel like we are brother and sister. I have my freedom and they have theres. If I had a choice to live in just one family or joint. Id say joint..its so much more fun and the house is so much more lively.

that is the sweetest thing! I grew up in a nucelear fffamily with 2 brothers and most of my immediate relatives live far away. I always wished that I had family members around me like aunts, uncles and cousins. I have a few cousins that live around, but of course I live in America and no one has time to visit or act like family. 😡

Then I married my husband and said hello to EEEExtended family and the extended family of the extended family. Are any of you familiar with the, "beta, how are you?" hug and you are like oh hi....😕 ...then you pause to think whom these people are. 😭 It gets kinda hard on one you know.

Just kidding, it is not so bad. 😉

Originally posted by: Buffie

and it must stop with just parents and grandparents😛...having N number of uncles,aunties,cousins,chachus,mamus,cousin bahiyyas,bhabhis,di's etc is plain 😕

not really for me. i want to live like that. i suppose becoz as a child i lived like that n we came to us and its just my nuclear family its kinda boring.

jprasad wrote:

I can barely live my husband let alone my family or a joint family.

JPRASAD...u are so funny girl!! 😆 And, ABSOLUTELY RIGHT...I called all my friends and told them this comment, and everyone agreed & were laughing!! 😆

JP put in a comical nutshell !! 😆 But its so true. I did try living with my in-laws for a year. But since i am highly independant and like to do things my way, i thought it would make all women happier if they ran the house their own way. It simply makes the concept "distance makes the heart grow fonder" hold true ! More you are with each other , more you are bickering. Its best to meet on weekends and holidays and love , cherish and apprecaite each other.

But even as a kid i thought it would have been nice to have many Aunty, Uncles and Cousins around you. But as a married woman one thinks differently.

Another reality is when parents become very old, alone (one passes away leaving the other behind), ill and fragile you can not abandon them at the time they need you the most. Its i think a moral duty of every person to look after their parents at that time. I feel sad to hear of those who abandon them and send them off to old age homes. Its seriously very sad and i hope if i don't ever do this to my folks my kids won't ever do this to me.