Warning bells for Nav - Page 12

Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

Accepting a woman without even asking her past and not questioning her character because she is pregnant and married her without expectations is what a real and ideal man in real lives……there r soo many people just go divorce after their marriages because of distrust about their past….even of they say we r okay with ur past plz do discuss but they will use that in one way or another in arguments or douth her character….here this man Abhinav did a noble thing….he want her present and future and didn’t want her past and judge her

But its foolish to enter into a life long commitment without finding out about each other and the baggage they carry. In real life such relationships would hardly work! This isn’t romantic or noble in anyway. whether marriage is arranged or love - no one should take decisions in haste like this. Whoever is watching this show please take time to know the person and also his/her background before committing to any relationship!

Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

Really did he not get jealous of abhinav and literally asked him to leave his wife even before abhir’s truth was out…..did he not judge her when she left for curing his hand which is why he is still doctor and was able to win court case for financial reasons

Where exactly? Asking Nav to leave is not jealously or judgement. He was openly challenging that Ak still loves him. How is that jealousy? Did he try to hit Nav or sabotage Navra marriage in anyways?

And judging someone for leaving without a note for a full year is different sort of judgement than character judgment that you were talking about.

Lol, and the fact that he asked Ak to come back to him even knowing she moved on and had kid with another guy shows how little he cares about those things. Like it should be. If you love someone their past obviously doesn't matter to you. But, you should at least know about their past, talk about it, etc.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

What real and ideal man? The writers wrote a trope and you guys fell for it! AA the ideal guy.

But the reality isn't like this. In this day and age, do you really think a woman needs a man to "accept" her? That narrative itself is so regressive. It's not about judgement, it's about understanding each other. Judgement wale days are long gone. Abhi never judged Ak either, right? He showed any jealousy? Anything really? He accepted Nav as friend too.

Bold: He always judged her and her actions and her truth and that is one of the main reason of their incompatibility.

You don't understand that judging someone's character is different than judging someone's choices ?

Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

It happens in real life and people praise them too….have u ever read about rape victims and people who married them…..not an accurate example but there r real men who accept a woman for who she is today not based on past….if they can’t accept based on past them 50% of population will be staying Bachelor or spinsters

I am not saying that a man should judge a woman based on her past and deny marrying her. I am saying it is not realistic for a man to marry a woman without knowing anything about her, especially when she is pregnant. In this case, Abhinav did. And it’s not that he didn’t care, it’s that he never considered about her extensive past. But when he did get to know about it, that did affect him. Which basically nullifies the whole argument about him being oh so noble to blindly love someone.

Originally posted by: DevilsHeart

There are women in my family who have had arranged marriages after getting divorced - they have full support of their families- including in-laws! Nothing was hidden before the wedding from anyone regarding their ex or why previous marriage failed! Whether a woman is pregnant or divorcee - its got nothing to do with her character.

But its foolish to enter into a life long commitment without finding out about each other and the baggage they carry. In real life such relationships would hardly work! This isn’t romantic or noble in anyway. whether marriage is arranged or love - no one should take decisions in haste like this. Whoever is watching this show please take time to know the person and also his/her background before committing to any relationship!

I agree with your point that no girl should choose a partner in haste. Otherwise they can be up for a shock of her life as AK got in her first relationship.

Also, like what is the point of discussing some backwards narrative. Why is marrying a woman with a past considered such a big deal in the first place? He is AA cause he didn't care about her past? That is really regressive in general.

People who marry women who are divorced shouldn't be hailed as best people for doing that. People should marry for love, and the past should just not affect that love in anyways.

I was talking about choices. I did not think about commenting on character judgement as it is not relevant in the serial. No one has been shown to judge anyone's character (AK/AbhiN/AbhiM) . Yes the forum members are judging AKs characters left and right but I do not have any intention to get into that fight.

Exactly! I don’t understand this great thing that Abhinav did which everyone hails! If you ask me, it’s the most stupid decision ever. It was marriage of convenience for Akshara. And a ready-made family for Abhinav. Who cares about first getting to know each other, falling in love, apparently it’s too stereotypical.

Originally posted by: Aashiqanafan

Akshnav did not have any arranged marriage nor was it love. They came together in an adverse situation( fictional ) and then beacme a family.

I agree with your point that no girl should choose a partner in haste. Otherwise they can be up for a shock of her life as AK got in her first relationship.

Yes even in Abhimanyu-Akshara relationship- there wasn’t any significant courtship period - they didn’t fully understand each other and it became worse because of differences in their families. They could have noticed issues earlier and broken up or decided to live away from family.

Although Abhinav-Akshara relationship worked but its not at all advisable to get into a relationship in the way they did - its utterly idiotic! Abhinav should have been told about Akshara’s past, her family - if he is marrying her, she owed him that much! There should have been discussions about what they expect from each other and what they can give to each other. That would have been the realistic and mature way.