Warning bells for Nav - Page 10

Originally posted by: Noorain13

I think a lot of women or people in general would agree that we don’t want a partner who constantly brings up our past or holds us responsible for whatever happened. There are people who would bring up our past with the slightest inconveniences and others who never even make us feel as if we had a horrible past. We can help others walk their path but can never walk for them. We should never rely on others to heal us. Healing comes from within.
I don’t have to give any other examples because we have one in Abhinav who never wanted to know what happened in Akshara’s past because he knew it was horrible taking into consideration how and in what state he found her.

Again, Akshara herself made it prominent a billion times how happy and at peace she was so why is it so hard to accept it? Now once her husband passes away, she can happily move on after she heals from it with whoever she wants and chooses.

It was clearly shown that Akshara festered hate and hurt for 6 years until her first outlet during Abhimanyu’s first Kasuali visit. So she lived 6 years with someone without sharing an ounce of it, suffering alone but was still in happy married life?

Yes Akshara said she was happy in Kasuali because that is the fascade she had created for the rest of world and her family when she lied to everyone to say that she married and had a child with that person too. And the best husband title was bestowed to Abhinav by Akshara in Udaipur (when she clearly knew they weren’t in husband-wife relation, but just the label) to just spite Abhimanyu.

Originally posted by: OnTheBlock

What? Oh absolutely a great husband! Who actually gave SPACE to his wife to open up on her OWN TERMS and her own TIMELINE.

Why would any decent life partner bring up anything to trigger their spouse when the spouse itself wasn't clearly ready.

Trauma and processing of that trauma, healing and recovery is never linear. It takes months, years and even decades to come to terms with a traumatic event.

Abhinav build a home for Akshara to take solace in, find comfort in...be ready to reveal or NEVER reveal her past. Thats on Akshara. The onus was on Akshara whether she wanted to reveal her past struggles or not. Why would any decent partner force her when she clearly wasn't ready. Ajeeb.

Recovery and healing mandates a safe space, which he created for her. That's why it was so easy for her to reveal everything so easily when her past triggered her.

But the timeline and right to that conversation and that reveal had to Akshara's and hers only. The onus to reveal or not reveal her struggles was on Akshara. Had to be her choice and on her preferred time. If that time was NEVER, then nobody has the right to force it out of her or bother her about it.

Anybody trying to force their spouse's trauma out of their system or accelerate someone else's trauma processing and healing because of their own concern can never be considered a good partner.

It’s not about acceleration or forcing anything, when someone around is going through emotional trauma, the least a friend can do is try and talk to them after giving them space and time. 6 years is enough space and time but neither Akshara shared anything with Abhinav nor Abhinav bothered to speak to her?

what kind of great relationship and great husband is that?

Originally posted by: Anu234

Abhimanyu still loved that guitar wali only or jam wali. Infact abhimanyu even loved the songs which that that guitar vali played toh yeh sab toh kehna hi na 😂

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Isme kya hai ! Pyar andha gunga behra sab kuch hota hai 🤣 Newspaper mai kai baar padha hai ki zyada padhe likhe logo ko chaiwale se/ panipuriwale se/ sabjiwale se/ apne driver se pyar ho gaya😂😂😂 Abhimanyu ko toh fir bhi guitarwali/jamwali se pyar hua 🤣🤣🤣

2nd marriage ke baad woh sab chodke jam buisness shuru kiya.

Jab abhimanyu ko pyaar hua she had a better and stable career. Sangath ka asar. 😆

Originally posted by: NomadicWonders

It’s not about acceleration or forcing anything, when someone around is going through emotional trauma, the least a friend can do is try and talk to them after giving them space and time. 6 years is enough space and time but neither Akshara shared anything with Abhinav nor Abhinav bothered to speak to her?

what kind of great relationship and great husband is that?

As I understood from whatever was shown is that yes AK was going through trauma phase till Abhir was born. But after he was born the child took all their priority and time.There was no time for AK to even dwell over her trauma. Whatever small clips we see that the Sharmas got busy and content with theirselves. And that is what happens mostly in any family with young children. And here AK got a very loving Dad in AbhiN and a trustworthy dependable partner in AbhiN. So there was no need to discuss the past trauma. The producer never showed that AK was smiling in front of AbhiN and crying alone when he was not around. So we accept that she was happy and AbhiM's treatment went to her backburner. Could she ever completely forget the past ?Most people cannot forget the past they had and also the trauma he gave her.

She got reminded of the trauma the day she saw AbhiM first in Kasauli. I do not see any fakeness in the life she led in Kasauli.

She had a very peaceful and happy life away from toxicity in Kasauli .Though I loved AbhiM and AK pair in the beginning of the season, I am unwilling to be blinded by their attraction and intense love phase that I will completely disregard AK-s post leap happy life.

I believe people should move on if they get a chance after having a traumatic end to previous relationship. Move on does not mean that they have forgotten the past. Move on means that they do not want to be stuck in the past. And I completely support it if the past has scarred you for life .

Originally posted by: Aashiqanafan

As I understood from whatever was shown is that yes AK was going through trauma phase till Abhir was born. But after he was born the child took all their priority and time.There was no time for AK to even dwell over her trauma. Whatever small clips we see that the Sharmas got busy and content with theirselves. And that is what happens mostly in any family with young children. And here AK got a very loving Dad in AbhiN and a trustworthy dependable partner in AbhiN. So there was no need to discuss the past trauma. The producer never showed that AK was smiling in front of AbhiN and crying alone when he was not around. So we accept that she was happy and AbhiM's treatment went to her backburner. Could she ever completely forget the past ?Most people cannot forget the past they had and also the trauma he gave her.

She got reminded of the trauma the day she saw AbhiM first in Kasauli. I do not see any fakeness in the life she led in Kasauli.

She had a very peaceful and happy life away from toxicity in Kasauli .Though I loved AbhiM and AK pair in the beginning of the season, I am unwilling to be blinded by their attraction and intense love phase that I will completely disregard AK-s post leap happy life.

I believe people should move on if they get a chance after having a traumatic end to previous relationship. Move on does not mean that they have forgotten the past. Move on means that they do not want to be stuck in the past. And I completely support it if the past has scarred you for life .

Even if we forget the last 6 years, her pain and trauma got triggered the moment she met Abhi in Kasauli!!!

Even after that, the husband wife never discussed anything about her past!!!

If you love a person, the tiniest of matter bothers you!! Here abhinav was cool and didn't think much about Akshara's pain, nor did he confront her about her past!!!

He was so engrossed in himself that his wife, his love suffering didn't bother him.

I don't think this is a sign of healthy relationship.

Though abhira used to fight and disagree with many things, they knew their core traits, unlike abhinav and Akshara. Abhinav didn't even know that akshara was a singer and a therapist!! Such is the depth of their relationship/marriage/partnership, whatever it is.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

jab pyaar hua tab guitarwali/therapist/singer thi. 😆

2nd marriage ke baad woh sab chodke jam buisness shuru kiya.

Jab abhimanyu ko pyaar hua she had a better and stable career. Sangath ka asar. 😆

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Isliye I don’t encourage aisi koi love stories 😆 Har din newspaper mai dekhne ko milta hai ki pyar kitna andha gunga behra hota hai 😆

Exactly 😆

Originally posted by: JustaFan13

Even if we forget the last 6 years, her pain and trauma got triggered the moment she met Abhi in Kasauli!!!

Even after that, the husband wife never discussed anything about her past!!!

If you love a person, the tiniest of matter bothers you!! Here abhinav was cool and didn't think much about Akshara's pain, nor did he confront her about her past!!!

He was so engrossed in himself that his wife, his love suffering didn't bother him.

I don't think this is a sign of healthy relationship.

Though abhira used to fight and disagree with many things, they knew their core traits, unlike abhinav and Akshara. Abhinav didn't even know that akshara was a singer and a therapist!! Such is the depth of their relationship/marriage/partnership, whatever it is.

Inspite of knowing each others core traits and choosing each other over that, it is their core traits that made AbhiM hate AK (during those days). So what was the benefit of knowing but not able to accept it.

On the contrary AbhiN did not know that AK is a singer (though u have to agree she was no Shreya Ghoshal or Lata Mangeshkar that is even that imp) but it did not hinder him in admiring or trusting AK. Whatever he saw and he knew he was content with their relationship and fulfilled the requirements of the relationship.

And we have to agree that some people do tend to withhold but that does not mean they are living fake life. Her mental trauma was severe and did not want to open the wounds as that meant she will have to relive those. I understand and support her behaviour. AbhiN had no idea of what she who AbhiM was or what was their relationship and I do not think he could have done much anyways other than giving her strength to recover. And he successfully did that.

Originally posted by: Aashiqanafan

Regarding these views I think many other members tried to explain so I will not repeat them. But the part in red caught my eye .

Inspite of knowing each others core traits and choosing each other over that, it is their core traits that made AbhiM hate AK (during those days). So what was the benefit of knowing but not able to accept it.

On the contrary AbhiN did not know that AK is a singer (though u have to agree she was no Shreya Ghoshal or Lata Mangeshkar that is even that imp) but it did not hinder him in admiring or trusting AK. Whatever he saw and he knew he was content with their relationship and fulfilled the requirements of the relationship.

And we have to agree that some people do tend to withhold but that does not mean they are living fake life. Her mental trauma was severe and did not want to open the wounds as that meant she will have to relive those. I understand and support her behaviour. AbhiN had no idea of what she who AbhiM was or what was their relationship and I do not think he could have done much anyways other than giving her strength to recover. And he successfully did that.

Abhi didn't love for her traits, he fell in love with her and after knowing her traits he didn't stop loving her. That's love!!! And you don't try to know about a person, to benifit something from the person or ur relationship, that becomes a transaction then.

That was a simple example. Abhinav knew nothing about her, her relations, her past, her strength, her weakness!!! I know more about my friend whom I don't stay with, than abhinav knows Akshara. That's a big red flag in a relationship. Even being friends, they didn't share anything about each other. Abhir was the only person they shared and loved.

Holding on to trauma and pain is personal, agreed!!! But what she created for herself was a fake world!! She could have stayed friends with abhinav, understood him, and then marry, and eventually they would ve fallen in love. But here she did everything just to hide abhir from Gorillas. And that difference will never make a better human!!! She not only spoilt abhir's life, she spoilt Abhinav's life too.

And coming to abhinav, whatever he did initially, taking her to clinic, helping her with money, was all good. But taking responsibility of a pregnant woman (critical pregnancy) without making any effort to reach her family or friend is the biggest mistake. And then gloating about toofani raat and how he held the baby in his arms for days, negates all the good he did. And when given an offer of becoming a father and filling photo frames, he happily agreed, without blinking an eye. He took care of the child for 6 yrs, because he got the tag of being a father. And in those 6 yrs what strength did he give her When he had no idea about her sufferings??

Wasn't abhir a constant reminder of abhi to Akshara?? And a constant reminder to abhinav that there's someone somewhere who is his real father?? Still they had all the guts to lie to her family and gloat about the superficial happy family!!!

This is one thing that both Akshara and abhinav are cordial, being partners in crime!!