Why still people ship for toxicity - Page 3

Originally posted by: MiniCupcake

Tqq..and i became strong only because of my parents i dont know what would have happened to me if they r not there..

And yeah i love harshali infact i used to ship pairs like anything ..i want them to end anyways as i cant see them with any other i used to indulge petty fights with frnds 🤣but after wat i went through my perspective changed..i want see reality but in itv it wont happen so atleast i expect genuine redeption of abhi instead of instant maggie noodles abhira reunion but i know it will also wont happen.

In real life i really wish u get good n understanding partner 🥰

Do you watch katha ankahee? You should give a try. It's better than yrkkh and much more sensible. Where ml was guilty for what he did with katha. I really liked his character getting shaped up there.

Originally posted by: Krinya

@#minicupcake more power to you and I applaud your courage to move on with such a relationship. I agree, parents also play a huge part , their support means a lot .

It's quite sad that over the years itv has normalized the problematic behavior ..whether it's the MLs or women wasting wasting time in plotting and planning ..the point Is not how much of it is real ..or whether they must show realistic stories or give moral lessons ...

Itv just like social media and bollywood is a massive medium which reaches out to a wide range of people ...the point here Is "responsible story telling " . There r a lot of impressionable minds who have seen life only through this medium and the little that they see while growing up ..that is school colleges and neighborhood. ...it's undeniable that they get wrong ideas of love and marriage through such stories ..itv also has the power to show progressive content but they hardly do, in the name of entertainment ....tell me for a 6 or 7 yr old what does he / she know of rape ? Only what he's seen on TV and films right ? Similarly what they do know of domestic violence and abuse ?

For eg in katha ankahee on Sony, the ml does something despicable out of his past trauma (which is a ridiculous excuse) ....later when the fl confronts him, she tells him that he is so entitled and egoistic that he can see only his guilt and pain ...I also thot this man can never be redeemed after falling so low but the story is abt that ...he is trying to mend his mistakes , not with thr expectation that he will be forgiven.

Now can't akshu confront the birlas and abhimanyu the same way ? Why can't she see what all of us see and expect her to do? Why can't they redeem their ml in a proper way ? Why can't they show normal scenes between couples ? The precap mandir scene could also be a normal conversation between an ex and a lady who went through immense trauma ...akshu can also reveal the truth abt abhir and still live the way she wants to ...

A mil constant barking on her dil is the only way to get trps? A dil quietly taking all insults is the only way to show a mahaan and respectful bharatiya nari? A man turning into obsessive stalker in love is the only way to unite the couple ? All the people around the leads have to be villains for them to come together ? Koi acha admi hona hi nai chahiye otherwise fl would fall in love with him?

Sorry for the rant but it had to come out

Hey..im silent reader.. i hardly reacts to any post. Today i felt so i did it..i read ur replies in some posts i loved ur way of thinking instead of supporting ships based on chemistry i like ur "calling spade is a spade" approach.

and yeah my blood boiled when manjiri accused akshara for abhis accident. Arey madam have problem even akshu taking breath😡 she is deciding akshu stay in her maternal house. This is too much and i really wanted akshu to give it back but again itv dont want to show strong headed FL. and like to promote regressive content.

And i agree how they show female villans plotting against FL.arey yar is ML is only guy in the world to end up? Who want to live with person who shows no interest in her🙄 in reality hardly it happens bt it may effect teenagers..now they may think it is ok to obsess over person who dont love her/him. Last week i heard news that one guy killed her lover ex boyfriend. They all are below 20 as per my knowledge.. at that age i even dont have guy bestie also as mine is not co education and these girls and boys talking about love, breakup, revenge, murder..im not understanding where society is going😑

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

Do you watch katha ankahee? You should give a try. It's better than yrkkh and much more sensible. Where ml was guilty for what he did with katha. I really liked his character getting shaped up there.

Yeah i like adithi from silsila..one of my fav actress and also fav charcter in itv is mouli so i gave a try.i liked it. Bt as im busy with work and other stuff . I just read updates and if feel like watching even after reading it at that time i will watch.

Am truly sorry for what has happened in your life ; loads of virtual hugs 🤗🤗 but, you are not alone, millions of them around the world are suffering such abuse.

I understand toxicity is triggering to many who are abused, but let us also remember that men are also equally abused in a relationship.

This is ITV and this type of toxic behavior has been going on for years and degraded the TV watching experience itself.

The only thing we can do is stack the episodes and watch or don't watch at all for mental wellbeing. Like many folks, don't take tv serials seriously, enjoy only the actors who perform well, by FFing other parts.

At the same time, let's remember, atleast we have the TV remote or the App to stop watching, however what about those simple small town and rural women who are already abused, but tolerating quietly (most likely there are children) have no control of the remote forced to watch because the family elders watch them. The trigger and trauma is real. And these are mostly the folks giving TRPs.

I don't think the TV channels or Producers and writers understand this without moral or social responsibility whatsoever.

Am sharing again a link which i shared a few days back here. May be you get a perspective answered in this.

Take care 🤗 stay strong 👍🏼

Viji

Originally posted by: Sanju_9

This comment 👌🏽💯🙌🏽📍Thank god atleast some ppl on this forum r in their senses 👍🏽What's worse is even women r shipping this mockery. How many brain cells r required to see who's a better partner for Ak. Just cos someone is d ml so d fl needs to compulsorily end up with him 🤷🏽‍♀️ I'm a fan of HC, especially after I saw his performance in Bepanaah. He was simply phenomenal in that series. But that doesn't imply I've to support every character played by him. Dr. Abhimanyu Birla is an excellent son to Manju, great brother to Neel, okayish popsie to Ruhi (mind he never teaches her right from wrong n bows to all her whims in name of givin laad pyaar), brilliant n responsible doctor to his patients, but a bad husband to Ak.

It's so funny that you mentioned bepannah. Had Aditya from bepanah met abhimanyu from yrkkh, aditya usse dho daalta. He was such a no nonsense sorted character who would have laughed at this amar prem that totally destroyed aksharas respect and confidence. Best role of hc till date

I am so sorry for whatever happened in your past, but I also believe you are stronger for leaving such an abusive person. I hope you are in a better place now. It's never easy giving up on someone you saw your entire future with, but sometimes divorce is the only option.

I respect your choice of staying single, but I also hope you won't let your past govern your future.

I don't only understand, but I can also relate as I was in a similar situation for years. Without going much into detail, I will only say I did learn some of the most crucial lessons through that experience that I probably wouldn't have learned otherwise. We can focus on and keep the lessons and let go of all the hurt and painful memories. Please, don't cry over a person who did not even respect you. You can fall out of love. Just give yourself the chance.

Originally posted by: MiniCupcake

I really dont understand how people are rooting for abhira...

Yeah i know its fictional show and people/youngsters look for chemistry and abhira chemistry is fire

Bt for me its triggering.. im diehard fan of Hc i decided to watch season 3 only becz of Hc and then started liking pranali too loved their chemistry...

Bt doesn't mean i will root for them after watching how abhi treated akshu after neils death

I watched this show on n off so i may missed some parts and i read only updates most of the time..

Bt what i got to know from this forum is akshu too has her share of mistakes

But the way abhi treated akshu is very wrong

Yeah he didnt raise his hand on her bt he abused her..he left her when she need him most.

I faced same in my real life, i had an arranged marriage few years back..he is so love in with me before marriage..i felt im lucky to have him bt after marriage he took me as granted....he abused me he used cuss words when he gets angry..he disrespected me infront of his family and my relatives...yeah he didnt raised his hand but he abused me in all the ways he want..every time when i decide its not gonna work he used to come to me and say i cant live without u..i melted and gave chance again n again n he is mummas boy i never disrespected his parents bt he and his parents disrespected my family many ways. I fed up with everything i cant leave him becz i loved him so much at same time im.unable to bare all these abuses i used to feel im walking on egg shells..and one day it crossed limit he used words which degraded my charcter and in anger be thrown items he found near him..I was done with him..i left his house and im blessed my parents understood my situation they supported me. Still people say he didnt raised hands on u ushould have adjusted but only i know what i went through.. I cried for many days as i really love him bt i know in a relation only love is not important..mutual respect, trust, communication is important, these three are not there in our relation..yeah these three are there but only from one side..from 3 years we are not together i still miss him i still love him but i cant stay with him im happy im my life i no longer needed to walk on egg shells im living my life in my own terms..and after this incident i decided to stay single i dont want any relationships. Cant women stay single..she need a man to complete her life? No i dont think so..

And if a women really want to give second chance in life that is also good..who said love happen only once?

Im happy when sai from ghum lead her life without any man..but its itv so they will make sairat happen bt still i root for single mother sai any day Over sairat

In same way akshu gave chance to abhinav..thats good when no one is there for her he was there.still i feel akshu should have gone to goenkas but she felt even she was wronged by her own family so she left for her own sanity..i know abhira is end game and they will turn abhinav negative r dead but in reality i want akshu move on with abhinav. Abhi with any new girl instead with his saali and they both co parent abhir.

For me mutual respect, trust, transperency, communication is over love any day

And my feeling is if he really loves u then u no need to beg for above..

As a person who was in toxic relation and who is watching itv for some reality finding difficult when seeing itv glorifying toxic relationships and refering them as shiv parvathi...its really triggering😡

I'm glad it did. You beautifully articulated everything that is wrong with desi TV shows and, quiet frankly, desi culture as a whole.

Originally posted by: Krinya

Sorry for the rant but it had to come out

Originally posted by: neenzz

I am so sorry for whatever happened in your past, but I also believe you are stronger for leaving such an abusive person. I hope you are in a better place now. It's never easy giving up on someone you saw your entire future with, but sometimes divorce is the only option.

I respect your choice of staying single, but I also hope you won't let your past govern your future.

I don't only understand, but I can also relate as I was in a similar situation for years. Without going much into detail, I will only say I did learn some of the most crucial lessons through that experience that I probably wouldn't have learned otherwise. We can focus on and keep the lessons and let go of all the hurt and painful memories. Please, don't cry over a person who did not even respect you. You can fall out of love. Just give yourself the chance.

Thank u for ur words🤗 yeah slowly i started focusing on my career which i thought to leave for him n his family.

Now career and parents r my priority🥰 yes its difficult to frgt him bt i will distract myself my focussing on my work. And hopefully i may fall out of love in future. Fingers crossed

Originally posted by: bips

It's so funny that you mentioned bepannah. Had Aditya from bepanah met abhimanyu from yrkkh, aditya usse dho daalta. He was such a no nonsense sorted character who would have laughed at this amar prem that totally destroyed aksharas respect and confidence. Best role of hc till date

I liked adithya too. But itv mls are ruined at some point in order to bring leap. Adithya ka bhi hua tha post which i stopped watching show. Pooja ka phir bhi samajh aya as she did not told him. But what about zoya he knew that guy is mental. But still he let it go.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

same adithya insulted zoya and thrown her away out of his life when zoya was getting harrassed by police. Same adithya ignored pooja when she was pregnant.

I liked adithya too. But itv mls are ruined at some point in order to bring leap. Adithya ka bhi hua tha post which i stopped watching show. Pooja ka phir bhi samajh aya as she did not told him. But what about zoya he knew that guy is mental. But still he let it go.

The roles are completely different. Pooja found her love in someone else and cheated on him and he was going through a lot of trauma yet didn’t treat Zoya the way Abhimanyu treated “the love of his life, his wife” Akshara. I don’t think we can compare these two characters. The only characters who should be compared with Abhimanyu are husbands who love and respect their wives and a great example of that would be Neil from Naamkaran (one of the best male leads ever). He always stood by Avni no matter what even when he had to go against his mom. They brought a leap in that show as well but never butchered his character because he always supported Avni.

ps: since I am a huge HC fan, can he please look like Aditya Hooda rather than Abhimanyu Birla. I feel like out of all his shows, he looked the best in Bepannah and his chemistry with Zoya (JW) was soooo good.