Warning bells for Nav - Page 13

Originally posted by: Aashiqanafan

Red : Did you realize to put forward your point you acknowledged that AK remembered Neil . And there is no truth to the allegation that AK forgot about Neil .

Blue : The 6 yrs was not shown in detail but was shown in a snapshot so we have no way of knowing correctly how much close they were physically. But I ack that they did show wearing Mangalsutra only after the UD trip. For me there is only one reason as producer was not sure whether they want to keep Nav for long time or not. Once they knew that audience liked the Sharmas they went ahead with that family.And that is the reason they had to show the Puja etc after the trip so that they can show Sindoor etc. But this Sindoor and Mangalsutra was for me a sign of acknowledgement to the outsider. From her personal feeling point of view she had accepted AbhiN long time much before that Puja even though their relationship started just because of Abhir .

yes they showed that scene and I have no problem in acknowledging anything that writers have shown. Remembering Neil doesn’t mean she understood or acknowledged Manjiri’s and Abhi’s pain of loosing Neil. For her still her pain mattered and still matters and everyone else was on bed of roses.

Bold above - what, where, how, when was that personal feeling point of view shown!! That is filling in the blank to suit your perceived and preferred narrative of the story.

Originally posted by: OnTheBlock

Naah, not even the slightest. He has nothing to fear. Cause uske paas ek cheez hain jo Abhimanyu ke paas kabhi nahi thi, aur naa kabhi hogi. CONSISTENCY of achhai and strength of character that doesn't change with changing seasons and doesnt flip flop between being the aggressor and victim as per convenience. He's EVERGREEN in his achhai.

No wonder Abhinav ke paas Akshara aur Abhir bacha hain. Uski family. His PERFECT HAPPY family which is a mere dream for others and something they can only now achieve by being the family's second choice 😉😆

The greatest difference between Abhinav and Abhimanyu's achai is simple but stark. Abhinav was achha FROM VERY THE START. He put his heart and soul in building a home for his family, and proved his love and devotion through effort, THROUGH ACTIONS and not just words, esp not through 2 mins noodles roohdariyaan, flippity floppity instant tide/surf whitewashing or gas induced blood connection 😆

It's funny and ironical how they use Akshara to whitewash Abhimanyu esp when he's been the cause of her misery in the first place, every single time but that itself goes to show that even if Akshara voices out how Abhimanyu is the greatest person alive today, she still has zero inclination to go back to him,doesnt reminiscence about their past or what-ifs, doesn't feel anything close to love for him. She couldn't even be bothered to look at him in any way other than with abject sympathy today... He's nothing to her except the biological dad to her kid.

Why? Because ek instance ki mahaanta after being the very cause of her misery every single time cannot outdo the consistent love, respect and support her husband Abhinav has given her for 6 years. He has erased him by actually showing Akshara what a good husband,real love and support, a healthy marriage actually look and feels like.

So while he was alive Akshara never had eyes or space in her heart for anyone else. He was IT for her. Her one stop for happiness. One cannot say the same for her feelings for Abhimanyu.

That's the power of being in love with a man who's always been CONSISTENTLY non-abusive, good, decent, respectful and supportive from the very start. And after 6 years is still the same person that held her hand to support a fellow human being in times of need. No surprises, no inconsistencies, zero abuse.

So nope, Abhinav Sharma has nothing to fear. He knows he is irreplaceable in her heart and life and as long as he was alive, her heart was only his and his alone. No second choices or outsider allowed😆

You took the words out of my mouth. Brilliantly articulated post. Agree to everything you said! ❤❤❤

Originally posted by: dotheDrama

Exactly! I don’t understand this great thing that Abhinav did which everyone hails! If you ask me, it’s the most stupid decision ever. It was marriage of convenience for Akshara. And a ready-made family for Abhinav. Who cares about first getting to know each other, falling in love, apparently it’s too stereotypical.

It took less then 9 months for AK to understand, trust and marry this guy.

I would run miles away from this kind of acha aadmi. It was fortunate for AK that nothng bad happended to her and her child. Usually these are the kind of people who actually groom others and abuse them. How was AK so sure that Abhinav was the real name and he was not someone just released from jail.

Originally posted by: DevilsHeart

I know the narrative of this show but I totally disagree with it. ITV may romanticize such things but a real marriage isn’t social service or charity however noble it may appear. Anyone - a girl or a guy- no one should choose their partner like this.

Yes even in Abhimanyu-Akshara relationship- there wasn’t any significant courtship period - they didn’t fully understand each other and it became worse because of differences in their families. They could have noticed issues earlier and broken up or decided to live away from family.

Although Abhinav-Akshara relationship worked but its not at all advisable to get into a relationship in the way they did - its utterly idiotic! Abhinav should have been told about Akshara’s past, her family - if he is marrying her, she owed him that much! There should have been discussions about what they expect from each other and what they can give to each other. That would have been the realistic and mature way.

Bold parts above - exactly, on point. Thank you for saying this ❤️🙌

And portraying/accepting this utterly idiotic decision and married life of convenience that followed as some mahan sacrifice of Abhinav is the biggest folly. What a sham!!

Note to AK, it took you less than a year to give Abhi's place to someone 6 years ago.

But to date Abhi never gave your place to anyone else. He only agreed to married to Arohi for Ruhi future and happiness and even at the time you did not inform him that Abhir was a child. Like a thief you were playing hide and seek.

So AK your liar and deceiving person and you don;t even deserve Abhinav who you have only used to hide Abhir reality.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Where exactly? Asking Nav to leave is not jealously or judgement. He was openly challenging that Ak still loves him. How is that jealousy? Did he try to hit Nav or sabotage Navra marriage in anyways?

And judging someone for leaving without a note for a full year is different sort of judgement than character judgment that you were talking about.

Lol, and the fact that he asked Ak to come back to him even knowing she moved on and had kid with another guy shows how little he cares about those things. Like it should be. If you love someone their past obviously doesn't matter to you. But, you should at least know about their past, talk about it, etc.

Dude that’s way worst than jealousy 😂

Soo people r saying woman should open up about past before gett Into relationship…..but what if that past is traumatic horrifying abusive…..there r people who don’t like to remember past demons and don’t bring them to ruin their future and present..it’s better to move on with present and future than bringing past crack relationship with ur partner if ur partner has no problem not knowing then go on with flow

Originally posted by: NomadicWonders

bold - completely agree with you. But that is not what happened in the story. There is a difference between not bringing up the past and not bothering when you know that someone is going through emotional turmoil due to past.

It was clearly shown that Akshara festered hate and hurt for 6 years until her first outlet during Abhimanyu’s first Kasuali visit. So she lived 6 years with someone without sharing an ounce of it, suffering alone but was still in happy married life?

Yes Akshara said she was happy in Kasuali because that is the fascade she had created for the rest of world and her family when she lied to everyone to say that she married and had a child with that person too. And the best husband title was bestowed to Abhinav by Akshara in Udaipur (when she clearly knew they weren’t in husband-wife relation, but just the label) to just spite Abhimanyu.

Yes, I truly believe that your partner should support you in coming out of trauma but we weren’t shown the 6 years so we don’t know how Abhinav helped her heal. Yeah I’m sure she never showed him Abhimanyu’s picture so he didn’t know how he looked like but he eventually figured it out and she didn’t hide it from him. The comfort level the two shared despite not sharing the bed clearly showed how supportive they have been of one another.
Now we’re assuming that Akshara wasn’t completely healed but that was not shown in the show. According to the show and Akshara’s own words, she had completely healed but again no matter how much you have healed and moved on, your past will have an impact on you once it comes in front of you. Akshara still had childhood in her adult life but that doesn’t mean we’re going to blame Abhi for not helping her but instead blaming her for Seerat’s death. Akshara can have 5 kids with Abhinav but once she sees Abhi, she can’t completely be emotionless. Same goes the other way, let’s say Abhinav doesn’t die and comes back a year later when Abhimanyu and Akshara are getting married, will Akshara simply just get married to Abhimanyu without feeling any ounce for Abhinav? No that’s not how it works.

Originally posted by: SwatiSingh79

We were talking about a marriage. A monogamous marriage involves two people and both have equal contribution to it, the first deal of a monogamous marriage is emotional loyalty, if wife is emotionally involved with her ex husband then the marriage is not an ideal marriage, not for me, I won't speak about other people. Physical intimacy is out of the question however lack of physical intimacy being a valid ground for divorce brings an important ground for assessing a marriage but since everyone is content with no physical relationship or attraction between a married couple for 6 years then I wouldn't dwell on it. The initial wasn't day 1 of their relationship, we are talking about those 6 years they spent in Kasauli away from Abhi after spending 6 years with Abhinav, Ak could feel Abhi's presence in a muffler, she could feel his closeness when he walked into her house that is not a woman who has spent 6 beautiful years with her husband and this is not a marriage as I mentioned monogamous marriage demands loyalty. Ak could feel Abhi's presence when he came to her house on his bike, this was after Ak's temple confession and multiple attempts to move on with her husband. It was Ak who said she couldn't move on with Abhinav in those 6 years because she was stuck on Abhi this was after Abhi got to know about Abhir. You are painting picture of a marriage which was based on conditions of not sharing emotional or physical loyalty, what marriage is this? Those 6 years were anything but a marriage.

I still wanna know when Akshara said she couldn’t move on because of Abhi lol. If you’re basing the marriage on assumptions and not actually what the characters are portraying and the writers are writing, we don’t have much to say :)

Originally posted by: Noorain13

Yes, I truly believe that your partner should support you in coming out of trauma but we weren’t shown the 6 years so we don’t know how Abhinav helped her heal. Yeah I’m sure she never showed him Abhimanyu’s picture so he didn’t know how he looked like but he eventually figured it out and she didn’t hide it from him. The comfort level the two shared despite not sharing the bed clearly showed how supportive they have been of one another.
Now we’re assuming that Akshara wasn’t completely healed but that was not shown in the show. According to the show and Akshara’s own words, she had completely healed but again no matter how much you have healed and moved on, your past will have an impact on you once it comes in front of you. Akshara still had childhood in her adult life but that doesn’t mean we’re going to blame Abhi for not helping her but instead blaming her for Seerat’s death. Akshara can have 5 kids with Abhinav but once she sees Abhi, she can’t completely be emotionless. Same goes the other way, let’s say Abhinav doesn’t die and comes back a year later when Abhimanyu and Akshara are getting married, will Akshara simply just get married to Abhimanyu without feeling any ounce for Abhinav? No that’s not how it works.

first para above - true, we weren’t shown the 6 years but we were shown that Abhinav did not know anything about Akshara or her past life. He just knew that she has a family in Udaipur, that’s it. He didn’t even know how filthy rich she was and that part wasn’t even related to her traumatic past! As regards to comfort level, they clearly showed when Abhir wasn’t around, they were just awkward with each other, the guy didn’t even touch her to put ointment on her hand when she burned her hand. What comfortable level are we talking about!

Second para above - what shows Akshara was completely healed and over her past in 6 years? The fact that she didn’t move on with her legally married husband in 6 years they lived together? If she was “completely healed” in those 6 years what was stopping her to make her “marriage of convenience” real, to fully embrace her relationship with her legal husband?