Warning bells for Nav - Page 11

Accepting a woman without even asking her past and not questioning her character because she is pregnant and married her without expectations is what a real and ideal man in real lives……there r soo many people just go divorce after their marriages because of distrust about their past….even of they say we r okay with ur past plz do discuss but they will use that in one way or another in arguments or douth her character….here this man Abhinav did a noble thing….he want her present and future and didn’t want her past and judge her

Originally posted by: Aashiqanafan

As I understood from whatever was shown is that yes AK was going through trauma phase till Abhir was born. But after he was born the child took all their priority and time.There was no time for AK to even dwell over her trauma. Whatever small clips we see that the Sharmas got busy and content with theirselves. And that is what happens mostly in any family with young children. And here AK got a very loving Dad in AbhiN and a trustworthy dependable partner in AbhiN. So there was no need to discuss the past trauma. The producer never showed that AK was smiling in front of AbhiN and crying alone when he was not around. So we accept that she was happy and AbhiM's treatment went to her backburner. Could she ever completely forget the past ?Most people cannot forget the past they had and also the trauma he gave her.

She got reminded of the trauma the day she saw AbhiM first in Kasauli. I do not see any fakeness in the life she led in Kasauli.

She had a very peaceful and happy life away from toxicity in Kasauli .Though I loved AbhiM and AK pair in the beginning of the season, I am unwilling to be blinded by their attraction and intense love phase that I will completely disregard AK-s post leap happy life.

I believe people should move on if they get a chance after having a traumatic end to previous relationship. Move on does not mean that they have forgotten the past. Move on means that they do not want to be stuck in the past. And I completely support it if the past has scarred you for life .

Bold 1 above - writers didn’t show it, but there was references to this in Abhinav-Akshara conversation when Abhinav gets to know that Abhimanyu is Akshara’s ex during his first Kasuali visit. And then again when Akshara was lighting a diya for Neil on his birthday, Abhinav said he had seen her light a diya for someone every year, but didn’t ask because he didn’t want to pry.

Bold 2 - I don’t have any problem with move-on and neither with Abhinav. But what they have showed is not move-on definitely not in their 6 years together. Akshara finally decides to move-on after Udaipur track, but more out of spite against Abhimanyu rather than for Abhinav. I just don’t endorse such a move-on, it seems more like rebound.

Originally posted by: Aashiqanafan

Regarding these views I think many other members tried to explain so I will not repeat them. But the part in red caught my eye .

Inspite of knowing each others core traits and choosing each other over that, it is their core traits that made AbhiM hate AK (during those days). So what was the benefit of knowing but not able to accept it.

On the contrary AbhiN did not know that AK is a singer (though u have to agree she was no Shreya Ghoshal or Lata Mangeshkar that is even that imp) but it did not hinder him in admiring or trusting AK. Whatever he saw and he knew he was content with their relationship and fulfilled the requirements of the relationship.

And we have to agree that some people do tend to withhold but that does not mean they are living fake life. Her mental trauma was severe and did not want to open the wounds as that meant she will have to relive those. I understand and support her behaviour. AbhiN had no idea of what she who AbhiM was or what was their relationship and I do not think he could have done much anyways other than giving her strength to recover. And he successfully did that.

Galti mai and jaan leva galti mai fark hota hai. Thode din pehle jo stove knob open reh gaya tha woh bhi jaan leva galti tha. Kismat acchi thi jo ghar ke 4-5 logo ke sath ghar jal nahi gaya warna ek tili kafi thi uss din bhi.

Pyar andha gunga behra sab hota hai isiliye uss jaan leva trait ko dekhne and bhugatne ke baad bhi aj tak uske dil se pehla pyar jata nahi hai and woh pyar itna zyada hai ki uss din ke dekhe hue jaan leva trait par bhi bhari padd jata hai lekin iska matlab yeh nahi ki he was entirely wrong that day or he was not in pain that day.

What i am again saying do whatever you want to do just don't do abhira Milan. If that happened ak will be the most bashed fl(and if she is pregnant than........) She literally called the entire love she got from abhi as umerkaid not just wd. So there is no point going back. If she wanna remarry someone,she can marry someone else but not abhi cause from past 7 months the way she has manhandled abhi, and then going back....... it's just not going down my throat.

What real and ideal man? The writers wrote a trope AA the ideal guy.

But the reality isn't like this. In this day and age, a woman needs a man to "accept" her? That narrative itself is so regressive. It's not about judgement, it's about understanding each other. Judgement wale days are long gone. Abhi never judged Ak either, right? He showed any jealousy? Anything really? He accepted Nav as friend too.

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Originally posted by: Annabethhoney

Accepting a woman without even asking her past and not questioning her character because she is pregnant and married her without expectations is what a real and ideal man in real lives……there r soo many people just go divorce after their marriages because of distrust about their past….even of they say we r okay with ur past plz do discuss but they will use that in one way or another in arguments or douth her character….here this man Abhinav did a noble thing….he want her present and future and didn’t want her past and judge her

@bold1 Really? If Abhinav wasn’t an orphan and wasn’t in love with the idea of a family, he would not have blindly accepted Akshara. In real life, no man would ever accept a pregnant woman who has just gotten divorced without knowing anything about her. It is a very unrealistic, unbelievable thing to do.

@bold2 Then why was he insecure when he got to know about Abhimanyu? Why was he second guessing Akshara’s intention? Why did he think of walking away from his family on multiple occasions? If he is such a noble person, he wouldn’t be crying every 2 seconds worried that his family was going to break. All this is just by knowing the fact that Abhimanyu and Akshara were married, Abhimanyu is a surgeon with a well established career, from a reputed family. He doesn’t even know the kind of love and dreams they once shared with each other. If he got to know about it, his insecurities would have never ended.

He never asked her or questioned her…..he cried and dealt with his own demons but didn’t put them on her or anyone…..if any other man in his place wouldn’t let ex of his wife to stay at his home…..soo showing a normal human with emotions,insecurities, don’t need wife past, loving his family, orphan, middle class man….is a characteristic features of a common real regular man(not reel) which was wrong? That means every regular guy in real is wrong like him

Originally posted by: dotheDrama

@bold1 Really? If Abhinav wasn’t an orphan and wasn’t in love with the idea of a family, he would not have blindly accepted Akshara. In real life, no man would ever accept a pregnant woman who has just gotten divorced without knowing anything about her. It is a very unrealistic, unbelievable thing to do.

@bold2 Then why was he insecure when he got to know about Abhimanyu? Why was he second guessing Akshara’s intention? Why did he think of walking away from his family on multiple occasions? If he is such a noble person, he wouldn’t be crying every 2 seconds worried that his family was going to break. All this is just by knowing the fact that Abhimanyu and Akshara were married, Abhimanyu is a surgeon with a well established career, from a reputed family. He doesn’t even know the kind of love and dreams they once shared with each other. If he got to know about it, his insecurities would have never ended.

It happens in real life and people praise them too….have u ever read about rape victims and people who married them…..not an accurate example but there r real men who accept a woman for who she is today not based on past….if they can’t accept based on past them 50% of population will be staying Bachelor or spinsters

Originally posted by: lagjagale

What real and ideal man? The writers wrote a trope and you guys fell for it! AA the ideal guy.

But the reality isn't like this. In this day and age, do you really think a woman needs a man to "accept" her? That narrative itself is so regressive. It's not about judgement, it's about understanding each other. Judgement wale days are long gone. Abhi never judged Ak either, right? He showed any jealousy? Anything really? He accepted Nav as friend too.

Really did he not get jealous of abhinav and literally asked him to leave his wife even before abhir’s truth was out…..did he not judge her when she left for curing his hand which is why he is still doctor and was able to win court case for financial reasons

Originally posted by: NomadicWonders

Bold 1 above - writers didn’t show it, but there was references to this in Abhinav-Akshara conversation when Abhinav gets to know that Abhimanyu is Akshara’s ex during his first Kasuali visit. And then again when Akshara was lighting a diya for Neil on his birthday, Abhinav said he had seen her light a diya for someone every year, but didn’t ask because he didn’t want to pry.

Bold 2 - I don’t have any problem with move-on and neither with Abhinav. But what they have showed is not move-on definitely not in their 6 years together. Akshara finally decides to move-on after Udaipur track, but more out of spite against Abhimanyu rather than for Abhinav. I just don’t endorse such a move-on, it seems more like rebound.

Red : Did you realize to put forward your point you acknowledged that AK remembered Neil . And there is no truth to the allegation that AK forgot about Neil .

Blue : The 6 yrs was not shown in detail but was shown in a snapshot so we have no way of knowing correctly how much close they were physically. But I ack that they did show wearing Mangalsutra only after the UD trip. For me there is only one reason as producer was not sure whether they want to keep Nav for long time or not. Once they knew that audience liked the Sharmas they went ahead with that family.And that is the reason they had to show the Puja etc after the trip so that they can show Sindoor etc. But this Sindoor and Mangalsutra was for me a sign of acknowledgement to the outsider. From her personal feeling point of view she had accepted AbhiN long time much before that Puja even though their relationship started just because of Abhir .