Sunn Mere Dil (GEO) #12 - Wahaj Ali, Maya Ali, Hira Mani - Page 108

Originally posted by: unicornhugs

This is how I’m seeing it too. The problem is that dialogue is too vague and open to interpretation. Like I thought she actually wanted to get slapped by Ammar. It also made it seem like she just wants a reaction from him because she still has feelings for him. The explanation of her pointing out his fake personality makes so much more sense and is in line with the story so far. I don’t know if I got influenced by tweets that I saw or if that’s how I objectively saw it. I don’t like things spelled out but some things need clarity.

She wants a reaction from Ammar because this will show her how hurt he is. She wants to hurt him like he hurt her. And that's why she keeps taunting him about BA and comparing them, as that is his biggest insecurity. But just because she wants a reaction out of him does not mean she wants to be with him. She just wants him to hurt like she is hurting and how he hurt her.

Originally posted by: unicornhugs

Also Sadaf telling Bilal she wants to see him at 1 am was because she was feeling vulnerable and wanted to see him.The problem is it probably came off sounding like a booty call when it really wasn’t. She was feeling a bit rejected after their dinner, but the guy helping her with her luggage gave her hope again when he said Bilal came checked out the rooms for her. She feels safe around him now in contrast to how she used to feel around him before. She knows he won’t try anything so I feel it was very innocent but she isn’t thinking clearly.

This is where you and I differ. Her tone was suggestive on the phone and she did not seem she was feeling vulnerable at the moment and wanted to talk. She saw what the guy said as a sign that BA is still into her despite what she said, and she wanted that attention from him. That's the kind of nakhras a lot of college girls do with a new guy or a guy they are interested in (mujh se abhi baat karo, mujhe tum se abhi milna hai, mujhe abhi ice cream ke liye le chalo, etc,). She clearly is trying to "get" BA because she thinks if she does, she won't feel like she is 2 kodi or that her aukaat is now less. For her BA is still about a means to find self validation, assert her self-worth. She thinks if she gets him now, it will erase her past mistake in making the wrong choice and the associated trauma.

Originally posted by: hypnotoad

This is where you and I differ. Her tone was suggestive on the phone and she did not seem she was feeling vulnerable at the moment and wanted to talk. She saw what the guy said as a sign that BA is still into her despite what she said, and she wanted that attention from him. That's the kind of nakhras a lot of college girls do with a new guy or a guy they are interested in (mujh se abhi baat karo, mujhe tum se abhi milna hai, mujhe abhi ice cream ke liye le chalo, etc,). She clearly is trying to "get" BA because she thinks if she does, she won't feel like she is 2 kodi or that her aukaat is now less. For her BA is still about a means to find self validation, assert her self-worth. She thinks if she gets him now, it will erase her past mistake in making the wrong choice and the associated trauma.

Originally posted by: unicornhugs

This is how I’m seeing it too. The problem is that dialogue is too vague and open to interpretation. Like I thought she actually wanted to get slapped by Ammar. It also made it seem like she just wants a reaction from him because she still has feelings for him. The explanation of her pointing out his fake personality makes so much more sense and is in line with the story so far. I don’t know if I got influenced by tweets that I saw or if that’s how I objectively saw it. I don’t like things spelled out but some things need clarity.

Also Sadaf telling Bilal she wants to see him at 1 am was because she was feeling vulnerable and wanted to see him.The problem is it probably came off sounding like a booty call when it really wasn’t. She was feeling a bit rejected after their dinner, but the guy helping her with her luggage gave her hope again when he said Bilal came checked out the rooms for her. She feels safe around him now in contrast to how she used to feel around him before. She knows he won’t try anything so I feel it was very innocent but she isn’t thinking clearly.

Let me analyze the emotional awareness between Amaar, Sadaf, and Bilal. This will help in understanding the characters better.

It is clear that Sadaf wants to hurt Amaar—she has no intention of going back to him. She harbors deep anger and resentment towards him, which is why she is baiting him, just like luring a fish with bait. Due to the chain of trauma she has experienced, her personality is evolving towards narcissism. The reason for this is not that she ever loved Amaar—she never did. She wanted to believe in his love and tied herself to him through marriage. However, when she saw Amaar and Dania together in an intimate setting (feeding each other, Dania saying, "I will put you to sleep"), she realized that the problem wasn’t Amaar’s insecurity but that his love was fake.

Now, Sadaf is filled with anger and resentment, thinking, "How could I have fallen for this fraud?" On the other hand, Amaar is still unaware of this reality. He assumes that the girl who rejected Bilal will calm down and eventually forgive him. However, Sadaf married Amaar because she believed in his love. Failing to understand this, Amaar built his reconciliation attempts on the idea of settling scores. Notice that his apologies and proposals always revolve around phrases like "I forgave you, now we’re even."

Sadaf’s emotional breakdown and trauma are preventing her from acknowledging the feelings she had for Bilal since the very first day they met. People find ways to cope with their losses and painful experiences in different ways—some turn to alcohol (like Bilal), some distance themselves, some seek comfort in a trusted friend, some hold on to anger and resentment, and most importantly, some try to rediscover the love they lost.

Bilal, on the other hand, has not fully recovered from the trauma of his parents. His self-preservation instinct is making him stay away from Sadaf. His experience with love has only changed his perception of women and eradicated the hatred he once had inside him. He believes that Sadaf was truly in love with Amaar and that her actions are driven by anger and revenge. He does not see her as indecisive but rather as a stubborn girl who frequently changes her mind.

Each of them has a different and incomplete perspective on love.

• Bilal thinks love is a one-sided feeling.
• Amaar sees love as something that must be stolen or forcibly obtained.
• Sadaf has a narcissistic approach—she believes the ultimate boundary a man can reach for love is suicidal tendencies.

In the upcoming episodes, all three characters’ perspectives on love will change again. Ultimately, we will see Bilal and Sadaf together.

I hope you liked this short article!

Originally posted by: unicornhugs

Actually I agree with you. She is using him for self validation. She definitely took that guy’s words as Bilal still interested. I just don’t think it was sexual in nature. By talking, I meant she wanted him to tell her things she wants to hear and feel better about herself. I think she’s confident that he won’t try anything and that’s why she’s comfortable asking to meet with him at 1 am. Her lack of self worth at the moment and desire to be validated is what js causing her to be more vulnerable.

Yeah she wasn't going to have sex with him. She wanted his attention, his affirmations of love, how qeemti he thinks she is to feel good about herself. Which she can then also use to taunt Ammar ke main raat ke ek baje Bilal se milne uske ghar gayi thi. She also sees that if she spends more time with him flirts with him, he will fall even more in love with her and propose to her. She is also so powerless now that she wants to feel she has power over a man to feel in control, and BA is the guy she has chosen to try this on.

Frankly, if she was sitting in proper iddat, she would by default have had to curb these impulsive decisions and it would have given her time to introspect heal and recalibrate.

Originally posted by: hypnotoad

Yeah she wasn't going to have sex with him. She wanted his attention, his affirmations of love, how qeemti he thinks she is to feel good about herself. Which she can then also use to taunt Ammar ke main raat ke ek baje Bilal se milne uske ghar gayi thi. She also sees that if she spends more time with him flirts with him, he will fall even more in love with her and propose to her. She is also so powerless now that she wants to feel she has power over a man to feel in control, and BA is the guy she has chosen to try this on.

Frankly, if she was sitting in proper iddat, she would by default have had to curb these impulsive decisions and it would have given her time to introspect heal and recalibrate.

Originally posted by: hakanturkey

Sadaf is showing signs of evolving into a narcissistic personality. Mark my words—there will be a night, even before they get married, when they are staying in the same house. We will hear Sadaf’s inner thoughts revealing her desire to be intimate with Bilal. In fact, she will even make attempts to act on these feelings. However, Bilal’s behavior will shut down these advances.

This is ptv so they won't go that far so as to have Sadaf make an actual move to be with BA or even say that. Her sounding seductive on the phone saying if she can come over, the dinner "date", the eye f***ing in the doorstep - all during iddat - is already pushing it for pakistani viewers. Besides she is a good FL who gets the good guy. They won't have her act like Dania 2.0. At least I hope not.

This fits Sadaf's behaviour.

Rebound behavior after a divorce can include signs like: rushing into a new relationship very quickly, focusing heavily on physical intimacy with the new partner, frequently comparing the new partner to the ex, being overly attentive or emotionally dependent, and showing a lack of genuine emotional connection, often using the new relationship as a way to cope with the pain of the divorce rather than building a healthy foundation.

Key signs of rebound behavior after divorce:

• Fast-paced relationship: Moving too quickly into serious commitment or intimacy with a new partner shortly after the divorce.

• Constant comparison to the ex: Frequently mentioning or comparing the new partner to the ex, either positively or negatively.

• Overly attentive behavior: Being excessively eager to please or cater to the new partner, sometimes appearing overly enthusiastic.

• Emotional dependency: Relying heavily on the new partner for validation and emotional support, potentially due to vulnerability after the divorce.

• Lack of deep emotional connection: Difficulty discussing personal feelings or establishing a meaningful emotional bond with the new partner.

• Ignoring red flags: Disregarding potential issues or unhealthy patterns in the new relationship because of the need for companionship.

• Talking negatively about the ex constantly: Using the new partner as a sounding board to complain about the ex excessively.

What to do if you suspect rebound behavior:

• Take time to reflect: Consider your motivations for wanting a new relationship so quickly after the divorce.

• Communicate openly: Discuss your concerns with your new partner and be honest about your emotional state.

• Seek professional support: If you are struggling to process emotions from the divorce, consider therapy to help you navigate dating and

Out of the six characters in the drama, five share a common trait—since the very first episode, they have all been suffering from heartbreak. The only one who hasn’t experienced this pain is Sadaf. Without going through that pain, she has no chance of being with Bilal. She needs to suffer first, then Bilal.

Even Bilal Abdullah has stopped making sense . One moment he says that he doesn’t need her in his life and in another he is planning to marry her.