📚Banter: Fiesty & Lizzie's Literary Lounge - Aug '25 Book Buddies - Page 6

Originally posted by: LizzieBennet

How are you doing with the book?

I’m on Chapter 9 - it’s good so far though the translation could have been better - some words just don’t make sense. I saw ‘don’t look so frightening’ where I’m sure they meant to use ‘frightened’. Or ‘then’ instead of ‘than’

Idk if it’s a cultural thing but some things are surprising to me. Like a hospital doesn’t tell a patient what they have without family consent? Is that a thing in Japan? 😳

I thought I'll start along with you since you were in the middle of the an another book, I thought I'll wait.

Nvm, I'll start now.

Yup, it's totally a cultural norm which is called 'family autonomy' -- it says like the family has the full right to take decisions on your behalf.

But that's not fair because it totally comes across as controlling

Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

I thought I'll start along with you since you were in the middle of the an another book, I thought I'll wait.

Nvm, I'll start now.

Yup, it's totally a cultural norm which is called 'family autonomy' -- it says like the family has the full right to take decisions on your behalf.

But that's not fair because it totally comes across as controlling

Yeah I don’t think that’s fair at all - the patient should be told first unless they are mentally unsound. I can understand giving someone like power of attorney to take medical decisions on your behalf when you’re unable to but not even telling you what your condition is pretty extreme.

Originally posted by: LizzieBennet

Oops so sorry. I said I’d start right after I finished the other book and assumed you’d start right away so we could circle back in a day or two to discuss where we’re at. Sorry I wasn’t more clear . I can wait for you to catch up if you’d like.

Yeah I don’t think that’s fair at all - the patient should be told first unless they are mentally unsound. I can understand giving someone like power of attorney to take medical decisions on your behalf when you’re unable to but not even telling you what your condition is pretty extreme.

No Lizzie, it's totally not an issue. I guess I should have informed I am waiting 😅 but yeah I don't think you'll have to wait. You can continue reading. I'll start with it so that we can be on the same page, literally

@b: exactly! Even while giving medical power of attorney, it is decided by the patient as to who will take decisions on their behalf. The above case feels like they are totally invalidating the patient's opinions & it has no weight at all.